小心！10个词语分分钟暴露你不自信

 　　Nine-hundred and seventy-two.

　　972

　　That's the total number of e-mails I received just in May, and it's about my average. That's not counting the hundreds and hundreds of messages Gmail dumped into categories for promotional mail, forum¹ posts, and social networking updates. I've become proficient² at jumping through messages quickly, but there's one thing I've mastered even more than that: spotting a lack of confidence.

　　这是仅五月份一个月我收到的邮件总数，这也是我的平均值。其中不包括被谷歌邮箱分类的数以千计的广告邮件，论坛帖子和社交网络更新。我已经变得非常善于在邮件之间快速切换，但我掌握的另一项能力更加重要：识别不自信。

　　I also take quite a few cold calls--people who are not really sure what I do and have not really done too much research but have me on a phone list for some reason.

　　我也会接到一些推销电话—那些人既不确定我的职业也没有做很多调查工作，但会因为某种原因把我放在通讯录中。

　　小心！10个词语分分钟暴露你不自信

　　In most cases, it's a pitch about a product or someone asking a question about marketing³ to journalists. He or she might say he or she "usually" does something. In a few cases, it's someone with a business idea he or she "suspects" will be perfect. Most of the time, these messages are straightforward--the sender isn't messing around. But a few seem hesitant. I fire back a question, and the response makes me question the person's authority on the subject.

　　大多数情况下是关于产品推销或是问向记者做市场推广的问题。他们可能会说他或她‘通常’做某事。少数情况下，某个人有一个他或她‘猜想’会是完美的商业理念。大多数时候，这些信息是直接的—发件人不是在捣乱。但有时候感觉很犹豫。我反问一个问题，回复会让我质疑他在这个话题上的权威性。

　　These words are not always triggers about confidence level, but they are my first signal that something is amiss. They make me think the sender is not that sure about the product or service. And they are dead giveaways that I need to question what the person says.

　　这些词不一定都是自信水平的触发器，但他们是我感觉哪里有问题的第一信号。他们让我觉得发件人对产品和服务并不确信。而且他们暴我需要问他说的什么

　　1. Might

　　Be careful when you tell people you "might" do something. Are you sure about that? No one is asking you to solve world peace. When you say you "might" finish a report, it implies you lack some ability, don't manage your time well, or have too many priorities.

　　当你告诉别人‘可能’做某事时要小心。你真的确定吗？没有人让你去维护世界和平。当你说你‘可能’完成了一份报告，这就意味着你能力不足，不能有效地管理时间，或者有过多要处理的事情。

　　2. Won't

　　Here's an obvious word to avoid in your emails. Anyone who says he or she "won't" do something or "won't" attend a meeting is generating a negative vibe. Be more decisive: Either accept an invitation or reject it; using the word won't suggests hesitancy.

　　很显然要在邮件中避免使用这个词。那些说他或她‘不会'做某事或’不会‘参加会议的人是在制造一种消极的氛围。要更坚定一些：要么接受邀请要么拒绝；用不会这个词代表犹豫不决。

　　3. Usually

　　This is a trigger word in email that makes it obvious to everyone that you don't have all the facts. If you say the accounting⁴ department "usually" doesn't approve your expense report or the boss is "usually" late to work, it means you're stretching the truth.

　　这个词在邮件中会让每个人认为你没有掌握所有实际情况。若果你说财务部门’通常‘不会通过你的支出报告或者老板’通常上班迟到，这说明你在夸大事实。

　　4. Suspect

　　Unless you are talking about a suspect in a trial, avoid saying you "suspect" anything. You're not Sherlock Holmes. Just use direct terms: You know an investor⁵ is pulling out of the project, and here's why; or you have facts to support your conclusion on a new marketing plan.

　　除非你在讨论一个审判中的嫌疑人，否则不要说你‘怀疑’某事。你不是福尔摩斯。就用那些直接的措辞：你知道投资者在退出项目，这是原因；或者你有证据支撑你对一项新市场计划的结论。

　　5. Impossible

　　I'll bet Mark Zuckerberg has never used the word impossible in an email. The recipient⁶ will lose confidence in you quickly. State why something might be hard or difficult or just don't agree to a course of action. Don't bother telling people it's impossible.

　　我敢肯定马克扎克伯格从来没在邮件中使用过不可能这个词。收件人会立即对你失去信心。陈述一件事为什么可能会很辛苦或困难，或者只是不同意某种做法。不要浪费时间告诉别人它是不可能的。

　　6. Worried

　　We all worry about the stresses of life. Telling people you are worried by email makes it seem as if you lack confidence in your abilities. If you are worried, don't bother saying that to anyone--just express what you are concerned about and offer solutions.

　　我们都担心生活中的压力。告诉别人你为邮件感到忧虑表明你似乎对自己的能力缺乏自信。如果你感到担忧，不需要告诉任何人—只需要表达你担心什么和提出解决措施。

　　7. Confused

　　Expressing your confusion will create even more confusion. It's better to just say what you are confused about and ask questions. Saying you are "confused" gives people the impression that either you don't understand something or that the topic is confusing to you.

　　表露你的困惑会产生更多的困惑。更好的做法是说出你困惑然后提出问题。表达你很‘困惑'给别人留下的印象是要么有些事你不明白或者这个话题使你迷惑。

　　8. Need

　　We all have needs in life. When you express those needs by email over and over again, it makes you look needy⁷. I "need" you to come to work early, I "need" you to get that report done. Avoid saying "need" and express requirements more directly.

　　我们在生活中都有需求。当你重复在邮件中表达这些需求的时候，会使你看起来不自信。我’需要‘你早点来上班，我’需要‘你完成这份报告。不要说’需要‘，而是更直接的表达要求。

　　9. Quandary⁸

　　Have you sent a message and said you were in a "quandary"? You should know that the word means you are in a total state of perplexity. I mean, you are really perplexed⁹. That's not often the case when it comes to a new business proposal or fundraising round.

　　你是否在邮件中说过自己’左右为难’？你应该知道这个词意味着你在一种完全困惑的状态。我的意思你真的不知所措。但在一份新的商业提案或融资过程中通常不是这种情况。

　　10. Likely

　　Few of us are in the business of predicting the future. If you say something is "likely" in an email, you are expressing to the recipient that you are not really sure about the topic, and you don't have all the facts yet. It's likely that you just lack confidence.

　　几乎没有人从事预测未来的的工作。如果你在邮件中说一件事‘貌似’，你就是在向收件人表达你对这个话题并不确定。，而且你还没有掌握所有情况。你可能只是缺乏自信。

1 forum   

n.论坛，讨论会

参考例句：

• They're holding a forum on new ways of teaching history.他们正在举行历史教学讨论会。
• The organisation would provide a forum where problems could be discussed.这个组织将提供一个可以讨论问题的平台。

2 proficient   

adj.熟练的，精通的；n.能手，专家

参考例句：

• She is proficient at swimming.她精通游泳。
• I think I'm quite proficient in both written and spoken English.我认为我在英语读写方面相当熟练。

3 marketing   

n.行销，在市场的买卖，买东西

参考例句：

• They are developing marketing network.他们正在发展销售网络。
• He often goes marketing.他经常去市场做生意。

4 accounting   

n.会计，会计学，借贷对照表

参考例句：

• A job fell vacant in the accounting department.财会部出现了一个空缺。
• There's an accounting error in this entry.这笔账目里有差错。

5 investor   

n.投资者，投资人

参考例句：

• My nephew is a cautious investor.我侄子是个小心谨慎的投资者。
• The investor believes that his investment will pay off handsomely soon.这个投资者相信他的投资不久会有相当大的收益。

6 recipient   

a.接受的,感受性强的 n.接受者,感受者,容器

参考例句：

• Please check that you have a valid email certificate for each recipient. 请检查是否对每个接收者都有有效的电子邮件证书。
• Colombia is the biggest U . S aid recipient in Latin America. 哥伦比亚是美国在拉丁美洲最大的援助对象。

7 needy   

adj.贫穷的，贫困的，生活艰苦的

参考例句：

• Although he was poor,he was quite generous to his needy friends.他虽穷，但对贫苦的朋友很慷慨。
• They awarded scholarships to needy students.他们给贫苦学生颁发奖学金。

8 quandary   

n.困惑，进迟两难之境

参考例句：

• I was in a quandary about whether to go.我当时正犹豫到底去不去。
• I was put in a great quandary.我陷于进退两难的窘境。

9 perplexed   

adj.不知所措的

参考例句：

• The farmer felt the cow,went away,returned,sorely perplexed,always afraid of being cheated.那农民摸摸那头牛，走了又回来，犹豫不决，总怕上当受骗。
• The child was perplexed by the intricate plot of the story.这孩子被那头绪纷繁的故事弄得迷惑不解。