不顺心的时候 我们可以做点什么?(在线收听

   Everyone has periods in their lives when everything seems very hard, when there's nobody to talk to and the mood is just getting worse and worse. But why sit and think how pathetic you are? There are some things that may help you lift up your mood. If it fails you, at least while doing these things you won't have time to think of your problems. You win anyway!

  The first thing you should try is socializingand thinking positively. It's very hard, because usually when we feel depressed we lock ourselves at home and try to think about all the bad character issues we have. But if you'll try to force yourself and call a friend for a cup of coffee, the chances for changing your mood into better are very good. Just try to avoid bad thoughts. Instead, try to think only about the bright side of your life. Don't forget: We are what we think we are.
  You should also try doing something only for yourself, something totally selfish. This could be something you wanted for a long time: maybe a short trip, a coat, a ring or anything that could lift up your mood. This doesn't have to be extravagant nor costly. The point of all this is being good to yourself.
  Not only giving presents to yourself can lift up your mood. Buying things to others may be a perfect way to feel happy. Think of your friends, family, relatives or even local charities,choose one person and give him a gift. It doesn't have to be something expensive nor big. It may be just a little toy to your poor neighbor's child. Making another person feel happy will make you feel good in your heart and mind.
  Renting a good or happy film is always a good idea. Laughter is a very good panacea for all kinds of illness!
  Meeting a positive person should be very useful. Just try to keep your problems off the conversation. The idea here is to get out of your shell and have some interaction. Get involved with someone else and your mind will take a turn as well.
  Most bad moods and mental attitudes are the result of something that had happened to us in the PAST. It is vital to your mind, soul, body and your life on the whole that you stay in the PRESENT with all your thoughts and feelings. Try to concentrate on the present and future to make your life better in every possible way.
  Taking a walk in a crowded place is also one of the ways out. Seeing other people, understanding that each of them also has days like this should force you to do something that would change the situation.
  If you have too much time--volunteer it. We usually think that the problems we have are huge, although if you'll try to go to hospital,you'll see that there are a lot of people who have more severe problems. Moreover, you'll see that people are still working, smiling, and laughing. This kind of work will definitely help you understand that your problems are very small and maybe even funny.
  Try to meditate while listening to relaxation music. It helps to concentrate your mind and relax your body.
  Don't forget to be creative! Because creating things alters our mood. Creating doesn't include only painting or playing an instrument, it also includes cooking, sewing, writing, photographing and many other activities. While concentrating on creating you will forget how you have been feeling.
  All you have to do is to take control of your emotions and make them positive in spite of letting them control you. Making yourself feel better isn't that hard, it's hard only to start doing something that would lift up your mood.
  每一个人在生活当中,都有这样的一个时期:一切事都是那么不顺心,没有人可以交流,心绪变得越来越糟糕。但是,为什么你坐在这儿总是想着自己是多么可怜呢?这里有些方法能帮助你改善自己的心绪。假如这些方法都不起作用,至少,当你在做这些事的时候,你就没有时间来想你的问题。不管怎么样,我们都是赢家!
  首先,你应该融入人群并积极地看问题。这很难,因为通常当我们感到失望时,我们就会把自己锁在家里,试图想着我们自身的不好的品质。但是,如果你强迫自己邀请朋友一起去喝一杯咖啡,让自己有个机会去改变心绪,这是非常好的。尽量避免不好的想法,并且,去想生活中精彩的一面。不要忘了:我们会成为我们所想象成的那样。
  你也应该做一些专门为自己做的事,完全是为你自己的。这可能是你一段时间以来所想要的东西:也许是短途旅行、一件衣服、一枚戒指或者任何能改善你心绪的东西。它不必非常奢侈,也不必非常昂贵,只要它们对你有好处。
  买礼物给自己不仅仅能改善你的心绪,买东西给别人也是一个使你感到高兴的极好方法。想想你的朋友、家人、亲戚甚至当地的慈善机构,选择一个人并给他买礼物。不必是什么昂贵的或者大件的东西,也许仅仅是给家庭贫困的邻居的小孩买的一个小玩具。让他人高兴也能令自己身心愉悦。
  租一部好的或搞笑的电影永远是一个好注意,因为笑能治百病。
  与一个心态积极的人交流也是非常有用的。谈话中避开你的问题。这个理念就是:走出你自己的圈子并与他人多些交流。多与他人在一起,你的想法也会随之转变的。
  大多数不好的情绪和心理状态是由过去的事情导致的。总得来说,认识到自己所有的想法和感受都存在于现在,这对你的心理、灵魂、身体和你生命是非常重要的。把你的精力放在现在和未来吧,用各种方法使你的生活变得更美好。
  在拥挤的人群中散步也是一种好的方法。看看别人,想想他们每个也有与你类似的时期,那么,你就应该做一些能够改变情形的事情。
  如果你有很多的时间,去做志愿者吧。我们通常认为自己面临的问题是巨大的,除非你去了医院,你就会看到那里有许多的人,他们的问题更严重。然而,那些人仍然在工作,在微笑,在开怀大笑。做志愿者将会帮你认识到自己的问题是多么得渺小和可笑。
  听音乐放松的同时,试着思考一些问题,这有助于你集中精神和放松身体。
  不要忘了创意!因为创造一些东西也能改变我们的心情。创造不仅包括绘画和演奏乐器,它还包括做饭、缝纫、写作、摄影和其他的一些活动。当我们集中精力创造时,我们就会忘掉过去的情感。
  所有我们必须要做的就是:控制情绪并使它们积极起来,而不要让情绪来控制你。让自己感觉更好并不难,难的是你开始能做些什么事来改善你的心情。
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