福克斯新闻 揠苗助长不利于孩子身心健康（在线收听）

Fox on family. As parents, we want what's best for our kids. But sometimes, we also want what we wanted as kids, or just to bask in their glory:

欢迎收听福克斯家庭新闻。我们总想给孩子最好的。但有时候，我们给他们的不过是我们作为孩子想要的，或者只是为了分享他们的荣耀：

"We have to be careful not to project what we felt we never accomplished onto them and then push them so hard with it." Licensed professional counselor and mother-of-three Rhonda Martin says it's a common problem in sports and academics: "Maybe they had a goal of, you know, I wish I had extra after school hours of studying or I had a harder school to go to, and then they project that onto their child and then their child's just like exhausted and worn out."

“我们必须小心，不要把我们从来没有做过的事情投射到他们身上，然后逼着他们去做那些事情。”特许专业顾问兼三个孩子的母亲朗达·马丁说，这是体育界和学术界常见的问题：“也许他们的目标是，我希望我在课余时间有额外的学习时间，或者我想上一所好大学，然后他们就把这个目标投射到他们的孩子身上，然后把自己弄得像孩子一样疲惫。”

Martin says it's important to think about personality, not just talent, when choosing courses or activities: "Don't just keep repeating what you've been doing, whether it's a sport or a foreign language, or whatever math curriculum you've selected. Make sure that you tweak it each year to that child's capacity."

马丁说，在选择课程或活动时，考虑个性而不仅仅是才能是很重要的：“不要只是重复你一直在做的事情，无论是体育运动还是外语，或者你选择的任何数学课程，确保你每年都会根据孩子的能力进行调整。”

And she urges parents to make sure they don't want something more than the child does.

她HIA敦促父母确保他们不想要比孩子更多的东西。

With FOX on Family, I'm Lisa Brady.

感谢您收听福克斯家庭新闻，我是丽莎·布拉迪。