有人送你“坏”礼物怎么办？

David Gregory: Clinical psychologist Dr. Judith Coche is here with some advice to keep you from dumping a bowl of punch over those bad-gift givers? Dr. Coche, good morning. Thanks for being here.

Judith Coche: Good morning. My pleasure.

David Gregory: So, the, the whole notion¹ of it being the thought that counts for the holidays is, really nobody buys that anymore, coz' it's just not true, is it?

Judith Coche: Well, it isn't "it isn't". I mean giving is actually part of loving. And we want to love well. So when somebody doesn't give us a gift, we very often think that if we have to ask them, it means that we don't love them.

David Gregory: That they don't know us well enough, they don't know what we like, you know, what we don't like.

Judith Coche: Yes, we shouldn't have to ask, and I think that's wrong, David, I think you can ask somebody what they want. (Really? ) And if I come to you and I say, David, I wanna give you a present.

David Gregory: Right.

Judith Coche: Is that an OK thing to ask you?

David Gregory: Like for an anniversary gift, (Anything, yeah) if you say to your wife, 'if I get you a belt. Is that OK?' (Yeah) Using...

Judith Coche: Or a gun rack, right. . Gun rack, Yeah.

David Gregory: Yeah. A gun rack, right. Yes. There, a lot people think there , there can be a meaning behind a gift, right? (Yes, sure. ) So, if you get kind of a thoughtless² gift or sometimes it doesn't really suit you, you are wondering, am I with a thoughtless person(Right. ) or whether it's your spouse³, your girlfriend, boyfriend or a relative.

Judith Coche: Right. Giving is actually more about the giver than the receiver and we all know challenged givers. I mean they're all challenged givers. And if somebody is a challenged giver then they are going to give the same bad gift over and over again. So everybody has a bad year. (So, ) But once is once (Right, if you'd better keep it, so ) and a series of onces is not once. Excuses.

David Gregory: The question is how, how, should you pretend that you like the gift? To be polite, I guess it depends upon a setting. But if there is somebody that's close to you, at some point, you confront⁴ the person and say, you know, this is not getting you down.

Judith Coche: Both. (Really? )So, in public, the last thing we are going to do is to say, 'oh this is a terrible gift, why did you give it to me?' (Right. Right. ) because everybody in the room is gonna be really, really uncomfortable. But later, you can go to somebody, especially if you know them well and say, let's talk calmly. Can we please talk about Christmas on the gun rack? You know, wasn't it such a good idea?

David Gregory: Okey, let's go though some of you top tips here on the, (Sure. ) for the bad-gift givers to give you something good to (sort of) turn this person around. Eh, accept clumsy gift givers. We just have to accept them from time to time, that, they may not be the... Try to educate, like / you were saying, describe to them. .

Judith Coche: Calmly, quietly. In the peace of after the holidays, not during the holidays.

David Gregory: OK, evaluate relationships. Accept what you can't change in your gift giver and, and, and finally the holidays are about loving, right? And to give is to love.

Judith Coche: Holidays are about loving, awards and all.

David Gregory: Right. OK. Important advice. Thanks very much.

Judith Coche: My pleasure.

David Gregory: Happy holidays. (You too. ) Dr. Judith Coche.

1 notion   

n.概念，意念，看法

参考例句：

• One common Chinese notion is that the elders ought to be respected.中国人共有的一种观念是长者应受到尊敬。
• He had a sudden notion to visit all his relatives.他心血来潮，突然想去拜访他所有的亲戚。

2 thoughtless   

adj.没有考虑的，无深虑的，轻率的

参考例句：

• It was thoughtless of you to forget your sister's birthday.你真粗心，把你姐姐的生日都给忘了。
• I wonder why you are so thoughtless of others.我很奇怪，你为何如此不替别人着想。

3 spouse   

n.配偶(指夫或妻)

参考例句：

• Her spouse will come to see her on Sunday.她的丈夫星期天要来看她。
• What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?在婚姻中保持配偶幸福的最好方法是什么？

4 confront   

vt.遭遇，勇敢地面对，正视，使对质

参考例句：

• A soldier has to confront danger.士兵须面对危险。
• We must confront future with optimism.我们必须乐观地面对未来。