精美英文欣赏:交际面面观 Levels of Communication(4)

Levels of Communication 4

交际面面观

Emotional communication: involves sharing our emotions and feelings with another. We are sharing our inner-self when we allow others to know our heart. This is risky¹ business! Societies place constraints² upon the specific emotions (e.g., It's good to express love; it's bad to express hatred). We also have rules about when and how feelings can be expressed ("That was the wrong time and place for arguing with your wife.")

情感交流：主要是和另一个人分享我们的情感和感觉。当我想向其他人打开心门，我们会经常分享自己的真实感受，可是这是有风险的事！社会场合对情感表达是有限制的（比如，你可以表达美好的爱但是却不能表达憎恶）。我们也被限定了说真心话的时间和说的方式（在社交场合和你的妻子争论是不合时宜的”）。

eg: I deeply appreciate your thoughtfulness and generosity³ in helping⁴ me earlier.

我非常感谢您之前对我的体贴和慷慨的帮助。

I'm so frustrated⁵ with you!

我对你感到很失望！

I wish that I hadn't called you that name. I hope that you'll forgive me.

要是当初我没有叫您的名字就好了。望您能原谅我。

He called me! I'm so excited to see him again!

他跟我打招呼！我为再次与他碰面感到兴奋！

The greater the need to communicate our feelings, the harder it is to do. Indeed, sharing our opinions and emotions is risky business. We minimize the risk when we move through the levels of communication step by step. That is, each conversation ought to begin with phatic communication and move through the levels before moving to the more intimate levels.

越想通过语言传达我们的感情就越困难。事实上，分享我们的观点和表达我们的情感是件有风险的事。当我们循序渐进地通过不同层次的交流时，我们就能最大程度地降低风险。这就是说，每次对话应该首先从简单的寒暄一步步递进到更亲密的层次。

Generally, we communicate at the same level. There is a social convention to match levels. If the other starts a conversation at the evaluative level, we often feel compelled to respond similarly.

大体来说，我们交流都在同一水平上。按照社会惯例来匹配不同水平。如果对方开始了一次评价性的交流，那么我们经常感到不得不作出相同的回应。

1 risky   

adj.有风险的，冒险的

参考例句：

• It may be risky but we will chance it anyhow.这可能有危险，但我们无论如何要冒一冒险。
• He is well aware how risky this investment is.他心里对这项投资的风险十分清楚。

2 constraints   

强制( constraint的名词复数 )； 限制； 约束

参考例句：

• Data and constraints can easily be changed to test theories. 信息库中的数据和限制条件可以轻易地改变以检验假设。 来自英汉非文学 - 科学史
• What are the constraints that each of these imply for any design? 这每种产品的要求和约束对于设计意味着什么？ 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓

3 generosity   

n.大度，慷慨，慷慨的行为

参考例句：

• We should match their generosity with our own.我们应该像他们一样慷慨大方。
• We adore them for their generosity.我们钦佩他们的慷慨。

4 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。

5 frustrated   

adj.挫败的，失意的，泄气的v.使不成功( frustrate的过去式和过去分词 )；挫败；使受挫折；令人沮丧

参考例句：

• It's very easy to get frustrated in this job. 这个工作很容易令人懊恼。
• The bad weather frustrated all our hopes of going out. 恶劣的天气破坏了我们出行的愿望。 来自《简明英汉词典》