如何愉快地度好蜜月?

We have seen the bridezillas who lose it, planning for their over-the-top weddings. As nuptials¹ get bigger, even more lavish², it seems a letdown after the big celebration is getting bigger as well. For one in ten new spouses³, the letdown after the ceremony is so severe it develops into what is known as post-wedding depression. Are we creating a generation of brides who cannot recover from their wedding day?

It's a dream of many little girls that someday her prince will come.

Is the bill here?

Yeah…

But the war of wedding planning can drive some brides to the extreme.

OK, can we get going?

And the search for wedding perfection can push others over the edge, transforming them into bridezillas, like the over-the-top TV show.

That's not funny!

Some are stressed, some are serene⁴, but the pressure to create that flawless day can be daunting⁵.

Planning a wedding and getting married is both the best time and also the most stressful and, and, and in many ways the worst time as well.

Marnie Hinze got married three months ago inside a Comte Cape⁶ chord church with over a hundred guests. As the sound of bagpipes escorted her down the aisle⁸, it was a picture-perfect ceremony. After the wedding, Marnie and her new husband, Mark, flew off for their long-awaited fantasy trip to the Caribbean.

That the honeymoon⁹ was fabulous¹⁰, and really relaxing and fun and perfect, just like the wedding.

But once the honeymoon was over, Marnie emotionally crashed.

I felt bad because it was over, and now real life was starting and I had to think about kids and buying a house and all of the major things that come after. One gets married and that was kind of scary.

Marnie fell into a post-wedding depression, a condition afflicting¹¹ one in ten new spouses. After spending a year or more focusing on one day, the letdown, once that day is over, can lead to confusion, frustration¹² and for some, clinical depression.

I mean I didn't really understand why she felt that way. (See you later..) You know, it bothered me cause I thought it was something wrong that I was causing her to be differently sad or depressed¹³.

Everybody's telling you, "You should be having fun... this is the best time in your life, you know, before you have kids, enjoy it, live it up". And l felt like what's wrong with me that I feel like this.


1.nuptials:n. marriage ceremony, wedding

2.serene:adj. tranquil¹⁴, calm, peaceful, quiet; supreme¹⁵, royal; clear, cloudless 宁静的, 安详的, 沉著的

3.bagpipe:n. wind instrument 风笛

4.clinical depression:a state of depression and anhedonia so severe as to require clinical intervention

1 nuptials   

n.婚礼；婚礼( nuptial的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Their nuptials were performed by the local priest. 他们的婚礼由当地牧师主持。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• If he married, when the nuptials would take place, and under what circumstances? 如果他结婚，那么什么时候举行婚礼？在什么情况下举行婚礼？ 来自辞典例句

2 lavish   

adj.无节制的；浪费的；vt.慷慨地给予，挥霍

参考例句：

• He despised people who were lavish with their praises.他看不起那些阿谀奉承的人。
• The sets and costumes are lavish.布景和服装极尽奢华。

3 spouses   

n.配偶，夫或妻( spouse的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Jobs are available for spouses on campus and in the community. 校园里和社区里有配偶可做的工作。 来自辞典例句
• An astonishing number of spouses-most particularly in the upper-income brackets-have no close notion of their husbands'paychecks. 相当大一部分妇女——特别在高收入阶层——并不很了解他们丈夫的薪金。 来自辞典例句

4 serene   

adj. 安详的，宁静的，平静的

参考例句：

• He has entered the serene autumn of his life.他已进入了美好的中年时期。
• He didn't speak much,he just smiled with that serene smile of his.他话不多，只是脸上露出他招牌式的淡定的微笑。

5 daunting   

adj.使人畏缩的

参考例句：

• They were faced with the daunting task of restoring the house.他们面临着修复房子的艰巨任务。
• Starting a new job can be a daunting prospect.开始一项新工作有时会让人望而却步。

6 cape   

n.海角，岬；披肩，短披风

参考例句：

• I long for a trip to the Cape of Good Hope.我渴望到好望角去旅行。
• She was wearing a cape over her dress.她在外套上披着一件披肩。

7 bagpipes   

n.风笛；风笛( bagpipe的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Yes, and I'm also learning to play the bagpipes. 是的，我也想学习吹风笛。 来自超越目标英语 第3册
• Mr. Vinegar took the bagpipes and the piper led the cow away. 于是醋溜先生拿过了风笛，风笛手牵走了奶牛。 来自互联网

8 aisle   

n.（教堂、教室、戏院等里的）过道，通道

参考例句：

• The aisle was crammed with people.过道上挤满了人。
• The girl ushered me along the aisle to my seat.引座小姐带领我沿着通道到我的座位上去。

9 honeymoon   

n.蜜月（假期）；vi.度蜜月

参考例句：

• While on honeymoon in Bali,she learned to scuba dive.她在巴厘岛度蜜月时学会了带水肺潜水。
• The happy pair are leaving for their honeymoon.这幸福的一对就要去度蜜月了。

10 fabulous   

adj.极好的；极为巨大的；寓言中的，传说中的

参考例句：

• We had a fabulous time at the party.我们在晚会上玩得很痛快。
• This is a fabulous sum of money.这是一笔巨款。

11 afflicting   

痛苦的

参考例句：

• Violent crime is only one of the maladies afflicting modern society. 暴力犯罪仅仅是困扰现代社会的严重问题之一。
• Violent crime is only one of the maladies afflicting modern society. 暴力犯罪仅仅是危害社会的弊病之一。

12 frustration   

n.挫折，失败，失效，落空

参考例句：

• He had to fight back tears of frustration.他不得不强忍住失意的泪水。
• He beat his hands on the steering wheel in frustration.他沮丧地用手打了几下方向盘。

13 depressed   

adj.沮丧的，抑郁的，不景气的，萧条的

参考例句：

• When he was depressed,he felt utterly divorced from reality.他心情沮丧时就感到完全脱离了现实。
• His mother was depressed by the sad news.这个坏消息使他的母亲意志消沉。

14 tranquil   

adj. 安静的, 宁静的, 稳定的, 不变的

参考例句：

• The boy disturbed the tranquil surface of the pond with a stick. 那男孩用棍子打破了平静的池面。
• The tranquil beauty of the village scenery is unique. 这乡村景色的宁静是绝无仅有的。

15 supreme   

adj.极度的，最重要的；至高的，最高的

参考例句：

• It was the supreme moment in his life.那是他一生中最重要的时刻。
• He handed up the indictment to the supreme court.他把起诉书送交最高法院。