【英语趣味课堂】男人哭了-Men Cry

Vella: So Daniel, we're talking about emotions and let's talk about emotions in men. Do you think it's OK for men to cry?

Daniel: Well, I do think it's all right. There's nothing wrong about it. If you want to cry, if you're sad, if you are angry, if you are disappointed, I think it's normal. The normal reaction would be to cry but unfortunately there is a huge stigma¹ attached to men crying. For some people it is a big issue. For me, personally, it isn't.

 

Vella: I agree a hundred per cent with you. For me personally, I think it's totally OK for guys to cry.

 

Daniel: Hm, hm.

 

Vella: But I think it's in my culture, Indonesian, it's really uncommon² to, you know, for guys to show this emotional expression when they cry. For example when, even when you're little, if you cry in the classroom and when you are a guy and if you cry, people are just going to make fun of you and they're going to start laughing and calling you names.

 

Daniel: I know totally. It's the same in Chile actually. Well, I was raised in a really, really strong kind of macho culture. I mean crying was a sign of weakness so boys were not, I mean I can say, were not allowed to cry, right, because of, because of the whole macho thing and you have to be a man, you have to be brave so you're not supposed to cry. But now I think it's, kids shouldn't be, well they shouldn't be encouraged to cry but they should be told that it's all right. I mean it's a natural reaction and you have to show your feelings so I think if you want to cry, if you're sad and if you want to cry, you should just do it but there's nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

Vella: I think that's just how it is inside or they expect men to be macho and masculine³ and I think showing tears kind of takes away a lot of masculine, like masculinity⁴ out of men.

 

Daniel: I think it's more masculine just to assume that you are sad and you are showing it. You're not afraid to show your emotions. I think that's more valuable, that's more, I mean I'm a boy and because I cry that doesn't make me less of a man. I mean, I'm a man and therefore, I don't know because I'm a man, I can show my expressions and I'm not afraid of it. I don't know, that's what I think.

 

重点词汇：

 

Learn Vocabulary from the lesson

stigma

 

Unfortunately, there is a large stigma attached to men crying.

 

 If there is 'stigma' attached to an activity, doing it brings social disgrace⁵ or humiliation⁶. It is not accepted. Notice the following:

 

In my country, there is not longer the same stigma attached to living with someone before you are married.

There is a social stigma to having a job like that.

call someone names

 

 

If you're a guy and you cry in the classroom, people are going to start calling you names.

 

When you 'call someone names,' you say bad things about that person that are usually not true.  Notice the following:

 

He used to get called names a lot when he was a child, but now he is very popular.

Tom, don't call your sister names.

macho

 

I think they expect men to be macho.

 

A man who is 'macho' fits the stereotype⁷ of a very masculine man who doesn't show emotions. Notice the following:

 

He is so macho that I never thought he would be interested in learning how to sew.

All of their boys are very macho.

masculinity

 

I think showing tears kind of takes a lot of masculinity out of men.

 

A man's 'masculinity' is his maleness, or characteristics that are associated with males. Notice the following:

 

Does being a stay-at-home dad take away from your sense of masculinity.

He lost the hard edge of masculinity when he became a father.

less of a man

 

Because I cry that doesn't make me less of a man.

 

A man could be considered 'less of a man' if he doesn't act in a masculine way or does something that is thought to be feminine⁸. Notice the following:

 

He was worried that people would think of him as less of a man if he became a nurse.

I think of him as less of a man now that I know what a coward⁹ he is.

1 stigma   

n.耻辱，污名；(花的)柱头

参考例句：

• Being an unmarried mother used to carry a social stigma.做未婚母亲在社会上曾是不光彩的事。
• The stigma of losing weighed heavily on the team.失败的耻辱让整个队伍压力沉重。

2 uncommon   

adj.罕见的，非凡的，不平常的

参考例句：

• Such attitudes were not at all uncommon thirty years ago.这些看法在30年前很常见。
• Phil has uncommon intelligence.菲尔智力超群。

3 masculine   

adj.男性的，男子的，男子气的

参考例句：

• She has a rather masculine voice.她的声音有点男性化。
• The ceremony is exclusively masculine.典礼上清一色的全是男人。

4 masculinity   

n.男子气慨

参考例句：

• He felt it was a threat to his masculinity.他觉得这对他的男子气概是一种威胁。
• Football is a bastion of masculinity in this area.在该地区足球是男子汉的天地。

5 disgrace   

n.耻辱，不光彩，丢脸的人（或事）；vt.使丢脸

参考例句：

• You will bring disgrace on yourself by doing this.你这样做会给自己带来耻辱。
• He is a disgrace to our school.他是我们学校的耻辱。

6 humiliation   

n.羞辱

参考例句：

• He suffered the humiliation of being forced to ask for his cards.他蒙受了被迫要求辞职的羞辱。
• He will wish to revenge his humiliation in last Season's Final.他会为在上个季度的决赛中所受的耻辱而报复的。

7 stereotype   

n.固定的形象，陈规，老套，旧框框

参考例句：

• He's my stereotype of a schoolteacher.他是我心目中的典型教师。
• There's always been a stereotype about successful businessmen.人们对于成功商人一直都有一种固定印象。

8 feminine   

adj.女性的，女子气的

参考例句：

• He has a very feminine voice.他的声音非常像女人。
• She was a very feminine person.她是个很有女性气质的人。

9 coward   

n.懦夫，胆小鬼

参考例句：

• The newspapers had unjustly labelled him as a coward.那家报纸不公正地称他为懦夫。
• I was basically a dreadful coward.从根本上说，我非常胆小怕事。