Choose Between Yesterday or Tomorrow

 Some of us live in the past. Everything we do is tied to our past. We think, act and speak in relation to our past. We rely on our past for our identity and for our direction in life. We blame our past for haunting us and for making us feel less than we are. We blame those who were in our lives for everything that we didn't like and for the way we are living today. It's easy to blame the past because the past cannot be changed. It's easy to blame others because we don't have to blame ourselves or be accountable for decisions that we make. It's easier to blame others instead of ourselves. Being a victim of our past takes no effort on our part. It's easiest to sit back and not take any action for our life.

Sometimes we just can't seem to get past our childhood experiences. We focus on the negative feelings and emotions that we've experienced and we get stuck there. What makes us think that it's alright to let our past control our lives? We throw up our arms and give up instead of learning from our experiences. It seems that the child within us does not want to grow up. The child within us loves to throw tantrums. It screams for attention and wants others to take care of us for the rest of our lives. We have a feeling of entitlement that the world needs to revolve¹ around us.There's no such thing as a compromise. We feel like it's our way or the highway. We didn't have certain things in our young lives so we rant² and rave³ about the lack of this or that. We may feel that we weren't loved enough, we didn't have enough attention or our siblings⁴ got everything and we were left out. The list goes on and on.

When are we going to take responsibility for our own selves? Some people never do but others will get off the merry-go-round and take a stand in being responsible for their own lives. The level of maturity⁵ accompanies this stance. Being mature means that we realize that our life does matter and it is up to us to move forward and learn from the past as a preparation for our present and future life. We are in control of our lives. We can choose to stay in our yesterdays or we can choose to live for our tomorrows. We can bring happiness, love and peace into our lives and improve our experiences. The choice is up to us.

Emotional maturity is not tied to age. It's tied to our ability to make choices and decisions with a clarity of purpose and mind. When we take responsibility for ourselves then we won't have anyone else to blame for our lives. We appreciate the gift of life and we won't take our life for granted. We live our best life by choosing to be focused with our intentions, purpose and positive fulfillment towards and for a happy, prosperous, loving and joyous⁶ life. We look forward to enjoying what each day brings, looking forward to the experiences that make our lives richer and fuller. Every day is a blessing⁷!

1 revolve   

vi.(使)旋转；循环出现

参考例句：

• The planets revolve around the sun.行星绕着太阳运转。
• The wheels began to revolve slowly.车轮开始慢慢转动。

2 rant   

v.咆哮；怒吼；n.大话；粗野的话

参考例句：

• You can rant and rave at the fine,but you'll still have to pay it.你闹也好，骂也好，罚金还是得交。
• If we rant on the net,the world is our audience.如果我们在网络上大声嚷嚷，全世界都是我们的听众。

3 rave   

vi.胡言乱语；热衷谈论；n.热情赞扬

参考例句：

• The drunkard began to rave again.这酒鬼又开始胡言乱语了。
• Now I understand why readers rave about this book.我现明白读者为何对这本书赞不绝口了。

4 siblings   

n.兄弟，姐妹( sibling的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• A triplet sleeps amongst its two siblings. 一个三胞胎睡在其两个同胞之间。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• She has no way of tracking the donor or her half-siblings down. 她没办法找到那个捐精者或她的兄弟姐妹。 来自时文部分

5 maturity   

n.成熟；完成；(支票、债券等)到期

参考例句：

• These plants ought to reach maturity after five years.这些植物五年后就该长成了。
• This is the period at which the body attains maturity.这是身体发育成熟的时期。

6 joyous   

adj.充满快乐的；令人高兴的

参考例句：

• The lively dance heightened the joyous atmosphere of the scene.轻快的舞蹈给这场戏渲染了欢乐气氛。
• They conveyed the joyous news to us soon.他们把这一佳音很快地传递给我们。

7 blessing   

n.祈神赐福；祷告；祝福，祝愿

参考例句：

• The blessing was said in Hebrew.祷告用了希伯来语。
• A double blessing has descended upon the house.双喜临门。