不能结交的朋友-扫兴者(1)

 You Can't Make Friends with this man

 

你不能结交的朋友

 

The Downer

 

扫兴者

 

"The Downer is a person you have to let into your life with care because this trait can be contagious,"Yager says.

 

It goes without saying, of course, that these typesare always down, but ironically, if you're upbeat and positive, that may be the reason the Downer was attracted to you in the first place.

 

It is not your job to be a therapist. But realizethat she may not be able to change without professional help.

 

Decide if she has any redeeming¹ traits and if you can stay upbeat around her.

 

If not, end the friendship. Don't keep her around just because you feel sorry for her

 

 

1 redeeming   

补偿的，弥补的

参考例句：

• I found him thoroughly unpleasant, with no redeeming qualities whatsoever. 我觉得他一点也不讨人喜欢，没有任何可取之处。
• The sole redeeming feature of this job is the salary. 这份工作唯其薪水尚可弥补一切之不足。