西部落：最有效的约会和求婚方式（在线收听）

RELATIONSHIPS : Spring Flying To Diamond Ring

No matter what stage you are in a relationship, whether you are just starting to like somebody or getting more serious, there're a few things you absolutely need to know.

~~~~~~ Dating ~~~~~~

The first step in a whole relationship process, of course, is dating .You have to make sure you like this person and you have to make sure that you're presenting yourself in the best light possible.

--- dating tip 1: are you relationship ready? ---

People think that they're ready all the time but that may not actually be the case. Of cause you may have just got out of a relationship, you could be rebounding, and of course if you don't see what has gone wrong in your last relationship and the ones before it, doom to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

--- dating tip 2 : read the signs ---

Read the signs. Now that goes for somebody who you just met at a bar or at a grocery store. It also goes for, your platonic friend, maybe a co-worker you've had your eye on. Of course you wanna see if that person has their body-language open to you, if they're flirting or kind of looking you from across the room.

--- dating tip 3 : trust your friends' tastes ---

It's also important to ask your friends for help and let them do the work that they so desperately want to do, so let them set you up. Dating does not have to be difficult, with that said, there're some pitfalls you absolutely should avoid.

--- dating pitfall 1 : don't reveal everything ---

One mistake people can make when they're first meeting somebody is disclosing too, too much about their past relationships, about their family, about all sorts of things that you wanna learn over time.

--- dating pitfall 2 : be yourself ---

You wanna make sure that the pickup line that you're using doesn't sound rehearsed, it doesn't sound cliche, and it really represents who you are. Sometimes you can just say: "Hi, how are you?" I mean it really can be that easy sometimes.

--- dating pitfall 3 : don't be too sure of yourself ---

Of course, girls love that guy at the end of the bar who is absorbed with his friend and looks kind of cool and distant , but they also want to make sure that you're approachable, otherwise nobody's gonna come up to you. Say, you've been dating and you're thinking it might be time to get a little bit more serious with other person.

~~~~~~ Getting Serious ~~~~~~

--- getting serious tip 1: get on the same page ---

Have the talk, don't just assume that you're both gonna be exclusive, that's a mistake that women especially make.

--- getting serious tip 2 : spend time together ---

You wanna have a great time, but you also wanna make sure that you're getting to know this person. Eva Longoria and Tony Parker spend a lot of time together, and especially when they're first dating they make sure that they spend their weekends together and they spend at least 3 nights a week together.