英语悠选脱口秀 第138期:10个信号决定他就是你等的人(上)

 讲解

Today’s key word is decide.

decide d-e-c-i-d-e

决定 决心

If you decide to do something, you choose to do it, usually after you think about the other possibilities.

Here is an example:

We decided¹ to have a show called Ayoenglish last year!

我们去年决定做一档节目叫做A-yo English.

We all have to make lots of decisions every day.

For example, when to get up; what to eat for breakfast; and should I go to the gym?

这些决定有的简单有的难，今天我们要说的决定，是一个非常难的决定。也是非常重要的决定。

So how do you know when you are with the right person?

You're supposed to just KNOW it.

But...how do you know?

I think it's true that to some degree, you will just know. You will know because you can feel it.

But still there are some signs that can help you confirm² that you are with the right person.

There isn't a for-sure thing.

But these can definitely³ help you make a conclusion(结论).

Here are 10 signs that you are with the right person.

1. You spend time together doing things you both enjoy.

听说过很多的人会为了自己的另一半儿选择自己不太喜欢的活动。

But when you are with the right person, you are able to do things together and actually like what you're doing.

两个对的人在一起，一定会有共同的兴趣。任何一个人单方面的牺牲都是不健康的。

You are not able to like every single thing your partner likes, but for all of your hobbies there should be more similarities⁴ than differences.

2. You are able to spend time apart.

再相爱的两个人也不可能每时每刻都黏在一起。学会留下适当的空间也很重要。

There's no harm in seeing what your partner is up to, but that doesn't mean watching their every step and asking them where they are, who they're with, where they're going next, and when they'll be back.

Enjoy your time apart as much as you can enjoy your time together. It's called balance.

3. You want to be together.

如果你不想和这个人呆在一个空间里 then why are you with them in the first place?

You should be looking forward to seeing them. 

There are times when you won't be able to see them for a while or for a certain long period of time.

It's still important that when you finally get the chance to see each other, you want to. 

4. You can maintain⁵ your own identity⁶.

When you are in a relationship, it doesn't mean that you need to change who you are for them.

适当的妥协可以理解，但一段爱情并不需要任何一方改变自己的所有。

如果他总是要求你改变，甚至要求你放弃喜欢的东西，那请问他爱的是你？还是他想象中的人？

Like the things you liked before, laugh at the same kind of jokes.

Maybe you prefer to stay at home and read a book, or maybe you like going out as well.

Whatever makes you you... don't lose it.

5. You don't argue to win but to try and solve problems.

争论吵架在所难免，但争论的目的是为了解决问题不是无理取闹。

When people argue, their original goal is to reach an agreement.

Don't let your arguments turn into fights where someone has to win.

下期节目中呢我们一起来聊聊后面五个标志，如果你有什么更好的看法留言告诉我们吧。

下次见哈

1 decided   

adj.决定了的，坚决的；明显的，明确的

参考例句：

• This gave them a decided advantage over their opponents.这使他们比对手具有明显的优势。
• There is a decided difference between British and Chinese way of greeting.英国人和中国人打招呼的方式有很明显的区别。

2 confirm   

vt.证实；确认；v.确认

参考例句：

• I'll call you back to confirm.我会给你回电话确认的。
• I need to confirm my reservation on the next flight.我要确认我预订的下一个航班。

3 definitely   

adv.一定地，肯定地；明确地，确切地

参考例句：

• The team will definitely lose if he doesn't play.如果他不参加比赛，这个队肯定会输。
• I shall definitely be home before six o'clock.6点以前，我一定回家。

4 similarities   

[ similarity ]的复数形式； 类似( similarity的名词复数 )； 相像性； 相仿性； 类似性

参考例句：

• similarities between human and non-human animals 人和其他动物之间的相似之处
• The panel shows marked similarities with mosaics found elsewhere. 这块嵌板和在其他地方找到的镶嵌图案有明显的相似之处。

5 maintain   

vt.支撑；赡养，抚养；维持，保有

参考例句：

• He has to maintain a large family on a small salary.他不得不依靠很少的工资养活一家人。
• We must do our best to maintain sales at their usual rate.我们要尽力使销售额保持在平日的水平上。

6 identity   

n.身份，本体，特征；同一(性)，一致

参考例句：

• He never revealed his identity.他从未暴露过自己的身份。
• He showed his identity card and went in.他把工作证亮了一下就进去了。