怎样将你心仪的白马王子约出来？（在线收听）

(Relationship expert) Regena Thomashauer, is the host of Mag Rack's Mama Gena's school of Womanly Arts and Doctor Ian Kerner (Yeah.) is a sex therapist and co-host of Discovery Health .

Good morning to both of you !

Hey .

Hey, Al.

First of all , you all, you had a watch, that push-up going in only 45 seconds .

Oh, maybe I had a maximum amount you are supposed to do.

I got you. Ok , I've just gotten with me.

I just want to know if he is single? Coz, some woman could ask him out .

Yeah, would you want to ask him out?

While he is doing push-ups, it's no doubt.

Yeah I say yes, you know, I am single now , and I just say yes to everything !

You say yes to everything, (yeah!) Good to know. All right, do you know, so Gena, what's the , what's the origins of Cindy Hunterdat.

Ok! Started with a little amateur comic strip Al Cap in the 1930s and it took the country by storm. She was the first feminist and now of course she is the patron saint of Mama Gena's school of Womanly Arts here in New York City. And there is school dances where girls can ask the boys to dance,(Right.) but originally it was any guy who was called by a woman had to marry her.

Wow OK so we , we've come a long way since then, In, in our society it's usually the guy who asks the woman out. (yeah.) Have we seen a change in that?

Oh, yeah , definitely I mean I think especially with the proliferation of online dating , there are so many singles out there , you know, today women~when they are online , they can wink at a guy , they can put a guy in a hot list , I mean, you know , it's post-sex in the city, it's the age of, you know, femin... you know, the third way feminism, but I think many guys welcome women asking them out .

Because, because I don't, I don't think women know or realize it, we feel pressure too .

Oh, totally!

I think it's so frightening to be with a guy, because you are expected to ask her out, take the rejection, pay for her date, and then of course be psychic and read her mind and to deliver her everything that she wants, and I think if we take a little guesswork out of it and we say : Hey, you are so cute, would you go out with me? Oh, / be fantastic!

But, but what about what about the flip side which is not so nice to rejection part of that if a guy, what if the guy says no?

Well, listen, I don't think it's always about coming out and saying, would you go out with me? I think it's about being willing to start an interesting conversation with the guy whether it's at a book store , online, in a movie theater at a cafe and if you start an interesting conversation, the rejection isn't significant, I think that's also about not personalizing and making it about you as much about as the situation, you know, (Which...)and there is always gonna be a situation so we get rejected.

of course and I think if as a woman, if you go out with your great win woman, you know, at my school I have, ah, sister goddesses and a gang of women...

You gotta pass it. you gotta pass it. (Goddesses. Right.)you've got some dos and don'ts to her, you, you say ask him out in person or on the phone.

Absolutely, coz you do not want any evidence, you don't want any hard evidence via E-mail or text. (Right. Thank you.)of your efforts especially they can buss.

Do some researches. Know his in-, his interests .

Absoultly because if you go up to a guy and even if you are at a sports bar and you say 'Hey, I have no interest in sports but you are cute.' You know that it's a start, it is a beginning and I have so many tips on my television show at Mag Rack you know of ways to actually seduce a guy~ you don't want to be aggressive . you want to be attractive, you want him to be deroned to you because of the fabulous gorgeous woman that you are.

You say don't go on, on a group date, go on a one-on-one date.

Oh, yeah, because you want to get to know the guy, you don't want to be stuck at, in a movie for 2 hours and please, above all things, do not invite him to a wedding. It's, you know, so inappropriate(yeah, that's, that's terrible, ) for a first date.

But I , I think it's also again just being willing to start an interesting conversation with that guy somewhere and put it in yourself out there.

Even in not interesting conversation would work, don't they?

No I think you should always be as compelling as interesting as fascinating as possible.

We've got a few don'ts .

I think women are fascinating , apparently.

We get a few don'ts , don't be nervous , don't be vague, don't be aggressive (yeah.)which seems almost an active more on it because you can't be a little aggressive asking him out.

I think you are being attractive and seductive because aggressive is frightening, that's for the hocky players doing, football players, not a woman does.

And the last one, don't get frustrated, what do you mean by that ?

Well I think that if you go for it, and he doesn't get the hint, just go for it again especially if he is cute and adorable, don't be fazed if he doesn't catch on it first.

If at first you don't succeed , try, try again .

All right , well Mama Gena Thomashauer and Ian Kerner. Thanks a lot, we appreciate it.