不再和别人比较的8大好心态

 　　Awareness¹.Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we're doing it. It's a natural act, I suppose, and as a result it's something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout² for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it'll be hard not to notice.

　　注意它。我们经常没有意识到这种比较的发生，我认为这是自然行为，这是由于有些行为是无意识的。所以解决办法是注意它，有意识的留意这种思想出现时的意识变化。如果坚持一段时间注意这种意识的变化，那么想不注意都不行了，也就容易实践了。

　　Stop yourself.Once you realize you're doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don't berate³ yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.

　　管住自己：当你意识到自己在进行这种比较时，请自己停下来。不要责备自己或感觉不好，只要意识到自己的想法，并温和的转移注意力就可以了。

　　Count your blessings⁴.A better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don't. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.

　　珍惜你所拥有的。一个更好的办法是看看自己所拥有的，而不是总去想那些自己没有的。想想你是多么幸运的拥有了这一切，出现在你生命中珍惜你的和值得你珍惜的人。

　　Focus on your strengths.Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don't brag⁵, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.

　　重视自己的优点。多注意自己的优点，而不是一直看到弱点。庆幸你所拥有的优点，为此而自豪！不要骄傲，但可以运用这些优点在工作和生活中做得更加出色。

　　Be OK with imperfection.No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. You aren't perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I've learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don't think you'll ever be the "perfect person". If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.

　　释怀那些不完美。事实上，我们都知道没有人是完美的，但是情感上当没有达到完美时我们会感觉不好。你不完美，而且永远也不会完美，我当然也是，但我学会了释怀那些不完美。当然，继续努力，但不要总想着你永远不会完美这件事。如果你能从另一个角度看待它，其实是这些缺点让你成为今天的你，这本身就是完美的。

　　Don't knock others down.Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part.

　　不要打击别人。有时我们会通过批评别人的方式来使自己感觉更好，这种做法是极具破坏性的，这将使你得罪一个人而非得到一个朋友，最后，只是伤害了自己。相反，我们应该在别人取得成绩时支持他，这也会使你得到更大的满足。

　　Focus on the journey.Don't focus on how you rank in comparison to others — life is not a competition. It's a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That's all you need to worry about.

　　注重过程。不要在意你在比较中的排名，生活不是竞赛，而是一段旅程。我们都在生活中寻找，努力，学习，创造。别人所拥有和取得的对我们自己的旅程都不重要，自己想要做什么或想去哪才是最重要的，这才是生活要考虑和关注的问题。

　　Learn to love enough.If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That's an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own (seven, in the case of one famous candidate), no matter how many fancy cars you acquire … you'll never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. You have enough. Anything you have over and above that — and let's admit that all of us reading this blog have more than that — is more than enough. Be good with that, and you'll find contentment.

学会享受满足。如果你总是想要别人的东西，那永远也不会满足，你总是想要更多，这是一个无休止的循环，你永远也不会快乐。无论你买多少衣服，有多少房产，有多少靓车，你都不会满足。相反，去看看自己所拥有的，如果你有一个可遮风挡雨的小窝，丰衣足食，爱着你的人，那么你很幸运。你拥有的已经足够了，让我们承认能够读到这篇博文你拥有的已经是非常幸运了。享受这一切，你会更加满足。

1 awareness   

n.意识，觉悟，懂事，明智

参考例句：

• There is a general awareness that smoking is harmful.人们普遍认识到吸烟有害健康。
• Environmental awareness has increased over the years.这些年来人们的环境意识增强了。

2 lookout   

n.注意，前途，瞭望台

参考例句：

• You can see everything around from the lookout.从了望台上你可以看清周围的一切。
• It's a bad lookout for the company if interest rates don't come down.如果利率降不下来，公司的前景可就不妙了。

3 berate   

v.训斥，猛烈责骂

参考例句：

• He feared she would berate him for his forgetfulness.他担心，由于健忘又要挨她的训斥了。
• She might have taken the opportunity to berate scientists for their closed minds.她也可能会去利用这个机会斥责那些抱成见的科学家。

4 blessings   

n.（上帝的）祝福( blessing的名词复数 )；好事；福分；因祸得福

参考例句：

• Afflictions are sometimes blessings in disguise. 塞翁失马，焉知非福。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• We don't rely on blessings from Heaven. 我们不靠老天保佑。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》

5 brag   

v./n.吹牛，自夸；adj.第一流的

参考例句：

• He made brag of his skill.他夸耀自己技术高明。
• His wealth is his brag.他夸张他的财富。