15条忠告让你的网恋更给力

 　　1. Use common sense and pay attention to your gut¹ reaction. This is often the Holy Spirit in you, warning you that things may not be right.

　　运用常识，相信直觉。这是你内心的真正感受，会提醒你事情是不是有点不对劲了。

　　2. If he or she sounds too good to be true, he or she probably is to good to be true and isn’t being truthful² on his or her profile.

　　如果对方好得有点不真实了，那么就应该质疑一下他/她的身份的真实性了。

　　3. Listen and watch (by video) for signs of a temper, control, etc. and run for the hills if you sense this person needs therapy first. You aren't going to change him or her. Let the person get help.

　　听一听，看一看(通过视频)对方的性格脾气。如果你觉得这个人有点不太正常，那就赶紧撤吧。你可没必要去改变他/她，让他/她自己想办法吧。

　　4. Use a free email account with family name and something else. This way a person cannot search all your personal details.

　　用你的姓氏开通一个免费的电子邮箱，防止别人来搜索你的个人信息。

　　5. Ask for a RECENT picture and encourage the person to send candid³ shots for more realism. You don't want major surprises when you meet. Awkward!

　　问对方要一张他/她的近照，最好是生活照，这样更真实。你也不想在见面的时候，对方是恐龙或青蛙吧，见光死啊！

　　6. If anyone asks for money, do not give it. Most likely you are being scammed.

　　如果对方问你要钱，千万别给！十有八九是来骗钱的。

　　7. Don't reveal details of your personal life too soon and be careful what you reveal.

　　别太快把自己的生活细节泄露给对方，多留意自己都说了些什么。

　　8. Paid services usually have more safety and screening procedures than free.

　　付费的婚恋网站往往比免费的更安全，审核程序也更严格。

　　9. If you do have a home phone, don't give out the number. Use your cell phone.

　　不要给对方家庭电话，给他/她手机号码就行。

　　10. Some people have a great deal of social awkwardness at meeting others. If you meet and it feels awkward, you may want to give it another chance to see if the person settles down and is interesting.

　　有些人在面对陌生人时会很紧张，表现糟糕。如果对方在见面时是这样的，再给他/她一次机会，看看对方的人品怎样，是不是风趣幽默。

　　11. Meet in a public space the first time.

　　第一次见面安排在公共场所。

　　12. Don't use a provocative⁴ handle to get interest. The interest you get is not the kind of interest you want.

　　不要用轻佻的言行引起对方的兴趣，这样激起的兴趣不是你想要的那种。

　　13. Don't go into questionable⁵ chat rooms.

　　不要进那些有问题的聊天室。

　　14. Use Skype (and other visual media) to actually see each other if the relationship progresses. You get more information when you can observe nonverbal behavior.

　　如果你们的关系有所进展的话，用Skype等视频聊天工具面对面地交流，你可以从非语言的行为中获得更多的信息。

　　15. Think about how your photos may be used. Once you send them to the cyberspace⁶, people can use them however they want. And get permission from any person who might be in a photo with you. Better yet, crop that person out of the photo. It violates his or her privacy.

　　慎用照片。一旦你把照片上传到网络，人们就可以任意使用它了。如果是与别人一起的合照，要事先征求对方意见，要不然就直接把别人从照片上裁掉，不要泄露别人的隐私。

1 gut   

n.[pl.]胆量；内脏；adj.本能的；vt.取出内脏

参考例句：

• It is not always necessary to gut the fish prior to freezing.冷冻鱼之前并不总是需要先把内脏掏空。
• My immediate gut feeling was to refuse.我本能的直接反应是拒绝。

2 truthful   

adj.真实的，说实话的，诚实的

参考例句：

• You can count on him for a truthful report of the accident.你放心，他会对事故作出如实的报告的。
• I don't think you are being entirely truthful.我认为你并没全讲真话。

3 candid   

adj.公正的，正直的；坦率的

参考例句：

• I cannot but hope the candid reader will give some allowance for it.我只有希望公正的读者多少包涵一些。
• He is quite candid with his friends.他对朋友相当坦诚。

4 provocative   

adj.挑衅的，煽动的，刺激的，挑逗的

参考例句：

• She wore a very provocative dress.她穿了一件非常性感的裙子。
• His provocative words only fueled the argument further.他的挑衅性讲话只能使争论进一步激化。

5 questionable   

adj.可疑的，有问题的

参考例句：

• There are still a few questionable points in the case.这个案件还有几个疑点。
• Your argument is based on a set of questionable assumptions.你的论证建立在一套有问题的假设上。

6 cyberspace   

n.虚拟信息空间，网络空间，计算机化世界

参考例句：

• She travels in cyberspace by sending messages to friends around the world.她利用电子空间给世界各地的朋友们发送信件。
• The teens spend more time in cyberspace than in the real world of friends and family.青少年花费在电脑上的时间比他们和真正的朋友及家人在一起的时间要多。