讨喜法-言语确认(3)

 讨人喜欢的诀窍

 

Use Verbal Confirmation¹.

 

言语确认。

 

Most psychology² books refer to this technique as "active listening." Active listening revolves³ around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you.

 

大多数心理学书籍把这个称为“积极倾听”。积极倾听围绕的是通过重复对方的一部分话来证明你的倾听技巧。

 

In speech this kind of dialogue can actually go a long way to make people like you more. It makes the other individual feel as though you really are paying attention. Plus, people love to hear their own words echoed back at them as it pats their egos⁴ a bit.

 

在实际对话中这种对话能继续下去并使人们更喜欢你。这会使对方感觉你真的很投入，此外，人们喜欢听到他们的话被附和，这能提高他们的自信。

 

【知识点讲解】

 

refer to vt.涉及；指的是；提及；参考；适用于

 

例句：

 

The rule refers only to special cases.

 

这条规则只涉及一些特殊的情况。

 

I was not referring to her when I said so.

 

当我那么说时,我并不是指她。

 

pay attention 集中注意力

 

例句：

 

You must pay attention to your study.

 

你必须专心学习。

 

Please pay attention to the difference between the two words.

 

请注意这两个词之间的区别。

 

You must pay attention to your teacher in the class.

 

上课的时候必须专心听老师讲课。

1 confirmation   

n.证实，确认，批准

参考例句：

• We are waiting for confirmation of the news.我们正在等待证实那个消息。
• We need confirmation in writing before we can send your order out.给你们发送订购的货物之前，我们需要书面确认。

2 psychology   

n.心理，心理学，心理状态

参考例句：

• She has a background in child psychology.她受过儿童心理学的教育。
• He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在剑桥大学学习哲学和心理学。

3 revolves   

v.（使）旋转( revolve的第三人称单数 )；细想

参考例句：

• The earth revolves both round the sun and on its own axis. 地球既公转又自转。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》
• Thus a wheel revolves on its axle. 于是，轮子在轴上旋转。 来自《简明英汉词典》

4 egos   

自我，自尊，自负( ego的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Their egos are so easily bruised. 他们的自尊心很容易受到伤害。
• The belief in it issues from the puerile egos of inferior men. 这种信仰是下等人幼稚的自私意识中产生的。