访谈录 2010-10-01&10-03 老男人的性爱观

There're certain questions that only a man can answer. So we called in our resident¹ man, So he does the best he could.
A nice guy, only one we have to accept for a while never. Donny Deutsh is here to share…Professor Orrin Cory is not available, so here I am. Exactly, our Pee Wee Herman, so we invited Donny, And we call this 'the other view'.
Yes, we do.
We know the view you like. you know, we never kind of …I used to wanna say that I, it means a lot to me, you guys invite me here, all right, I can come and bond² with you guys and share.
You're throwing a very expensive party for Hoda's book, very graceful³!
A party will be at my home, it’s open to the public by the way, so we'll be posting the address.
In truth, we started throwing it together, it got so huge, I said you know I really think this is really Donny's party.
Thank you. Thank you very much.
All right, we’ve people wanna ask you important questions, Sara, what do we have? You’re welcome, Hoda. Pamela, “I think my sex life is good, but always have to be an initiator, should I be worried?”
If she is always initiator, May be.
No, on the one side, you know sometimes people play roles. Sometimes people are more aggressive than other ones. You should tell him, hey you know what, I wanna feel wanted, please I need you once in a while kinda come after me. And if he doesn't respond to that, there are two problems obviously⁴, he is having some attraction issues, and he's also not concerned about your feelings, so you could do very simple test, tell him how you feel. Not great sound, may not be problem, his attitude may be “Hey, I want sexual⁵ time, so I just wait to when you want it”, but do it that way, just say Hey, I like what you come after me, that's it. OK, all rightOK, Lori wants to know she's dating a guy for two months, first one since she got a divorce⁶. When is the right time to introduce him to the kids.
Great question, this is relevant⁷ in my life. You introduce several couple a month.
You know what, But I'm... Ladies and gentlemenAll right, go ahead.
No, that's actually a very serious question. My belief is particularly there is active mom and dad knot⁸ together, nobody is coming to replace him. Kids are resilient, as long as you say it, you know what, this is not gonna be mummies, not gonna be daddies. This somebody that we're going on to date with, and don't set up a new family structure. Kids get it. Kids, you know, I've dated different women since I've been single, my kids, my kids are great.They understand something.
Do you always introduce… Not always, I'd wait a while, and it's OK, they are not…you don’t all of a sudden put them in mummy role or daddy, so they never…Nobody can ever substitute⁹ for their mother. Just like when my children's mom starts dating men, they're not gonna be daddy, it's mom's boyfriend or a date. So they're not in therapy¹⁰ yet?
They are not, my kids are very healthy guy, they…my kids are great. OK. One more.
Maryann wants to know, she's about to go on a fifth date with a guy she's been seeing. She knows he's ready to sleep with her but she doesn't want it to be too soon, or him to think she is easy.
You can never wait too long. Guys want to wait. If you really like a woman, you want to wait. And if he…make it ten dates, 11 dates, 12 dates, he will wait. do it when you're ready.
What’s the longest you’ve ever waited?
I waited a month. Wow. All right, Join us tomorrow, Bye-bye everybody.

1 resident   

a.居住的，居留的；住校的，住院的

参考例句：

• I've been resident in this place for five years. 我已经在这个地方住了五年。
• They engaged a resident tutor. 他们聘用了一名住家的家庭教师。

2 bond   

n.结合，债券，契约，粘合剂，保证人，键，关栈保留；vt.存入关栈，粘着；vi.结合

参考例句：

• This glue makes a good firm bond.这种胶水粘得很结实。
• His word is his bond.他是讲信用的。

3 graceful   

adj.优美的，优雅的；得体的

参考例句：

• His movements on the parallel bars were very graceful.他的双杠动作可帅了!
• The ballet dancer is so graceful.芭蕾舞演员的姿态是如此的优美。

4 obviously   

adv.显然；明白地

参考例句：

• Obviously they were putting him to a severe test.显然他们是在给他以严峻的考验。
• Obviously he was lying.显然他是在撒谎。

5 sexual   

adj.性的，两性的，性别的

参考例句：

• He was a person of gross sexual appetites.他是个性欲旺盛的人。
• It is socially irresponsible to refuse young people advice on sexual matters.拒绝向年轻人提供性方面的建议是对社会不负责任。

6 divorce   

n.离婚；分离；vi.离婚；vt.离婚；脱离

参考例句：

• Did he divorce his wife or did she divorce him?是他要和妻子离婚，还是妻子要和他离婚？
• None of us like the divorce of word and deed.我们都不喜欢言行不一。

7 relevant   

adj.有关的，贴切的

参考例句：

• I don't think his remarks are relevant to our discussion.我认为他的话不切我们的议题。
• These materials are relevant to the case.这些材料与这案件有关。

8 knot   

n.结，难题，一小群；vi.打结；vt. 把...打成结，系牢，捆扎

参考例句：

• He made a knot in the rope.他在绳子上打了个结。
• The knot has come untied.扣儿开了。

9 substitute   

n.代理，代理人，代用品，代替物；vt.代替；vi.替代，取代

参考例句：

• Can you substitute for the singer who is ill?你能替一下那位得了病的歌手吗？
• Yogurt is a perfectly acceptable substitute for cream in cooking.酸奶是烹饪用的特别受欢迎的奶油替代品。

10 therapy   

n.治疗；疗法

参考例句：

• The doctor said she should be given a physical therapy.医生说她应该进行理疗。
• She will need to have the therapy repeated every few months.她将需要每隔几个月就进行一次治疗。