Be Who You Want To Be

Be Who You Want To Be

“Your colleagues might like you better if you like yourself better” – Chandler Bing, Friends

Your self-image is the one largest factor to your success and to your happiness.

If you can learn to truly appreciate yourself and respect what you can bring to the table your life will never be the same.

Getting to know you

If you are going to like yourself you first need to know yourself.

Take some time alone, sit in a room with a piece of paper and write down everything that you feel makes you, you. The positive, the negative and the things that just are.

No one is perfect

Don’t be worried that it says a lot of negative things on that list.

They are a part of you, but know that you know about them you can start on working to improve them.

Focus on the positive

Copy off everything positive from the first list on to a new piece of paper; take a look at that list.

Seeing all the positive things about you makes you feel good and what is best, they are all true. 

That is you!

How do you wish to be described?

Another technique you can try is to describe your “perfect person”.

How would you want to be? What do you wish people said about you when you weren’t there?

That you are a loyal¹ friend? A caring person? Honest? Impressive²? Ambitious³?

What do you need to do to become your “Perfect person”?

Look at that description of your “perfect person”, what are the differences between tat person and yourself? What would you need to change in order to become the one you want to be?

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Fake⁴ it till you make it!

Now that you know who you are know and who you want to be, pretend you are the person you want to be.

If you want people to call you honest, pretend that you are a honest person. Act like a honest person should in all situations, tell the truth all the time.

If you want to be described as ambitious act as a superbly⁵ ambitious person would, take the chances that come your way, act on them and dream big.

The act becomes reality

What often happens when pretending to be someone else for a long time is that we actually become that person.

Try it and before you know it you will be who you want to be and you can have the confidence to like yourself, just like you should.

1 loyal   

adj.忠诚的，忠心的

参考例句：

• He is a loyal friend.他是一位忠诚的朋友。
• I judge him to be loyal.我认为他很忠诚。

2 impressive   

adj.给人深刻印象的，感人的

参考例句：

• This cinema is so impressive that we can't help crying.这影片如此感人以至我们禁不住流下泪来。
• The suit made him look especially impressive.他穿上这套衣服真精神。

3 ambitious   

adj.有雄心的，劲头十足的，有野心的

参考例句：

• One may be poor but never ceases to be ambitious.人穷志不穷。
• He is an ambitious young man full of enthusiasm and vitality.他是个充满热情与活力的有远大抱负的青年。

4 fake   

vt.伪造，造假，假装；n.假货，赝品

参考例句：

• He can tell a fake from the original.他能分辨出赝品和真品。
• You can easily fake up an excuse to avoid going out with him.你可以很容易地编造一个借口而不与他一同外出。

5 superbly   

adv.庄重地；华美地；极好地；上等地

参考例句：

• The car is superbly engineered and a pleasure to drive. 这辆车设计一流，开起来是一种享受。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• This new jet engine is superbly engineered. 这个新喷气式发动机的设计实属上乘。 来自《简明英汉词典》