无畏单身！明星作家们的30条单身金石良言

 　　My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude¹. - Warsan Shire

　　我一个人感觉很不错，只有你的陪伴比我的独处更甜蜜，我才会需要你。——沃森·赛尔

　　Too many women throw themselves into romance² because they’re afraid of being single, then start making compromises³ and losing their identity⁴. I won’t do that. - Julie Delpy

　　很多女人因为害怕单身而逼自己恋爱，然后就开始妥协，失去个性。我是不会那样做的。——朱丽·德尔比

　　Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with. - Sex and the City

　　以前，单身说明你没人要。现在，单身说明你很性感，说明你正从容不迫地挑选自己想要的生活方式，挑选你想要与之一起生活的人。——《欲望都市》

　　无畏单身！明星作家们的30条单身金石良言

　　Being single is getting over the illusion⁵ that there is somebody out there to complete you and taking charge of your own life. - Omkar Phatakc

　　不要幻想你的真命天子会来填补你的空缺、接管你的生活。真正的单身需要克服这种错觉。——奥姆卡尔·帕塔科

　　If you have to ask someone to change, to tell you they love you, to bring wine to dinner, to call you when they land, you can’t afford to be with them. - Sloane Crosley

　　如果一个人要在你的要求下才会改变、才会说爱你、才会在吃晚饭时带酒、才会在飞机降落后给你打电话，那你们之间的关系是你无法承受的。——斯劳恩·克罗斯利

　　When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings. - Elizabeth Gilbert

　　这些天以来，我孤独的时候会想：孤独就孤独吧，利兹。摸清孤独周围的路，做一张地图，好好跟孤独相处吧，这可是你从来没试过的。欢迎前来体验人生。不要再用别人的身体或感情来填补自己内心的空虚了。——伊利莎白·吉尔伯特

　　Personally, I, Mindy Kaling want to spend like 80 percent of my life hanging out with women. - Mindy Kaling

　　我明迪·卡琳想要用80%的人生和女人一起玩。——明迪·卡琳

　　How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself. - Anais Nin

　　一个女人期望着男人给她建造她理想中的世界，而不是自己亲手创造，这真是大错特错。——阿娜伊斯·宁

　　It seemed to me that the desire to get married – which, I regret to say, I believe is basic and primal⁶ in women – is followed almost immediately by an equally basic and primal urge – which is to be single again. - Nora Ephron

　　在我看来，结婚的渴望是存在于女人最根本的思想当中的，这真是令我深感抱歉，而且这种渴望几乎马上会被一种同样根本的诉求，也就是重新单身，所取代。——诺拉·埃夫龙

　　It is good to be lonely, for being alone is not easy. The fact that something is difficult must be one more reason to do it. - Rilke

　　孤独是好事，因为孤身一人并不容易。一件事很困难也是去做这件事的理由。——里尔克

　　I celebrate myself, and sing myself. - Walt Whitman

　　我为自己欢庆，为自己歌唱。——沃尔特·惠特曼

　　Working long hours being single helps because your time is yours. Once you have a family your time isn’t all yours anymore. Most of the Mac team, we were in our mid-20’s, most of us were single, and we were able to essentially⁷ devote our lives to it. - Andy Hertzfeld

　　争取长时间单身是很好的，因为单身时你的时间就是属于你的。一旦你成家了，你的时间就不再全部属于你了。我们大部分苹果电脑产品团队的成员都是25岁上下，大部分都是单身，所以我们可以全身心地投入工作。——安迪·赫兹菲尔德

　　I love being single. I can come and go as I please and stay out as late as I want to. - Eric Dickerson

　　我喜欢单身。我想来就来想走就走，想多晚回家就多晚回家。——埃里克·迪克森

　　You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial⁸ in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose. - Jo Courdert

　　你不需要别人的爱，至少不是以牺牲自我为代价。单身关系就是与自我相处，是生活中真正重要关系。在你一生认识的人中，唯一永远不会失去的就是你自己。——乔·库尔德

　　If we seek paradise⁹ outside ourselves, we cannot have paradise in our hearts. - Thomas Merton

　　如果我们在自我之外寻找乐土，那我们的内心就不会拥有乐土。——托马斯·默顿

　　Now I’m feeling how I should. Never knew single could feel this good. - Jason Derulo

　　现在我知道我该怎么做了，我以前从不知道单身也能让我感觉怎么好。——杰森·德鲁罗

　　I really enjoy being single again. I spent a lot of time in a relationship and the nearer we came to the end, the more difficult it got. You don’t see things clearly as long as you’re still involved. - Dido Armstrong

　　重回单身真的让我很享受。我在一段感情中花了很多时间，越临近结束，这段感情就越艰难。旁观者清，当局者迷啊。——蒂朵·阿姆斯特朗

　　I think, therefore I’m single. - Liz Winston

　　我思，故我单身。——莉兹.温斯特

　　Marriage is the only adventure open to the cowardly. - Voltaire

　　婚姻是唯一对懦弱之人开放的冒险。——伏尔泰

　　We did not come to remain whole.

　　We came to lose our leaves like the trees,

　　Trees that start again. - Robert Bly

　　我们来不是为全身而退，

　　我们来是为了像树一样落叶，

　　像树一样重新开始。——伯特·布莱

　　No human being can really understand another, and no one can arrange another’s happiness. - Graham Greene

　　没有人可以真正地理解他人，没有人可以安排他人的幸福。——格雷厄姆·格林

　　To love blindly is to love selfishly, because the goal of such love is not the real advantage of the beloved¹⁰ but only the exercise of love in our own souls. - Thomas Merton

　　盲目的爱是自私的，因为这种爱不是出于为对方着想，而仅仅只是自我灵魂所做的爱情练习。——托马斯·默顿

　　I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude. - Henry David Thoreau

　　我从没找到过比“独处”更好相处的伴侣。——亨利·戴维·梭罗

　　I regard romantic comedies as a subgenre of sci-fi, in which the world operates according to different rules than my regular human world. - Mindy Kaling

　　我把爱情喜剧看作是不入流的科幻，那里的世界用着和正常人类世界不一样的规则。——明迪·卡琳

　　Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go. - Hermann Hesse

　　有的人认为坚持会让我们变得更强大，但有时候放手才会让我们变得更强大。——赫尔曼·黑塞

　　I like being single, I’m always there when I need me. - Art Leo

　　我喜欢单身，在我需要的时候我自己总会在我身边。——阿尔特·雷欧

　　Discover why you’re important, then refuse to settle for anyone who doesn’t completely agree. - Fisher Amelie

　　寻找证明自己重要的理由，然后拒绝和不能完全同意的人在一起。——费希尔·艾米丽

　　I don’t like to be labeled as lonely just because I am alone. - Delta¹¹ Burke

　　我不想只是因为我是独自一人就被贴上孤独的标签。——德尔塔·伯克

　　This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something. - Elizabeth Gilbert

　　心碎是个好兆头，说明我们曾经尝试过。——伊利莎白·吉尔伯特

　　I am a lover¹² without a lover. I am lovely and lonely and I belong deeply to myself. - Warsan Shire

　　我没有爱人，但我拥有爱。我可爱、孤独，我就属于我自己。——沃森·赛尔

1 solitude   

n. 孤独; 独居,荒僻之地,幽静的地方

参考例句：

• People need a chance to reflect on spiritual matters in solitude. 人们需要独处的机会来反思精神上的事情。
• They searched for a place where they could live in solitude. 他们寻找一个可以过隐居生活的地方。

2 romance   

n.恋爱关系，浪漫气氛，爱情小说，传奇

参考例句：

• She wrote a romance about an artist's life in Tokyo.她写了一个关于一位艺术家在东京生活的浪漫故事。
• They tried to rekindle the flames of romance.他们试图重燃爱火。

3 compromises   

n.妥协( compromise的名词复数 )；（名誉等的）损害；妥协（或折中）方案；折中物

参考例句：

• The new design compromises the merits of Chinese and Western styles. 这个新设计融合了中西式的优点。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》
• Again, we may make compromises and fall between two stools. 我们可能再一次采取妥协办法，但结果是两头落空。 来自辞典例句

4 identity   

n.身份，本体，特征；同一(性)，一致

参考例句：

• He never revealed his identity.他从未暴露过自己的身份。
• He showed his identity card and went in.他把工作证亮了一下就进去了。

5 illusion   

n.幻想，错误的观念，错觉，幻觉，假象

参考例句：

• The sun appears to go round the Earth,but it's an illusion.太阳看起来好像绕着地球转，但这只是个错觉。
• They were under the illusion that the company was doing well.他们误以为该公司生意很好。

6 primal   

adj.原始的；最重要的

参考例句：

• Jealousy is a primal emotion.嫉妒是最原始的情感。
• Money was a primal necessity to them.对于他们，钱是主要的需要。

7 essentially   

adv.本质上，实质上，基本上

参考例句：

• Really great men are essentially modest.真正的伟人大都很谦虚。
• She is an essentially selfish person.她本质上是个自私自利的人。

8 crucial   

adj.极重要的，决定性的，关键性的

参考例句：

• It's a crucial decision.这是一个极其重要的决定。
• The foreign market was increasingly crucial.国外市场越来越重要了。

9 paradise   

n.伊甸乐园，天堂

参考例句：

• My house had a small backyard,the paradise of children.我那幢房子有一个小后院，那是孩子们玩耍的乐园。
• On a hot day a dip in the sea is sheer paradise.热天洗个海水澡是十分令人惬意的事。

10 beloved   

adj./n.受爱戴的，敬爱的；爱人，被心爱的人

参考例句：

• She longs for the early return of her beloved.她盼着心上人早日归来。
• She is Tom's beloved wife.她是汤姆的爱妻。

11 delta   

n.（流的）角洲

参考例句：

• He has been to the delta of the Nile.他曾去过尼罗河三角洲。
• The Nile divides at its mouth and forms a delta.尼罗河在河口分岔，形成了一个三角洲。

12 lover   

n.情人，恋人；爱好者

参考例句：

• Every lover sees a thousand graces in the beloved object.情人眼里出西施。
• Mr.Smith was a lover of poetry.史密斯先生是一名诗歌爱好者。