豆知识 2010-07-18&07-24 恋人约会谁埋单？

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a Life and Relationship Coach, and owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. 

 

 

 

In this clip¹, we'll talk about who should pay on a date. Well, everybody kind of assumes² that the guy is going to pay on the first date, and he should, but if a woman asks the guy out, and she wants to be the dominant³ in the relationship, then maybe she should pay for the first date.

 

 

 

But as you start to date, and you're spending more time together, do a reality check about the balance of the relationship. If you're dating somebody who's making a lot more money than you do, then they can pick up a lot more checks. But if it's a balanced financial situation, then it doesn't hurt to pick up a check here and there, or pick up smaller things. 

 

 

 

The guy should get the bigger things like dinner, but you could get dessert, or maybe, you know, if you go to get ice cream afterwards, or if you go to the movies, you can pay for the movies. So sharing the finances⁴ really does help a relationship, if the financial situations are pretty much balanced.

 

 

 

So let the man be the man. Let him get the checks in the beginning, but then show him that you appreciate him, and that you're not taking advantage of him, by contributing⁵ too. 

 

 

 

This is Donna Barnes, Life and Dating Coach, in New York City.

1 clip   

n.夹子，别针，弹夹，片断；vt.夹住，修剪

参考例句：

• May I clip out the report on my performance?我能把报道我的文章剪下来吗？
• She fastened the papers together with a paper clip.她用曲别针把文件别在一起。

2 assumes   

取得（权力）( assume的第三人称单数 )； 假设； 假定； 呈现

参考例句：

• The motion of matter always assumes certain forms. 物质的运动总是表现为一定的形式。
• It is usually the woman who assumes overall care of the baby. 通常由女性负责照顾孩子的方方面面。

3 dominant   

adj.支配的，统治的；占优势的；显性的；n.主因，要素，主要的人(或物)；显性基因

参考例句：

• The British were formerly dominant in India.英国人从前统治印度。
• She was a dominant figure in the French film industry.她在法国电影界是个举足轻重的人物。

4 finances   

n.(pl.)财源，资产

参考例句：

• I need a professional to sort out my finances. 我需要专业人士为我管理财务。
• The company's finances are looking a bIt'shaky. 这个公司的财政情况看来有点不稳定。

5 contributing   

贡献的，起作用的

参考例句：

• Thank you for contributing generously to the scholarship fund. 谢谢你为奖学金基金慷慨捐款。
• Several factors have been credited with contributing to the reduction in inflation. 有好几种因素有助于遏制通货膨胀。 来自英汉非文学 - 政府文件