当你要求女生娇小可人又文静的时候，她们遭受了什么

 　　When she was a little girl, best-selling author and Momastery writer Glennon Doyle Melton was often described as “pretty” or “adorable.” People commented on her childhood beauty, and strangers were drawn¹ in by her smile. But when a young Glennon would speak to these adults with confidence and clarity, she sensed them pulling back.

　　当著名畅销书作家格蕾侬还是个小女孩的时候常常被形容成“漂亮”、“可爱”。熟悉她的人赞叹她的美丽娇小，不熟悉她的人则沉醉于她迷人的微笑。当年轻的格蕾侬拥有了自己的思想，自信且观点鲜明地与这些成年人交谈时，他们则显得有些敬而远之。

　　当你要求女生娇小可人又文静的时候，她们遭受了什么

　　As Glennon writes in her memoir², “Love Warrior,” she was about 10 years old when the disturbing realization³ hit her: “I begin to understand that beauty warms people, and smart cools people.” It’s a passage that stands out to Oprah, who asks the author about it when the two sit down for a conversation aired on “SuperSoul Sunday.” Glennon begins by describing society’s expectation for girls and how it influences their psyche⁴.“I think the world wants girls to be pretty and small and quiet,” she says. “As long as I was able to stay pretty and small and quiet, everything would be fine.”

　　在她的回忆录中的《爱你的战士》一文中写道：美丽让人靠近，睿智让人疏远，这是10岁时经历的现实带给她的深刻记忆。这篇文章引起了Oprah的重视，在一次为期两个小时的直播访谈类节目

　　“SuperSoul Sunday”中，她俩促膝长谈，格蕾侬说受世俗的影响，女孩们心理会产生变化。所有人对于女孩的期望就是：“漂亮、娇小、矜持。只要我能够做到这些那么你就会被世界温柔相待。”

　　Glennon, who has since become celebrated⁵ for her candor⁶ and openness, points out that society’s indoctrination of girls sets them up for failure. “How can you be a successful girl if the purpose of being human and growing is ... to find your voice?” she asks. “It’s a set-up.”

　　此后，格蕾侬因她的坦言率真而出名，她指出是社会对女孩们因循守旧的教条让女孩们很难成功。“在你的生活和成长过程中，如果仅仅一份话语权就需要你去奋斗才能得到，那你怎么可能成功？”她质问道，“这是一个体制问题。”

1 drawn   

v.拖，拉，拔出；adj.憔悴的，紧张的

参考例句：

• All the characters in the story are drawn from life.故事中的所有人物都取材于生活。
• Her gaze was drawn irresistibly to the scene outside.她的目光禁不住被外面的风景所吸引。

2 memoir   

n.[pl.]回忆录，自传；记事录

参考例句：

• He has just published a memoir in honour of his captain.他刚刚出了一本传记来纪念他的队长。
• In her memoir,the actress wrote about the bittersweet memories of her first love.在那个女演员的自传中，她写到了自己苦乐掺半的初恋。

3 realization   

n.实现；认识到，深刻了解

参考例句：

• We shall gladly lend every effort in our power toward its realization.我们将乐意为它的实现而竭尽全力。
• He came to the realization that he would never make a good teacher.他逐渐认识到自己永远不会成为好老师。

4 psyche   

n.精神；灵魂

参考例句：

• His exploration of the myth brings insight into the American psyche.他对这个神话的探讨揭示了美国人的心理。
• She spent her life plumbing the mysteries of the human psyche.她毕生探索人类心灵的奥秘。

5 celebrated   

adj.有名的，声誉卓著的

参考例句：

• He was soon one of the most celebrated young painters in England.不久他就成了英格兰最负盛名的年轻画家之一。
• The celebrated violinist was mobbed by the audience.观众团团围住了这位著名的小提琴演奏家。

6 candor   

n.坦白，率真

参考例句：

• He covered a wide range of topics with unusual candor.他极其坦率地谈了许多问题。
• He and his wife had avoided candor,and they had drained their marriage.他们夫妻间不坦率，已使婚姻奄奄一息。