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Parents need to figure out how to talk to their children about lots of things, including religion. But according to the Pew Research Center, a quarter of Americans now don't affiliate¹ with any religion at all. The numbers are even higher for those under 30. Deena Prichep reports on what that might mean for raising children.

DEENA PRICHEP: On the weekends, you won't find 8-year-old Eli and 5-year-old Isaac at church or synagogue. They're hiking in the Montana woods or coming up with some pretty original artwork.

ELI FREEMAN: I'm drawing a bunny on a motorbike carrying a cake to a party.

PRICHEP: Their mother, Emily Freeman, identifies as culturally Jewish on her father's side. But neither she nor her husband, Nathan, grew up with much in the way of religion. They talked about this early on but didn't really discuss how it would affect their parenting.

EMILY FREEMAN: I think we put it in the big basket of things that we figured we had so much time to think about.

PRICHEP: But then they had kids. And the kids came home from their grandfather's house talking about Bible stories.

NATHAN FREEMAN: He feels like these lessons encapsulate a blueprint² for how to move through life. And so, of course, why wouldn't we want our children to have those kind of lessons alongside them as they travel through the world?

PRICHEP: Nathan and Emily want their kids to learn about love and compassion³, but they ended up having some hard conversations with the grandparents because when the boys were so young, the certainty of those stories felt like indoctrination.

E. FREEMAN: They trust everything that you tell them about how their body works, about how the world works, how a cake suddenly becomes a cake from a bunch of ingredients on the counter - you know, like, everything.

PRICHEP: Kids want to understand how things work, including things that are far more abstract than cake. And typically, parents have answered some of those questions with religion.

CHRISTEL MANNING: There is what sociologists call a life cycle pattern to religion.

PRICHEP: Christel Manning teaches at Sacred Heart University in Connecticut and studied unaffiliated parents for her book "Losing Our Religion." She says teenagers, as you'd expect, rebel against religion.

MANNING: If I'm single, and I have a certain spiritual or secular⁴ outlook - right? - that's my personal thing.

PRICHEP: And typically, as people get married, they return to the fold.

MANNING: When I form a family, then there are other people who become stakeholders in this process.

PRICHEP: Now that pattern isn't holding up. But the kids may be all right. The data's mixed. Some studies show that children growing up in a faith community experiment less with drugs and alcohol, and some show that kids raised without religion are more resistant⁵ to peer pressure and more culturally sensitive. Going it alone involves a bit more uncertainty⁶, but for many unaffiliated parents, like Emily Freeman, that's OK. In fact, it can be really valuable.

E. FREEMAN: Growing up, there was a long period of my kind of early adulthood⁷ where I was like - I felt like there were these answers. Like, where should I live? And what should I do? And who should I be with? And what's the answer to this and that?

PRICHEP: For some people, religion can provide these answers. For others, it's a sacred space to explore not knowing. And parents like Emily Freeman try to help their kids find their own voice in the conversation about belief, about what's right, about their values as a family.

E. FREEMAN: They don't spend all day wondering why zebras have stripes. We just look it up on the phone, you know, and, like, boom. Wonder done. And so, you know, I love this idea of sort of giving them open-ended, unanswerable questions, you know, and saying, you know, who knows? You know, and people you love can believe different things than you do, and that's OK.

PRICHEP: And Freeman says helping⁸ her kids find their way through the wonder of it all, even when it's uncomfortable, is part of the job of parenting. For NPR News, I'm Deena Prichep.

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1 affiliate   

vt.使隶(附)属于；n.附属机构，分公司

参考例句：

• Our New York company has an affiliate in Los Angeles.我们的纽约公司在洛杉矶有一个下属企业。
• What is the difference between affiliate and regular membership?固定会员和附属会员之间的区别是什么？

2 blueprint   

n.蓝图，设计图，计划；vt.制成蓝图，计划

参考例句：

• All the machine parts on a blueprint must answer each other.设计图上所有的机器部件都应互相配合。
• The documents contain a blueprint for a nuclear device.文件内附有一张核装置的设计蓝图。

3 compassion   

n.同情，怜悯

参考例句：

• He could not help having compassion for the poor creature.他情不自禁地怜悯起那个可怜的人来。
• Her heart was filled with compassion for the motherless children.她对于没有母亲的孩子们充满了怜悯心。

4 secular   

n.牧师，凡人；adj.世俗的，现世的，不朽的

参考例句：

• We live in an increasingly secular society.我们生活在一个日益非宗教的社会。
• Britain is a plural society in which the secular predominates.英国是个世俗主导的多元社会。

5 resistant   

adj.(to)抵抗的，有抵抗力的

参考例句：

• Many pests are resistant to the insecticide.许多害虫对这种杀虫剂有抵抗力。
• They imposed their government by force on the resistant population.他们以武力把自己的统治强加在持反抗态度的人民头上。

6 uncertainty   

n.易变，靠不住，不确知，不确定的事物

参考例句：

• Her comments will add to the uncertainty of the situation.她的批评将会使局势更加不稳定。
• After six weeks of uncertainty,the strain was beginning to take its toll.6个星期的忐忑不安后，压力开始产生影响了。

7 adulthood   

n.成年，成人期

参考例句：

• Some infantile actions survive into adulthood.某些婴儿期的行为一直保持到成年期。
• Few people nowadays are able to maintain friendships into adulthood.如今很少有人能将友谊维持到成年。

8 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。