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Opinion: Want Another Dog, Kids? Let's 'Have That Conversation'

SCOTT SIMON, HOST:

I want to thank politicians for promoting a new cliche I now deploy to avoid giving direct answers to my daughters. When they ask, can we get a second dog, learn how to drive or go camping, I now tell them, well, I think we should have that conversation. It's not a yes. It's not a no. It's not even maybe. I don't know. I haven't thought about it or we'll see.

We should have that conversation is a strategic non-answer. It buys time. It can mean anything. It can mean nothing. It implies understanding. It avoids actual agreement. It really is kind of brilliant. A current candidate for president replied with several iterations of, we should have that conversation in a recent appearance. The phrase enabled the candidate to avoid answering yes or no to direct questions on if she supported convicted felons being able to vote from prison, paying reparations to the descendants of enslaved people, lowering the voting age to 16 and forgiving college debt.

Direct answers might have provoked pointed follow-up questions about fine points and details. Details can sow disagreements. But just saying we need to have that conversation signals sympathy without making any actual commitment.

I know a journalist should abhor such an equivocal noncommittal phrase, but as a parent, I love it. If our children ask, can we stay up until midnight, have an extra 15 minutes on our video game, binge watch "Stranger Things," I've learned to hold them off with I think we should have that conversation. Debate sounds so disagreeable. Talk seems somehow inconsequential, but conversation sounds responsive. Consider it mutual.

Of course, it's also seeped into reporting. When journalists want to say that certain issues spark attention and controversy, we'll often say there's a national conversation going on even if we only mean people are sending up a flurry of tweets. And to spare a lot of Internet searches, yes, I'm sure I've said it myself, possibly even a few minutes ago. But I write in praise of this cliche, not to bury it. When our family gets our next tax bill, I think I might circle the amount the IRS says we owe and send it back with a warm note - what an interesting idea. I think we should have that conversation.

(SOUNDBITE OF SONG, "THE CONVERSATION")

SACRED PAWS: (Singing) You're all wrong. You're walking away. Why would we even try to have this conversation? It can take a while, but we're walking the same way. Reach above the river below. When will I learn?