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Well, are you trying to climb the corporate ladder but you are getting absolutely nowhere?
It may not be your fault, or your co-workers' fault, or your bosses' fault, could be your dad, blame him.
That man start of it, Dr. Steven Potter is a clinical psychologist and the author of The Father Factor. Dr Potter, how does your dad decide subtly? Would you become in your career?
Your dad has a huge influence on what you do, just as your mom has a huge influence. And the Father Factor is looking that element. It seem/you see men are defined about what they do outside the home; Well, typically, women and sons are decide..defined about what they do in the home by their moms. It~the work place has always been a masculine model, it's said that the father factor comes in.
What about personal responsibility 'cause I hear, I mean, parents are getting dumped on for everything. My mom screwed me up, my dad screwed me up, bla(h).blah..blah.. And this sounds like more of that. Isn't their personal responsibility that comes in? Can you change? What do you think is your destiny?
Absolutely. It~the father factor is about you~what is your legacy. Not at your fingerpoint, but what are you gonna do with your life? This is your baseline, where will you go from here?
Got ya. Alright, we've got, er, five different categories of who is your daddy. Let's...well,we will try to figure out. (Thank you very much Martini) So, so let's do this in the lightening round. What's this Super-Achiever Father?
Super-Achiever Father is all about a, a parent's productivity, achievement.
Type-A dad.
Absolutely, Type-A plus.
Alright. (and,and would...)
The Time-Bomb Father.
Er,more wattle, emotional and stable.
But we should talk about the impact. The Super-Achiever Father impacts your kid, how?
In their driven, excellent work ethics.
So they mirror it.
Right.
Ok. Time-Bomb?
Time-Bomb, tends to be more, er,could be addicted to behavior, that type of parenting. And how's that? You can develop anxiety or you can become very productive in the same way.
The passive father?
The old joke is, is dad asleep on the couch or is he dead?
Yeah, and everybody says (but) if you are not as motivated, be have a passive father,you..but maybe motivated for,er...maybe motivated in others.
Exactly. And the passive dad showed his love through actions, not through much words.
Um-hum, The Absent Father?
That's most problematic style. He, many times lived with his kids, but wasn't involved in your life, didn't really know what they are doing.
And then the, the one we should probably all wanna be according to my calculation is the Compassionate/Mentor Father.
Absolutely. That's the dad that helps his kid find his roadmap where he wants to go. And like you said earlier it's not about blaming, it's about understanding. That's all of my book is about. Understand who your dad is.
Alright. So if we wanna be the compassionate mentor father, how do we achieve that or do we have any choice in it?
We have a lot of choice. It is all about choices. You don't have to, uh, the key to letting go off blame, and not blaming our dads or our mothers for that fact. (Thank you, hahahaha) In, in, in many times of our career, the glass ceiling isn't so much our careers as is our father factor.
And you do believe that fathers play such a dominant role in your twenties when you're getting into your career, that..that's when the relationship could change in really excel and so many times that parents back out think what are my kids' right.
Absolutely, in the 20s, F, that, your, your son or your daughter, they really need your kind of stepping and say, "Ok, you are out of college now, you didn't go to college. Where are you going?" Help them read their own roadmap.
Interesting. So step up to the plate at that(absolutely) point instead of sending them away.
You see the bottom-line of the father factor is, most dads tend to step back as your kids get older. It should, should be the universe, move forward, move toward them.
Interesting, well, the book is called The Father Factor. How you father's legacy impacts your career. Dr. Steven Potter. Thank you very much. You can also go to the website www. onefatherfactor. com.
Thank you very much.
Thank you
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