双语：五招教你搞定专横老板

 　　专横的老板，甚至大多数人，都不喜欢被“临时通知”。“因此，任何重大的，甚至相对不重要的进展，都要及时告诉他们。他们渴望控制与权力，既然如此，那就给他们一点信息，满足他们的渴望。”

　　1.Limit the pain, target the gain.Recognize that working for this person is "a temporary assignment. You can set limits on how long you'll tolerate it, and use the time to make yourself more marketable." Let's say you decide you can take one more year of this (assuming your boss sticks around that long). "If you figure out what you need to get out of the job to help your career, and go after it, you have a positive incentive¹ to serve out that term," Dufour says.

　　1.限制痛苦，瞄准收益。却认为这个人工作只是“一项临时任务。你可以设定一个能够忍受这项任务的极限。并且，利用好这段时间，让自己将来更吃香。”比如说，你决定可以再忍受一年(假设你老板的任期有那么长)。杜福尔表示：“你需要从这份工作中收获什么，来为自己的职业发展提供帮助？如果你很清楚这点，那就去努力争取吧。既然你有积极的理由，那么你一定可以坚持到最后。”

　　2.Avoid surprises.Autocrats³, even more than most people, "hate to be blindsided," Dufour notes. "Therefore, keep them informed of significant, and even relatively⁴ insignificant⁵, developments. They crave⁶ control and power, so feeding them tidbits of information satisfies this craving⁷."

　　2.不要“临时通知”。杜福尔指出，专横的老板，甚至大多数人，都不喜欢被“临时通知”。“因此，任何重大的，甚至相对不重要的进展，都要及时告诉他们。他们渴望控制与权力，既然如此，那就给他们一点信息，满足他们的渴望。”

　　3.Be the go-between for your team.If you haven't already taken on this role, Dufour recommends that you earn the trust of other members of your group and be the one who communicates their problems and needs to the boss. "This can be intimidating⁸, since it means telling him things he might not want to hear," Dufour says, "but the tradeoff of elevated status is worth it."

　　3.为你的团队担任中间人的角色。如果你还没能做到这一点，杜福尔建议你，首先获得团队成员的信任，然后向老板传达团队成员的疑问以及他们的需求。杜福尔表示：“或许，这会让你有些担忧，毕竟这意味着，你必须向老板汇报一些他可能不想听的事。但是，这么做对于改善你的处境是有利的，所以值得。”

　　4.Refuse to be a "yes man."Although many people try to appease⁹ an autocrat² by telling him exactly what he wants to hear and following every order to the letter, "this is a huge mistake," Dufour says. Instead, "wait until you're convinced your manager is making a huge mistake" -- one that will jeopardize¹⁰ his own stated goals -- "or until you come up with a better idea that you truly believe in."

　　4.拒绝做“好好先生”。尽管许多人会对专横的老板让步，只挑他喜欢的话说，并且严格地执行他的所有命令，但杜福尔却认为“这是一个重大错误” 。相反，你应该“一直等着，直到你确信，你的老板犯了一个重大错误”——一个将危及他的既定目标的错误——“或者，直到你想出一个更好的主意，并且你对此信心满满。”

　　Then, make a concise¹¹, logical case for your approach: "Emphasize the positive outcome. Focus on what your boss will get out of doing as you suggest." If you've already tried this, keep at it: "Rehearse your argument beforehand and make sure you are stating it clearly and rationally" -- and without a trace of condescension¹² for his (alleged) lack of technical knowledge. Sometimes, of course, it's not what you say that can trip you up, it's how you say it。

　　然后，找出简洁的、符合逻辑的理由来证明你的方法：“强调积极的结果。把重点放在按照你说的做他能获得什么这一点上。”如果你已经做过类似尝试，坚持下去：“事先预演你的论据，并且你要保证，以一种清晰、理性地方式进行陈述”——不要自以为他在技术上懂得没你多，就表现出哪怕是一丝一毫的傲慢态度。有时候，问题并不在于你说的话，而是你说话的方式。

　　5.Do the tasks your boss dislikes.In general, command-and-control bosses "don't enjoy extended debate and discussion, and they aren't adept¹³ at dealing¹⁴ with any type of 'people problem'," Dufour observes. So consider making that your specialty¹⁵ (which will do no harm to your own long-term career prospects¹⁶ either, incidentally).

　　5.做老板不喜欢做的工作。杜福尔发现，总体上而言，指挥+控制型老板“不喜欢耗时太长的辩论和讨论，而且他们也不擅于应付各种‘人的问题’。”所以，你可以考虑把这个变成你的专长(再说，这对你自己的长期职业发展前景也不会造成任何危害。)

　　Helping¹⁷ your boss compensate¹⁸ for his lack of soft skills "won't earn you thanks. In fact, he may resent your ability to do something he can't," notes Dufour. However, even autocrats are rarely so oblivious¹⁹ that they don't know, deep down, that ignoring "people problems" will eventually damage their own professional prospects -- and that, says Dufour, "is one thing they can't stomach."

　　杜福尔表示，补充老板软技能的缺失，“不见得会让他心存感激。实际上，由于你有能力做到他做不到的事情，他可能会对你心存嫉恨。”不过，即便是专制的老板，他们也极少会不知道，忽视“人的问题”最终会损害他们自己的职业发展前景，而杜福尔表示，这是“他们难以忍受的。”

1 incentive   

n.刺激；动力；鼓励；诱因；动机

参考例句：

• Money is still a major incentive in most occupations.在许多职业中，钱仍是主要的鼓励因素。
• He hasn't much incentive to work hard.他没有努力工作的动机。

2 autocrat   

n.独裁者；专横的人

参考例句：

• He was an accomplished politician and a crafty autocrat.他是个有造诣的政治家，也是个狡黠的独裁者。
• The nobles tried to limit the powers of the autocrat without success.贵族企图限制专制君主的权力,但没有成功。

3 autocrats   

n.独裁统治者( autocrat的名词复数 )；独断专行的人

参考例句：

• Still, the widespread pessimism doesn't explain the relatively high scores enjoyed by the autocrats. 不过，普遍的悲观情绪并没有解释为何独裁者得到相对较高的分数。 来自互联网

4 relatively   

adv.比较...地，相对地

参考例句：

• The rabbit is a relatively recent introduction in Australia.兔子是相对较新引入澳大利亚的物种。
• The operation was relatively painless.手术相对来说不痛。

5 insignificant   

adj.无关紧要的，可忽略的，无意义的

参考例句：

• In winter the effect was found to be insignificant.在冬季，这种作用是不明显的。
• This problem was insignificant compared to others she faced.这一问题与她面临的其他问题比较起来算不得什么。

6 crave   

vt.渴望得到，迫切需要，恳求，请求

参考例句：

• Many young children crave attention.许多小孩子渴望得到关心。
• You may be craving for some fresh air.你可能很想呼吸呼吸新鲜空气。

7 craving   

n.渴望,热望

参考例句：

• a craving for chocolate 非常想吃巧克力
• She skipped normal meals to satisfy her craving for chocolate and crisps. 她不吃正餐，以便满足自己吃巧克力和炸薯片的渴望。

8 intimidating   

vt.恐吓，威胁( intimidate的现在分词)

参考例句：

• They were accused of intimidating people into voting for them. 他们被控胁迫选民投他们的票。
• This kind of questioning can be very intimidating to children. 这种问话的方式可能让孩子们非常害怕。

9 appease   

v.安抚，缓和，平息，满足

参考例句：

• He tried to appease the crying child by giving him candy.他试图给那个啼哭的孩子糖果使他不哭。
• The government tried to appease discontented workers.政府试图安抚不满的工人们。

10 jeopardize   

vt.危及，损害

参考例句：

• Overworking can jeopardize your health.工作过量可能会危及你的健康。
• If you are rude to the boss it may jeopardize your chances of success.如果你对上司无礼，那就可能断送你成功的机会。

11 concise   

adj.简洁的，简明的

参考例句：

• The explanation in this dictionary is concise and to the point.这部词典里的释义简明扼要。
• I gave a concise answer about this.我对于此事给了一个简要的答复。

12 condescension   

n.自以为高人一等，贬低(别人)

参考例句：

• His politeness smacks of condescension. 他的客气带有屈尊俯就的意味。
• Despite its condescension toward the Bennet family, the letter begins to allay Elizabeth's prejudice against Darcy. 尽管这封信对班纳特家的态度很高傲，但它开始消除伊丽莎白对达西的偏见。

13 adept   

adj.老练的，精通的

参考例句：

• When it comes to photography,I'm not an adept.要说照相，我不是内行。
• He was highly adept at avoiding trouble.他十分善于避开麻烦。

14 dealing   

n.经商方法，待人态度

参考例句：

• This store has an excellent reputation for fair dealing.该商店因买卖公道而享有极高的声誉。
• His fair dealing earned our confidence.他的诚实的行为获得我们的信任。

15 specialty   

n.(speciality)特性，特质；专业，专长

参考例句：

• Shell carvings are a specialty of the town.贝雕是该城的特产。
• His specialty is English literature.他的专业是英国文学。

16 prospects   

n.希望，前途(恒为复数)

参考例句：

• There is a mood of pessimism in the company about future job prospects. 公司中有一种对工作前景悲观的情绪。
• They are less sanguine about the company's long-term prospects. 他们对公司的远景不那么乐观。

17 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。

18 compensate   

vt.补偿，赔偿；酬报 vi.弥补；补偿；抵消

参考例句：

• She used her good looks to compensate her lack of intelligence. 她利用她漂亮的外表来弥补智力的不足。
• Nothing can compensate for the loss of one's health. 一个人失去了键康是不可弥补的。

19 oblivious   

adj.易忘的，遗忘的，忘却的，健忘的

参考例句：

• Mother has become quite oblivious after the illness.这次病后，妈妈变得特别健忘。
• He was quite oblivious of the danger.他完全没有察觉到危险。