We are intentional about our parenting.  我们一起用心抚养。

Your spouse’s love and respect for you will grow when he or she sees you loving and parenting to the best of your ability. 伴侣的爱和尊重你的心将增强当当他或她看到你尽最大能力去爱和抚养。

19. Give your spouse freedom. We give each other the freedom to do things that give us pleasure independently. 给你的伴侣自由，我们给彼此的自由独立做事,给我们快乐。

Of course, we don’t take advantage of it, but giving your spouse the opportunity to do the things he or she enjoys is important. 当然,我们不滥用它,但是给你的配偶机会做他或她喜欢的事情是很重要的。

20. Stay out of debt. Financial stress is the number one cause of divorce. 远离债务，金融压力是造成离婚的原因之一。

Sit down together and create a budget that you will both stay committed to and don’t allow yourselves to justify spending more money than you make. 一起坐下来创建一个预算,您都将保持承诺,不允许自己花更多的钱比你赚的多。

21. Continue growing as people. We are both committed to learning, growing and achieving our personal best. 继续成长。我们都致力于学习,成长和实现我们的个人最好成绩。

This includes growing as a spouse, parent and individual. 这包括成长为配偶、父母和独立的人。

As one of us gets better, it helps the other person get better, just as iron sharpens iron. 作为我们变得更好,它帮助别人变得更好,就像铁磨铁。

22. Love your spouse according to his or her love language. 根据TA的爱的语言来爱你的伴侣，

Read Joy’s post titled, Loving People the Way They Need to be Loved is also available as a podcast you can listen to. 读Joy发布的文章标题，爱人需要了解更多关于爱的语言的重要性的方式。你还可以找到关于这篇文章的播客。

So just go to littlethingsmatter.com, and in the searching bar type in Loving People the Way They Need to be Loved to learn more about the significance of learning love languages. 你需要登录小事业重要网站，在搜索栏中输入用对方希望的方式爱他们，然后你就可以知道爱的语言的重要性了。