如何成为最有魅力的人？

     有没有吸引力并不取决于你赚多少钱，也不取决于你的老爸是谁。而且，这完全不取决于你是否长得像汤姆·克鲁斯或者他的妻子凯蒂·赫尔姆斯。这仅仅取决于一些简单的细节，像汤姆·克鲁斯一样的人也不一定能办到。而来自任何种族，任何国家，任何背景的人，都能成为世界上最有吸引力的人。

    It's not about how much money you make, and it's not about who your daddy is. And no, it's definitely not about whether you look like Tom Cruise or his wife Katie Holmes ... What it is about is these simple things, things that maybe even a person like Tom Cruise does not have.

    And note, we are not necessarily talking about sexual (male attract female) things here. We're talking about being attractive in general, whether it's on a job interview or just gaining the respect of your colleagues . . .

    Ask lots of questionsIn other words, be humble¹. If you come across as a know-it-all (even if you really do know it all!), it really pushes people away. Rather, asking lots and lots of questions (even dumb ones) makes people feel like you care, you can be trusted, and you are... humble.

    Great postureHave you ever seen a potentially very attractive person, but they have terrible posture²? It's all ruined, isn't it? Or perhaps you have seen someone who perhaps could be quite ugly but they have great posture and so suddenly they are really attractive? It's true. Your posture says a lot about you - it says whether you have confidence, or simply if you really care. Talking physically³, it is one of the most important physical characteristics you need!

    Walk like you mean itWalk with an attitude. Walk like you know where you're going, and do so with good posture. Walk like you'll run over anyone who even attempts to hassle you. If you walk like this, you'll be spotted⁴ from a mile away.

    Stay busyDo you really know the power of this? We're told to stay busy to ward⁵ off depression and feelings of anxiety. But did you know you should also stay busy to be really attractive? It's true. Always have something to do. Have you ever seen someone just sitting around, doing nothing? How unattractive. Always be busy with something, even if for some reason you have to make something up.

    Show your pearly whites (or just smile)Smile more, no matter how ugly your teeth are. I'm not kidding about this one. It's not all about the teeth. If you are smiling genuinely, you can draw everyone for 100 meters around to you.

    Keep your lips smoothMoisturize your lips. It's hard to even look someone in the face if their lips are cracked and dry. And it's hard to believe that they really care about anything. That's just the way we humans think. So for cryin' out loud carry around a tube of chap stick around with you ... they're only like a buck⁶ a pop, and they'll last you a while even if you put it on as regularly as I am eluding⁷ to! And no, women, it's not necessarily about the lipstick⁸ (although, yes, there is a time and place for it) ... it's more about the simple, natural beauty of supple⁹ lips. Caution! Don't put so much on that it's just scary, however. But I didn't need to tell you that, right?

    Wear what fitsWear clothing that fits you. Too tight, people are distracted. Too loose, you just look sloppy¹⁰. For women, wearing tight pants or shirts is not attractive. If you've got it, don't flaunt¹¹ it - it ruins it for your man (there are a few things best left to the imagination, honey). Loose, slightly clingy or drapey things are best, or else things that just fit you and your shape well but not tight. Men, us women with taste and style really don't know why some guys think their pants sagging¹² down is somehow attractive. It's not! And neither is huge, wide leg pants. Both just tell us you don't really care. You're following the crowd. Wear things that fit you nicely, please . . . And for goodness sake, both sexes, stay away from logos and printed shirts! Most people you may ask do not find this attractive. Stop being some company's billboard¹³, and show us you.

    Be interested in other manBe interested in the other person. Again, ask them questions. Don't talk about yourself ... remove attention from yourself. If you are genuinely interested in the person, it will come across. And if you want to talk about yourself, you'll find that putting the other person first actually opens him up to return the favor and ask you questions. See how fun this is?

    Put away inhibitionsOk, there is a time and a place to play shy. But, for the most part, putting away inhibitions makes people feel comfortable around you. Even if you go ahead and do something and totally mess it up, it really makes everyone comfortable around you and want to be around you. People are fragile, especially those who don't put into practice what I'm saying in this article. And so that means they need someone like you to lean on.

    So, yes it is possible to be the most attractive person in the world. If you've noticed the ring throughout the article, it has a lot to do with just being confident in who you are. Nobody needs to look like Tom Cruise or Will Smith or their wives, or anyone else for that matter. Every person, of every race, of every nationality, of every background, can be the most attractive person in the world .

1 humble   

adj.谦卑的，恭顺的；地位低下的；v.降低，贬低

参考例句：

• In my humble opinion,he will win the election.依我拙见，他将在选举中获胜。
• Defeat and failure make people humble.挫折与失败会使人谦卑。

2 posture   

n.姿势，姿态，心态，态度；v.作出某种姿势

参考例句：

• The government adopted an uncompromising posture on the issue of independence.政府在独立这一问题上采取了毫不妥协的态度。
• He tore off his coat and assumed a fighting posture.他脱掉上衣，摆出一副打架的架势。

3 physically   

adj.物质上，体格上，身体上，按自然规律

参考例句：

• He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服，心绪也很乱。
• Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。

4 spotted   

adj.有斑点的，斑纹的，弄污了的

参考例句：

• The milkman selected the spotted cows,from among a herd of two hundred.牛奶商从一群200头牛中选出有斑点的牛。
• Sam's shop stocks short spotted socks.山姆的商店屯积了有斑点的短袜。

5 ward   

n.守卫，监护，病房，行政区，由监护人或法院保护的人（尤指儿童）；vt.守护，躲开

参考例句：

• The hospital has a medical ward and a surgical ward.这家医院有内科病房和外科病房。
• During the evening picnic,I'll carry a torch to ward off the bugs.傍晚野餐时，我要点根火把，抵挡蚊虫。

6 buck   

n.雄鹿，雄兔；v.马离地跳跃

参考例句：

• The boy bent curiously to the skeleton of the buck.这个男孩好奇地弯下身去看鹿的骸骨。
• The female deer attracts the buck with high-pitched sounds.雌鹿以尖声吸引雄鹿。

7 eluding   

v.（尤指机敏地）避开( elude的现在分词 )；逃避；躲避；使达不到

参考例句：

• He saw no way of eluding Featherstone's stupid demand. 费瑟斯通的愚蠢要求使他走投无路。 来自辞典例句
• The fox succeeded in eluding the hunters. 这狐狸成功地避过了猎手。 来自辞典例句

8 lipstick   

n.口红，唇膏

参考例句：

• Taking out her lipstick,she began to paint her lips.她拿出口红，开始往嘴唇上抹。
• Lipstick and hair conditioner are cosmetics.口红和护发素都是化妆品。

9 supple   

adj.柔软的，易弯的，逢迎的，顺从的，灵活的；vt.使柔软，使柔顺，使顺从；vi.变柔软，变柔顺

参考例句：

• She gets along well with people because of her supple nature.她与大家相处很好，因为她的天性柔和。
• He admired the graceful and supple movements of the dancers.他赞扬了舞蹈演员优雅灵巧的舞姿。

10 sloppy   

adj.邋遢的，不整洁的

参考例句：

• If you do such sloppy work again,I promise I'll fail you.要是下次作业你再马马虎虎，我话说在头里，可要给你打不及格了。
• Mother constantly picked at him for being sloppy.母亲不断地批评他懒散。

11 flaunt   

vt.夸耀，夸饰

参考例句：

• His behavior was an outrageous flaunt.他的行为是一种无耻的炫耀。
• Why would you flaunt that on a public forum?为什么你们会在公共论坛大肆炫耀？

12 sagging   

下垂[沉，陷]，松垂，垂度

参考例句：

• The morale of the enemy troops is continuously sagging. 敌军的士气不断低落。
• We are sagging south. 我们的船正离开航线向南漂流。

13 billboard   

n.布告板，揭示栏，广告牌

参考例句：

• He ploughed his energies into his father's billboard business.他把精力投入到父亲的广告牌业务中。
• Billboard spreads will be simpler and more eye-catching.广告牌广告会比较简单且更引人注目。