Tips For Improving Your Interpersonal Relationships

Tips For Improving Your Interpersonal Relationships

 

Conswello: It's a delight to meet you, Bob Eubanks, it really is.

Eubanks: Thank you very much. You do a great job on this show.

Conswello: Well, thank you very much and you're using your people skills already. I'm ¹⁾intrigued by how you keep ²⁾reinventing yourself. How do you do it?

Eubanks: Well, you know, I just think what a person has to do is take their strengths, and I know that no one's gonna hire me to do a game show again so, because they go for the younger guy and such, so I got, I sat down, I said, you know, "What should I do?" And I've learned so much about people, and I decided² to go out and speak to ³⁾corporate³ America. What I'm doing is I'm showing corporate America how to maintain a balance in their people skills to high technology. I mean, we're losing our people skills because of the wonderful technology is there. And so I go out and I teach them how to maintain their people skills; how to get the most from people.

Conswello: So how do you do that?

Eubanks: Ah, you show interest in them. Ah, when I was doing Newlywed Game, the couples were very ⁴⁾frightened and very ⁵⁾scared and they would sit there like this. The moment I would say, "How're you doing? How's your family? How's your dog? How's this?" The moment that you would see their body language change. You would see everything about them change. So, if we can show interest in other people and generally, generally care about other people, then it is amazing. People will tell you what things they wouldn't tell the Grand Jury is what they did for me on the Newlywed Game anyway.

Conswello: Now, are you finding that there is a good ⁶⁾reception to these, you know,  personal skills that you're bringing to corporate America, and does it matter to them?  Does it matter to management?

Eubanks: Yeah, it really does, it really does because creativity's going down the tubes if we're not careful. No longer am I walking into your office and saying, "Conswello, I got an idea. What do you think about this?" "Oh, good, Bob. Let's do this." We're sending e-mails to each other in the next ⁷⁾cubicle⁴. We've got to maintain a balance, and I'm a big tech fan, believe me I am, but we have to maintain a balance with our people skills. And that's what I teach, basically.

Conswello: So how do you teach it?

Eubanks: I simply, I do it in a very comedic way. I do a one-hour very funny keynote called "The Power of Partnerships⁵". And I speak to companies like Southwest Airlines or Washington Mutual⁶ -- I've had some really good clients -- and I've been doing this about a year and a half. And what I did, I ⁸⁾associated myself with four other speakers, very successful speakers: Emery Austin, Mark Mayfield, David Naster, Joe Malarchy. We formed a marketing⁷ company called "Five Easy Speakers"...

Conswello: Very catchy⁸ name.

Eubanks: ... "Five Easy Speakers", yeah. And I think we're the five best speakers out there. We bring a comedic point of view to speaking.

Conswello: Now, is there another reinvention in the works for Bob Eubanks or is this gonna be it for a while?

Eubanks: No. This is it! I am having more fun doing what I'm doing now. I was gonna teach, I was gonna, uhh, but I am having so much fun, I want to do this for the rest of my life. You know, I just go out and I entertain people and I teach them about people, and they give you a ⁹⁾cheque and you go home. And I said, "Wow, why didn't I think about this a long time ago folks?"

Conswello: Well, I'm glad you did and I'm glad you thought about it now and we're delighted to have you here. 

Eubanks: Well, it's so nice to be here. Thank you very much. 

Conswello: Thanks very much, Bob Eubanks.

Eubanks: Thanks Conswello.

Conswello: Great to have you here.

 

与人交流的技巧

康丝韦洛：尤班克斯，很高兴见到你，真的。

尤班克斯：谢谢。你主持这个节目十分出色。

康丝韦洛：哦，非常感谢，你开始使用人际技巧啦！你能不断地为自己增值，对此我非常感兴趣，你是怎么做到的？

尤班克斯：你知道，我只是认为每个人都应该发挥他们自己的长处，同时，我也知道不会再有人找我主持游戏节目了，因为他们要找年轻人来做，所以我坐下来并且问自己：“我应该怎么做呢？”我对人性有一定的了解，因此我决定到美国各家公司去，向他们展示怎样在人际技巧与高科技中取得平衡。我是说，科技的日新月异会使人们逐渐丧失交往技巧。所以我到各公司讲解怎样保持自己的人际关系，怎样人尽其才。

康丝韦洛：那么怎么做呢？

尤班克斯：要关心他人。有些夫妇在亮相由我主持的“新婚游戏”节目的时候，他们很紧张，很害怕，坐得僵直。当我问他们：“你们好吗？家人怎么样？你们的狗好吗？这个好吗？”你可以看到他们的身体语言立刻改变了。你可以看到他们的全部状态都改变了。所以说，如果我们能做到关注别人，关心别人，效果是很神奇的。人们会把没告诉大陪审团的心里话都向你倾诉，至少他们在我的“新婚游戏”节目里是这么做的。

康丝韦洛：你把个人技巧带到公司去的反响好吗？他们重视吗？管理层重视吗？

尤班克斯：很重视，反响很好。如果只要稍不留神的话，创意便会完蛋。我再也不会再到你办公室去研究构思，问你“康丝韦洛，我有个想法。你觉得这个怎样？”“噢，构思很好，照做吧。”现在我们跟隔间的同事互通电邮。我们需要维持一种平衡，相信我，我热爱高科技，不过我们必须在科技与人际技巧之间做平衡。我传授的基本就是这些。

康丝韦洛：怎样传授？

尤班克斯：我采用的方法很有趣。我会做长达一小时的基调讲说，叫“合作的力量”。我到西南航空和华盛顿基金公司去分享心得--我有些很优秀的客户--我这样做已经有一年半的时间了。我跟其他四位演讲者合作，他们都是很成功的演讲者：爱美莉·奥斯汀、马克·梅菲德、大卫·纳斯特、乔·马拉奇。我们合作成立了一家推广公司叫FES……

康丝韦洛：这名字很容易记住。

尤班克斯：……FES，是的。我认为我们五人是最棒的演讲者，能幽默地演讲。

康丝韦洛：你会再发展其它事业，还是继续这项工作？

尤班克斯：非它莫属！这工作我做得很开心。传授技巧的时候乐在其中，希望能一生继续这工作。到各公司娱乐大家，讲解人性，收取支票，然后回家。我对自己说：“干嘛不早点想到这样做？”

康丝韦洛：幸好你还是想到了，现在想到了确实很好。谢谢你接受采访。

尤班克斯：我很高兴到来。谢谢。

康丝韦洛：非常感谢你鲍伯。

尤班克斯：谢谢你，康丝韦洛。

康丝韦洛：很感谢你的到来。

 

注释:

1) intrigue¹ [in5tri:^] v. 阴谋，诡计

2) reinvent [7ri:in5vent] v. 重新使用，彻底改造

3) corporate [5kC:pErit] a. 共同的，全体的，社团的

4) frightened [5frait(E)nd] a. 受惊的，受恐吓的

5) scared [skZEd] a. 恐惧的

6) reception [ri5sepFEn] n. 接待，招待会

7) cubicle [5kju:bikl] n. 小卧室

8) associated [E5sEuFieitid] a. 联合的，有关联的

9) cheque [tFek] n. = check (US)，支票

1 intrigue   

vt.激起兴趣，迷住；vi.耍阴谋；n.阴谋，密谋

参考例句：

• Court officials will intrigue against the royal family.法院官员将密谋反对皇室。
• The royal palace was filled with intrigue.皇宫中充满了勾心斗角。

2 decided   

adj.决定了的，坚决的；明显的，明确的

参考例句：

• This gave them a decided advantage over their opponents.这使他们比对手具有明显的优势。
• There is a decided difference between British and Chinese way of greeting.英国人和中国人打招呼的方式有很明显的区别。

3 corporate   

adj.共同的，全体的；公司的，企业的

参考例句：

• This is our corporate responsibility.这是我们共同的责任。
• His corporate's life will be as short as a rabbit's tail.他的公司的寿命是兔子尾巴长不了。

4 cubicle   

n.大房间中隔出的小室

参考例句：

• She studies in a cubicle in the school library.她在学校图书馆的小自习室里学习。
• A technical sergeant hunches in a cubicle.一位技术军士在一间小屋里弯腰坐着。

5 partnerships   

n.伙伴关系( partnership的名词复数 )；合伙人身份；合作关系

参考例句：

• Partnerships suffer another major disadvantage: decision-making is shared. 合伙企业的另一主要缺点是决定要由大家来作。 来自英汉非文学 - 政府文件
• It involved selling off limited partnerships. 它涉及到售出有限的合伙权。 来自辞典例句

6 mutual   

adj.相互的，彼此的；共同的，共有的

参考例句：

• We must pull together for mutual interest.我们必须为相互的利益而通力合作。
• Mutual interests tied us together.相互的利害关系把我们联系在一起。

7 marketing   

n.行销，在市场的买卖，买东西

参考例句：

• They are developing marketing network.他们正在发展销售网络。
• He often goes marketing.他经常去市场做生意。

8 catchy   

adj.易记住的，诡诈的，易使人上当的

参考例句：

• We need a new slogan.The old one's not catchy enough.我们需要新的口号，旧的不够吸引人。
• The chorus is very catchy to say the least.副歌部分很容易上口。