他心中的她是谁?

David Zinczenko, is the editor-in-chief of Men's Health Magazine and he's got a new book out called Men, Love & Sex, the Complete User's Guide for Women. And Kate White is the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan¹ Magazine. Good to see both of you guys. (Good to see you, Roker) Ok, let's start with you, first of all, you, I, I find this list very interesting that you think that the men look for the top characteristics in women. Let's take a look. Eh, number 1: faithfulness, which is interesting, 2: intelligence, 3: beauty, 4: honesty and 5, bottom of the list of the top 5: good in bed. David, were you surprised by those results?

Err², no, I think eh, and we did other research for the book that actually con³, confirmed these. 92% of all men say that they would rather meet the love of their lives, their soul mate, than have amazing sex for 6 months. And that's why I think something like faithfulness and intelligence is ranking at the top of the list. I think there guys are not interested in only a one-night stand.

But, Kate, you guys did something on your website, and a little, a little bit different. Ah, according to men, the, the, here it is, do you think that beauty is the first thing men look for?

Well, I think just because that gets the ball rolling, it's that initial driving force, and if that's not there, you can't have the other things there eventually too.

And it's an exactly flip-flop on your list what women think men look for, number 5: faithfulness and honesty, whereas in Dave's survey, it was number 1.

See, I think those are things guys think they're supposed to say, I think they are things...... (So, so now we are guilty of not being honest.)Not being honest. (Come on!)

Err, I don't think that, you know, the guys see those as important till they meet a woman who doesn't have them. I think one thing that was missing from the, the list, that's important, is a sense of allure⁴ and mystery, kind of the Angelina Jolie factor, that guys just get in a lather⁵ when women keep them guessing and surprise them. I think that's very important.

I think it's important but look, there, the world is full of beautiful women who say that they can not find a date. And I think that speaks to the notion that guys, err, are not just using beauty, you know, as the sole benchmark, it's not what's ruling their hearts and their minds.

So,is it, does that, does, does age make a difference? Cause, I guess when you're 20 or 25 ,maybe yes, you want the hot chick, but when you get to 30, 35, you realize what's really important.

Yeah, but I think what you're looking for is intelligence and faithfulness and honesty, because women are out there in the world, and you wanna make sure that you can trust them and that's the biggest issue today for guys.

David, let's go over some of the, the research, other research from your book. According to this, 72% of men pick honesty over looks. Do you agree with that, Kate?

Nooo....I doubt it, I think you use a phrase: "Hot Mama". I think every guy, no matter what he might think on some intellectual level, really wants that " Hot Mama" that it doesn't have to be beautiful but there has to be some physical connection.

But there is no point in having a beautiful orchard⁶ if you're worrying all the time about somebody picking your fruit. You have, you have to have an honest woman.

Tell that to Brad Pitt.

Touche.

Ha, ok, number 2 , intelligence versus⁷ passion. 53% of men picked passion over intelligence.

Well, that's exactly why men like dogs more than cats. They crave⁸ enthusiasm and loyalty⁹ in big slobbery greetings over distance and finicky behavior.

So in another words, women should go up and lick their guys.

I blame all the cats...(inaudible)That's an excellent start.

Well, passion did win out, I think that it shows just how important that is.

Beautiful face versus beautiful body. 60% of men picked a beautiful face over a beautiful body.

I think you can look into somebody's eyes and see love, and if you look at somebody's face a lot more than you look at their body. And if it's the other way around, then may not be somebody you wanna go out with.

I do think guys are much more forgiving about their bodies than women are. That they like curves, they like fullness, and I think the face does win out. There I have to agree with David on that one.

Ah, David, Kate, thanks so much.


1. benchmark:n.A benchmark is something whose quality or quantity is known and which can therefore be used as a standard with which other things can be compared.标准, 尺度;基准;参照点

2. orchard:n. group of planted fruit trees; garden (Obsolete) 果园, 果树

3. touche:interj. encouraging exclamation¹⁰; type of cheer 一针见血; 说得对

4. slobbery:adj. sentimental¹¹, overemotional

5. finicky:adj. fastidious, overly meticulous; hard to please, picky 过分注意的; 过分周到的; 过分讲究的

1 cosmopolitan   

adj.世界性的，全世界的，四海为家的，全球的

参考例句：

• New York is a highly cosmopolitan city.纽约是一个高度世界性的城市。
• She has a very cosmopolitan outlook on life.她有四海一家的人生观。

2 err   

vi.犯错误，出差错

参考例句：

• He did not err by a hair's breadth in his calculation.他的计算结果一丝不差。
• The arrows err not from their aim.箭无虚发。

3 con   

n.反对的观点，反对者，反对票，肺病；vt.精读，学习，默记；adv.反对地，从反面；adj.欺诈的

参考例句：

• We must be fair and consider the reason pro and con.我们必须公平考虑赞成和反对的理由。
• The motion is adopted non con.因无人投反对票，协议被通过。

4 allure   

n.诱惑力，魅力；vt.诱惑，引诱，吸引

参考例句：

• The window displays allure customers to buy goods.橱窗陈列品吸引顾客购买货物。
• The book has a certain allure for which it is hard to find a reason.这本书有一种难以解释的魅力。

5 lather   

n.(肥皂水的)泡沫，激动

参考例句：

• Soap will not lather in sea-water.肥皂在海水里不起泡沫。
• He always gets in a lather when he has an argument with his wife.当他与妻子发生争论时他总是很激动。

6 orchard   

n.果园，果园里的全部果树，(美俚)棒球场

参考例句：

• My orchard is bearing well this year.今年我的果园果实累累。
• Each bamboo house was surrounded by a thriving orchard.每座竹楼周围都是茂密的果园。

7 versus   

prep.以…为对手，对；与…相比之下

参考例句：

• The big match tonight is England versus Spain.今晚的大赛是英格兰对西班牙。
• The most exciting game was Harvard versus Yale.最富紧张刺激的球赛是哈佛队对耶鲁队。

8 crave   

vt.渴望得到，迫切需要，恳求，请求

参考例句：

• Many young children crave attention.许多小孩子渴望得到关心。
• You may be craving for some fresh air.你可能很想呼吸呼吸新鲜空气。

9 loyalty   

n.忠诚，忠心

参考例句：

• She told him the truth from a sense of loyalty.她告诉他真相是出于忠诚。
• His loyalty to his friends was never in doubt.他对朋友的一片忠心从来没受到怀疑。

10 exclamation   

n.感叹号，惊呼，惊叹词

参考例句：

• He could not restrain an exclamation of approval.他禁不住喝一声采。
• The author used three exclamation marks at the end of the last sentence to wake up the readers.作者在文章的最后一句连用了三个惊叹号，以引起读者的注意。

11 sentimental   

adj.多愁善感的，感伤的

参考例句：

• She's a sentimental woman who believes marriage comes by destiny.她是多愁善感的人，她相信姻缘命中注定。
• We were deeply touched by the sentimental movie.我们深深被那感伤的电影所感动。