时尚英语话题 33

　　33 Trust
Are you quick to trust others? If you are, chances are you haven’t been burned. By “burned”, I’m talking about having a bad experience with trusting others. If you take someone into your confidence¹, and you trust him with a secret, and he tells someone else that secret, and you find out. Well, you’ve been burned. Say you have a kind of emotional² scar³. Since the relationship has been hurt, in extreme⁴ cases you might even say the bridge has been burned between you and your friend.
This happens to people lots of times. It even happened to me before. I trusted a close friend with a secret, but he violated⁵ my trust and told someone else. After I found out about what he did, our friendship was never the same again. Well, I hope you haven’t had a lot of bad experiences when it comes to trusting others. I also hope you have a lot of friends you can trust, and a lot of friends that trust you. But I was thinking about gaining someone’s trust, it’s not that easy like building a bridge or relationship. You make small promises and keep them, and the trust grows. As the trust grows, you can make bigger and bigger promises. And if you keep on keeping your word, well, the trust keeps on growing.
Talk about it:
Have you ever been burned? Are you the type of person who rushes into a trusting relationship? What kind of things do you do to show you are trust worthy⁶? Have you ever burned a bridge unintentionally, and found that it takes a long, long time to repair the relationship? Are you good at keeping secrets? Do people know that they can trust you? Do you believe that a man is as good as his word? What can you do to earn a person’s trust? 

1 confidence   

n.信任，信托，自信，信心，把握，大胆，厚颜，过于自信，狂妄

参考例句：

• We have full confidence in our victory.我们有必胜的把握。
• I should like to exchange a few words with you in confidence.我想私下和你交换点意见。

2 emotional   

adj.令人动情的；易动感情的；感情(上)的

参考例句：

• Emotional people don't stop to calculate.感情容易冲动的人做事往往不加考虑。
• This is an emotional scene in the play.这是剧中动人的一幕。

3 scar   

n.伤疤，伤痕，创伤

参考例句：

• This scar is from the bite of a dog.这是狗咬后留下的伤疤。
• The tragedy left a scar on her mind.这个悲剧给她造成精神上的创伤。

4 extreme   

adj.末端的，尽头的；极度的，极端的；n.极度，最大程度

参考例句：

• She lived on the extreme edge of the forest.她住在森林的最边缘。
• His views are rather extreme.他的见解相当偏激。

5 violated   

亵渎( violate的过去式和过去分词 )； 违反； 侵犯； 强奸

参考例句：

• Note that thick, strong angles of tibia are not violated. 注意肥厚、结实的胫骨成角部分未受损坏。
• The soldiers violated the church by using it as a stable. 士兵们把教堂当马厩，亵渎了教堂。

6 worthy   

adj.(of)值得的，配得上的；有价值的

参考例句：

• I did not esteem him to be worthy of trust.我认为他不值得信赖。
• There occurred nothing that was worthy to be mentioned.没有值得一提的事发生。