教你应对那些“讨厌的人”

 　　教你应对那些“讨厌的人”

If you're someone who aspires¹ to something beyond the ordinary, youmust have figured out by now that there will always be those whoare jealous or resentful of your success。

　　如果你想不走寻常路，做出些非凡的成就，那你就要明白总有那么一些人会对你的成就心生嫉妒与怨恨。

　　It doesn't matter that you've worked long and hard to get where youare, nor that you've made great sacrifices in achieving your goals.The "haters" will always find a reason to criticize and evencondemn you。

　　无论你工作有多努力，或者你做出了多大的牺牲才获得了现在的成就，那些“恨你的人”总能找到理由来批评你，甚至诋毁你。

　　They're spiteful people who begrudge² you the pride you have inyourself and the recognition you're receiving from others. Theycan't stand it that you're happy, fulfilled and achieving yourgoals。

　　对你心生不满的人看不惯你对自我的肯定，也见不得你得到别人的认可。他们无法忍受你的快乐、满足和成功。

　　These hateful individuals are unwilling³ to do the work that you'vedone; they rarely make the same kinds of sacrifices or put in thelong, hard hours. They resent your success but are too lazy orspoiled to invest real time or energy in the pursuit of their owngoals。

　　这些嫉恨你的人不愿意去做你所做过的事，不愿意同你一样做出牺牲，也不愿意花时间心血去工作，他们只是嫉妒你的成功，却永远懒得去花时间和力气去完成自己的目标。

　　It's true that we aren't always going to succeed in our ventures,even if we put in the time and effort. Results are never guaranteedand life has a way of throwing curve balls at us。

　　诚然，有时候即使我们付出了时间和努力，也未必能成功。谁也不能保证生活会是一帆风顺的，有时，它也会跟你打个擦边球。

　　I loved it when Tina Fey went up to collect her Golden Globe andheld it high, saying, "This is for all the haters!" She's a goodexample of a talented, hard-working and successful person who'sreceived an inordinate⁴ amount of negative press. Ms. Fey may bebesieged by haters but she refuses to let them get to her。

　　我喜欢蒂娜––-菲在金球奖领奖时说过的话，她把奖杯高高举起，说道，“感谢那些讨厌我的人！”蒂娜就是富有天赋、工作努力而且获得成功的好例子，同时，她也收到了无数负面抨击，但她从未让这些流言蜚语影响到自己。

　　The thing you need to know about these haters is that the onlyreason they behave this way is that you have something they wantbut they aren't willing to work for it. idzxl0719

　　你只要记住：这些嫉恨你的人，他们讨厌你的唯一理由就是他们想得到你所得到的，却不愿意付出你所付出的。

　　The haters are convinced that you've been lucky or that you've hadsome unfair advantage but the truth is that your success is born ofyour untiring efforts, and it's these efforts that have broughtabout your "luck."

　　讨厌你的人总觉得你只不过是运气好而已，或者你走了后门，但事实是，你是通过自己的不懈努力才做出了成绩，这些努力才是你的“好运”所在。

　　The best way to deal with haters is what I call the "one-twopunch." First, don't let them phase you. Be happy about yoursuccess and proud of your accomplishments⁵. Let in the approval andthe recognition from affirming, supportive people and never doubtthat you deserve all this. The haters are angry, jealous people.What they think or say is ultimately meaningless。

　　对付嫉恨你的人的最好办法就是下面这套“组合拳”。第一，别让他们影响到你。尽情地为自己取得的成功而感到高兴和自豪吧，和那些欣赏你、赞美你、支持你的人在一起，不要怀疑，这些是你应得的。讨厌你的人都是善妒易怒的人，别去管他们说了什么，无论他们说什么，都不重要。

　　Next, the more the haters harass⁶ you, the more you should bemotivated to succeed. They want to undermine you but your responseshould be to work that much harder in order to increase your levelof success。

　　第二，那些人越是欺负你、骚扰你，你就越要积极地去获得成功。对付那些贬损你的招数，你的回应就是更加努力工作，取得更大的成就。

　　When your reaction to their hostility⁷ has inspired you to achievefurther success, you've transformed the haters' negativity intofuel for your creative fires. Not only can they not hurt you butthey've inadvertently spurred you on to even greater heights。

　　你对待敌意的方式会激励你取得更大的成就，到时，嫉恨者的恶言恶语就会转变成熊熊烈火帮助你创造出更大的辉煌。这些欺负你的人再也伤不了你，反而会鞭策你更上一层楼。

1 aspires   

v.渴望，追求( aspire的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• The fame to which he aspires was beyond his reach. 他追求的名誉乃是他所不能及的。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• An old steed in the stable still aspires to gallop a thousand li. 老骥伏枥，志在千里。 来自《简明英汉词典》

2 begrudge   

vt.吝啬，羡慕

参考例句：

• I begrudge spending so much money on train fares.我舍不得把这么多钱花在火车票上。
• We should not begrudge our neighbour's richness.我们不应该嫉妒邻人的富有。

3 unwilling   

adj.不情愿的

参考例句：

• The natives were unwilling to be bent by colonial power.土著居民不愿受殖民势力的摆布。
• His tightfisted employer was unwilling to give him a raise.他那吝啬的雇主不肯给他加薪。

4 inordinate   

adj.无节制的；过度的

参考例句：

• The idea of this gave me inordinate pleasure.我想到这一点感到非常高兴。
• James hints that his heroine's demands on life are inordinate.詹姆斯暗示他的女主人公对于人生过于苛求。

5 accomplishments   

n.造诣；完成( accomplishment的名词复数 )；技能；成绩；成就

参考例句：

• It was one of the President's greatest accomplishments. 那是总统最伟大的成就之一。
• Among her accomplishments were sewing,cooking,playing the piano and dancing. 她的才能包括缝纫、烹调、弹钢琴和跳舞。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》

6 harass   

vt.使烦恼，折磨，骚扰

参考例句：

• Our mission is to harass the landing of the main Japaness expeditionary force.我们的任务是骚乱日本远征军主力的登陆。
• They received the order to harass the enemy's rear.他们接到骚扰敌人后方的命令。

7 hostility   

n.敌对，敌意；抵制［pl.］交战，战争

参考例句：

• There is open hostility between the two leaders.两位领导人表现出公开的敌意。
• His hostility to your plan is well known.他对你的计划所持的敌意是众所周知的。