Oh,yes, now we are all texting all the time, verify just happen this morning, I was on the phone last night for hour with one of them trying to watch the debate, ok, trying watch to debate, but ok, I hear what you saying, em, yes , I think I coming into my mothering space in a way that was wholly, wholly so unexpected, I just…I knew for the moment the message these girls that I was gonna fall in love with them and I did, but was sort of loving for distance, something happened this year, they could actually make me weep, but the morning they all get dressed to go shopping and bad nothing beyond for their college dorms, I mean the moment hit me that all of the pain really and challenges and difficulty /termences/ then the crisis  we went through 2007, and all the questions that time I thought about, you know what, I shall just give them money and step out this let them have it, all came into head, came into joist