英文原版对话1000个:1219 Men Cry

 　　Vella: So Daniel, we're talking about emotions and let's talk about emotions in men. Do you think it's OK for men to cry?

 

　　Daniel: Well, I do think it's all right. There's nothing wrong about it. If you want to cry, if you're sad, if you are angry, if you are disappointed, I think it's normal. The normal reaction would be to cry but unfortunately there is a huge stigma¹ attached to men crying. For some people it is a big issue. For me, personally, it isn't.

 

　　Vella: I agree a hundred per cent with you. For me personally, I think it's totally OK for guys to cry.

 

　　Daniel: Hm, hm.

 

　　Vella: But I think it's in my culture, Indonesian, it's really uncommon² to, you know, for guys to show this emotional expression when they cry. For example when, even when you're little, if you cry in the classroom and when you are a guy and if you cry, people are just going to make fun of you and they're going to start laughing and calling you names.

 

　　Daniel: I know totally. It's the same in Chile actually. Well, I was raised in a really, really strong kind of macho culture. I mean crying was a sign of weakness so boys were not, I mean I can say, were not allowed to cry, right, because of, because of the whole macho thing and you have to be a man, you have to be brave so you're not supposed to cry. But now I think it's, kids shouldn't be, well they shouldn't be encouraged to cry but they should be told that it's all right. I mean it's a natural reaction and you have to show your feelings so I think if you want to cry, if you're sad and if you want to cry, you should just do it but there's nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

　　Vella: I think that's just how it is inside or they expect men to be macho and masculine³ and I think showing tears kind of takes away a lot of masculine, like masculinity⁴ out of men.

 

　　Daniel: I think it's more masculine just to assume that you are sad and you are showing it. You're not afraid to show your emotions. I think that's more valuable, that's more, I mean I'm a boy and because I cry that doesn't make me less of a man. I mean, I'm a man and therefore, I don't know because I'm a man, I can show my expressions and I'm not afraid of it. I don't know, that's what I think.

1 stigma   

n.耻辱，污名；(花的)柱头

参考例句：

• Being an unmarried mother used to carry a social stigma.做未婚母亲在社会上曾是不光彩的事。
• The stigma of losing weighed heavily on the team.失败的耻辱让整个队伍压力沉重。

2 uncommon   

adj.罕见的，非凡的，不平常的

参考例句：

• Such attitudes were not at all uncommon thirty years ago.这些看法在30年前很常见。
• Phil has uncommon intelligence.菲尔智力超群。

3 masculine   

adj.男性的，男子的，男子气的

参考例句：

• She has a rather masculine voice.她的声音有点男性化。
• The ceremony is exclusively masculine.典礼上清一色的全是男人。

4 masculinity   

n.男子气慨

参考例句：

• He felt it was a threat to his masculinity.他觉得这对他的男子气概是一种威胁。
• Football is a bastion of masculinity in this area.在该地区足球是男子汉的天地。