【双语有声阅读】承认错误

Admitting guilt¹

 

承认错误

Giving advice is a lot easier than receiving it.

给予建议比接受建议更容易。

Telling someone that he was wrong is a lot easier than admitting that you made a mistake.

当然告诉别人他是错的比承认自己犯错误更容易。

Writing a timeout everyday is not easy but trying to live up to all of my timeout goals and ideas, gosh!

每天停下来想一想不是件容易的事,但试图用暂停来达到我的目标和想法,唉!

It's almost impossible.

这几乎也是不可能的。

I know someone who is great at giving advice but when you point out some area where he can improve him getdefensive.

我认识一个人,他的伟大之处就是在于给别人提建议，但当你指出他可以改进的一些地方时他就变得怀有戒心。

The more you try and tell him about a mistake he made the more defensive² he gets.

而你越是尝试告诉他关于他犯的一个错误,他就越变得有戒心。

So for that person I've given up trying.

所以基于这个原因我已经放弃了尝试。

All of my friends have. I can't give up on my kids though.

我所有的朋友都是如此。但我不能放弃我的孩子们。

If my son makes a mistake and I pointed³ it out, the first thing that comes from his lips⁴ is 'No!' It's a blame refusal⁵ to admit his mistake.

如果我儿子犯了一个过错而且经我指出,他嘴里说出的第一个词就是“不!”。这是一种承认他错误的奇怪拒绝。

It's never 'Yes, daddy, you are right.' Or 'Okay mummy, sorry.' It's 'No, it's not my fault' or 'It's wasn't me.'

他从来没有说过“是的,爸爸,你是对的。或好妈妈,对不起。”一直都是“不,这不是我的错或者绝对不是我。”

I do the same things sometimes.

有时我也经常会做同样的事情。

Perhaps it's human nature.

也许它是人类的天性。

Perhaps my son got his habit from me.

也或许是有其父必有其子的缘故。

No! It couldn't be my fault, could it?

不!不可能是我的错,可能吗?

Talk about it：

谈论下面的话题:

Are you good at accepting advice?

你善于接受建议吗?

Are you quick to admit guilt?

你很快就会承认错误吗?

Do you apologize quickly?

很快你就会道歉吗?

Have you ever defended your actions even though you knew you were wrong?

即使你知道你错了，你有没有捍卫你的行为?

Do you know someone maybe in your family who tends to be great at giving advice but terrible at receiving it?

在你的家庭中有没有一个往往在给予建议时候非常伟大,但接受建议的时候就会变得很可怕?

Do you give good advice to your friends and family?

你给你的家人和朋友提出了很好的建议吗?

What kinds of problems do people talk to you about?

人们跟你谈论什么样的问题?

How does feeling guilty⁶ affect us?

感到内疚会如何影响我们?

1 guilt   

n.犯罪；内疚；过失，罪责

参考例句：

• She tried to cover up her guilt by lying.她企图用谎言掩饰自己的罪行。
• Don't lay a guilt trip on your child about schoolwork.别因为功课责备孩子而使他觉得很内疚。

2 defensive   

adj.防御的；防卫的；防守的

参考例句：

• Their questions about the money put her on the defensive.他们问到钱的问题，使她警觉起来。
• The Government hastily organized defensive measures against the raids.政府急忙布置了防卫措施抵御空袭。

3 pointed   

adj.尖的，直截了当的

参考例句：

• He gave me a very sharp pointed pencil.他给我一支削得非常尖的铅笔。
• She wished to show Mrs.John Dashwood by this pointed invitation to her brother.她想通过对达茨伍德夫人提出直截了当的邀请向她的哥哥表示出来。

4 lips   

abbr.logical inferences per second 每秒的逻辑推论n.嘴唇( lip的名词复数 )；（容器或凹陷地方的）边缘；粗鲁无礼的话

参考例句：

• Her lips compressed into a thin line. 她的双唇抿成了一道缝。
• the fullness of her lips 她丰满的双唇

5 refusal   

n.拒绝

参考例句：

• He persisted in his refusal to pay the money.他坚持拒绝付钱。
• Our offer was met with a firm refusal.我们的报价被坚决拒绝。

6 guilty   

adj.犯罪的；有罪的；内疚的

参考例句：

• There wasn't enough evidence to prove him guilty.没有充分的证据证明他有罪。
• Really honest people are ofter made to feel guilty.真正老实的人常被弄得感到犯了罪似的。