情人节：男生追女生的秘诀（双语）

 男生们在追求女生的时候总是觉得在被故意刁难,其实,那可是友好的表现哦.如果一个女生对你的追求不理不睬,你认为你还有戏与她能够交往吗?马上就要情人节了,做出你的举动来赢得她的芳心吧?女孩子的心都是很软的,尤其是容易被感动的.

Although interacting with girls seems like an intimidating¹ endeavor to many guys, adhering to certain principles allows it to be a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

尽管对很多男生而言与女生交往简直是噩梦,但遵循以下几个简单的原则将会给你带来很多愉快的体验.

Steps操作步骤:

1. Be yourself. 做你自己.

It's important to maintain self confidence by being yourself around girls. If you adopt an

alternate personality to attract girls, you will eventually be weighed down with the

feeling that your true self isn't good enough. It may help to develop and improve your

social skills, but any girls that don't appreciate you for who you are don't deserve your

attention.

在与女生们交往的过程中做好自己、拥有自信是非常重要的.如果你改变自己的个性去吸引她们的话,到头来你会感到很失落--因为真实的你差劲到无法吸引女生.做你自己可以培养你的社交技巧,任何不欣赏你的女生都不值得你关注.

2. Respect all girls equally. 平等地尊重每个女生.

You stand a much better chance of making a good overall impression if you treat girls that don't interest you just as nicely as those that do. This doesn't mean that you need to talk to or flirt² with every girl, but don't ignore them or treat them dismissively. Don't talk to a girl about other girls' attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. You generally shouldn't talk about past relationships you've had, or other girls that interest you; it detracts from building a new relationship.

如果你将恐龙和美女一视同仁的话,这会给她们带来深刻的印象,你也会因此得到更好的机会.这并不意味着你得同每个女生闲扯或调情,但请不要无视恐龙们的存在,更不要去鄙视她们.不要在一个女生面前谈论其他女生的魅力,这会让她们感到厌恶,甚至看轻自己.通常来讲别扯你的那些风流往事,或其他的女友候选人,这对建立新的关系是非常不利的.

3. Make eye contact. 眉目传情.

Many girls like it when you can't take your eyes off them, but not when you're staring at their boobs. Although there are some girls that may enjoy such attention, you won't offend anyone by focusing on her face instead. Do not ogle³ her. Just remember to use discretion⁴ and show proper respect.

很多女生喜欢看到男生的目光黏在自己的身上,但是不要老盯着她们的胸部看,尽管有个别女生确实有此嗜好,你还是盯着她们的脸比较好,但可别用色迷迷的眼神.记住目光中应该透露出你慎重以及尊敬.

4. Make them feel special. 让她们感到很特别.

Girls like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Smile at her in a way that's clear, friendly, and/or playful. If you feel compelled to honesty, you can offer a sincere compliment. For example, you could say "Did anyone ever tell you that you have a beautiful smile?" Eyes are another good one--they're not the easiest thing to notice, and it shows you were looking at her face. Select something good that is reserved for her only; it will make her feel wonderfully special, admired, and beautiful.

女生们很欣赏你的勇敢,但不要吓到她们.单纯友好甚至戏虐的微笑都是可以的.如果你希望能坦诚一些,那么可以诚挚地恭维一下.例如,你可以说,"有人说过你的微笑很迷人吗?"眼睛也是个不错的选择,即使你不容易注意到,这也可以暗示你在认真地看她的脸.选择她独有的特点切入,这会让她感到拥有特别的感受,觉得自己很美丽,受人爱慕.

5. Be a gentleman. 做一个绅士.

Girls love guys that are polite and courteous⁵. It's just a matter of doing simple things like holding doors open for them and being respectful in other ways. Some claim chivalry⁶ is dead, but if you believe that, then you're going to have some problems getting a girl's interest.

女生们喜欢那些彬彬有礼的男生.做到这一点也很简单--帮她们开门或者以礼相待.某些骑士时代的礼节已经过时,如果你坚持使用,这会让她们感到很诡异,反而会弄巧成拙.

1 intimidating   

vt.恐吓，威胁( intimidate的现在分词)

参考例句：

• They were accused of intimidating people into voting for them. 他们被控胁迫选民投他们的票。
• This kind of questioning can be very intimidating to children. 这种问话的方式可能让孩子们非常害怕。

2 flirt   

v.调情，挑逗，调戏；n.调情者，卖俏者

参考例句：

• He used to flirt with every girl he met.过去他总是看到一个姑娘便跟她调情。
• He watched the stranger flirt with his girlfriend and got fighting mad.看着那个陌生人和他女朋友调情，他都要抓狂了。

3 ogle   

v.看；送秋波；n.秋波，媚眼

参考例句：

• He likes to ogle at the pretty girls.他爱盯着漂亮的女孩子。
• All she did was hang around ogling the men in the factory.她所做的就只是在工厂里荡来荡去，朝男人抛媚眼。

4 discretion   

n.谨慎；随意处理

参考例句：

• You must show discretion in choosing your friend.你择友时必须慎重。
• Please use your best discretion to handle the matter.请慎重处理此事。

5 courteous   

adj.彬彬有礼的，客气的

参考例句：

• Although she often disagreed with me,she was always courteous.尽管她常常和我意见不一，但她总是很谦恭有礼。
• He was a kind and courteous man.他为人友善，而且彬彬有礼。

6 chivalry   

n.骑士气概，侠义；（男人）对女人彬彬有礼，献殷勤

参考例句：

• The Middle Ages were also the great age of chivalry.中世纪也是骑士制度盛行的时代。
• He looked up at them with great chivalry.他非常有礼貌地抬头瞧她们。