自信法则-询问别人对你的评价

How to be confident?

Ask other people for their opinion on you

It's easy to get trapped in your head, and be convinced all of these flaws that you see are how everyone else sees you.Luckily, it's pretty simple to remedy this self-damaging thought pattern. Go to someone you're close with and ask them what they think of you. Listen to allthe loving things they have to say about you. Listen as they point out all of your awesome¹ points, that they see, rather than the flaws that you see.

Once they've given you their opinion of you, try to understand it. Try to accept it. Try to realise that very few people, if any a tall, are looking at you and seeing these flaws you've identified in your head.They're seeing you when you're not caught up in all this self-damaging monologue². There's a beauty to you that you're often blind to.

 

1 awesome   

adj.令人惊叹的，难得吓人的，很好的

参考例句：

• The church in Ireland has always exercised an awesome power.爱尔兰的教堂一直掌握着令人敬畏的权力。
• That new white convertible is totally awesome.那辆新的白色折篷汽车简直棒极了.

2 monologue   

n.长篇大论，（戏剧等中的）独白

参考例句：

• The comedian gave a long monologue of jokes.喜剧演员讲了一长段由笑话组成的独白。
• He went into a long monologue.他一个人滔滔不绝地讲话。