美国文化脱口秀 第327期:中美追女生的区别

 美国人纠结男追女还是女追男吗？美国人初次约会都干吗？美国人怎么界定恋爱？婚车婚房重要吗？今天我们聊聊这些重要的感情问题。

关键词：

“追”英语怎么说？

Court a girl: 这是古代的说法

Pursue a girl: 这个也比较古典、比较书面

Go after a girl: 这个可以说，但不太常用，感觉比较像尾随、缠着别人

I'm interested in a girl: 这个很口语、很自然

To ask a girl out: 约女生、追女生，这个也很自然

She hasn't given me the time of day: 她还没理我

美国人怎么看女追男？

In general, Chinese think girls should be reserved and shouldn't take the first step: 中国人一般觉得女生应该矜持，不要主动

Some American girls think that way too: 也有美国女生这样认为

A lot of American girls will give guys a hint which makes them in turn ask them out: 美国女生会暗示男生，让男的主动追她们

Hint: 暗示

Some will directly ask a guy out: 也有女生会直接约男生出去

中美追女生的区别

美国人约会去干嘛？

It's all pretty natural when it's starting out: 初期阶段都比较自然

They try to keep it casual at first and won't officially say that it's a date: 双方会比较放松，不会说是跟你出去约会

Keep it low pressure: 这样没什么压力

They won't say "would you like to go on a date with me?" 约人的时候不会用"date"这个词，因为这样会有压力

They will just say "Would you like to grab¹ a coffee with me?""Let's check out a show": 他们会说去喝个咖啡、看个演出、展览这样的活动

They will plan a date activity to do something, rather than just a meal: 约会通常是会去做一个事，一个活动，不是就吃顿饭

This way you can slowly get to know each other:这样大家可以比较自然地慢慢地了解

When a man is going after a woman, he needs to climb over a mountain：男追女，隔重山

When a woman is going after a man, he might think she's too eager：女追男，隔层纱

Eager: 热忱、积极

We think if the girl takes the first step, the guy might not appreciate her as much and might take her for granted: 我们觉得如果女生主动，男的可能比较不会那么珍惜你，会不把你当回事儿

Play hard to get: 做出比较难追的样子

Nice guys finish last: 好人倒霉

A game of push and pull: 忽冷忽热、有进有退

不要想太多

We think if a guy asks a girl out, it's pretty much a date: 我们觉得如果一个男生约女生出去，那基本上这是个约会

There is something between them and they should try to go out a few more times to explore things: 他们之间有些特别的感觉, 应该继续约出去，发展看看

American guys think even if it is a date, it means I'm interested in knowing you, but you shouldn't read too much into it: 美国男生觉得就算是一次约会，这代表我想认识你，但是不要想太多

Don't think too much of it/don't read too much into it: 不要想太多

谁付钱？

American guys will generally pay on the first date: 基本上初次约会，美国男生会买单

If he doesn't even offer to pay, it means he's cheap: 如果他不付，那你遇到了铁公鸡

A guy needs to at least offer to pay: 至少要意思一下

Or maybe he's hinting that you he's not interested anymore: 他不买单的另一种可能，是暗示他已经没兴趣了

But a guy is not expected to pay beyond the first few dates: 但是男生几次约会后，不会再一直买单

有车有房重要吗？

Gotta have a house and a car: 要有房有车

Entry ticket: 门票

Materialistic: 物质的

Hopeless romantic: 无药可救的浪漫主义者

Some Americans want to settle down, buy a house and build a family: 有些美国人结婚就想安定下来、买个房、安家立业

But many have different ideas and don't want to be tied down to a mortgage: 但是很多人不想被贷款捆住

There just isn't the same level of cultural pressure to buy a house before you get married: 总之就是没有那么大的文化压力让你买婚房

1 grab   

vt./n.攫取，抓取；vi.攫取，抓住(at)

参考例句：

• It is rude to grab a seat.抢占座位是不礼貌的。
• The thief made a grab at my bag but I pushed him away.贼想抢我的手提包，但被我推开了。