西部落：职场中成功与否和你父亲有关?

Well, are you trying to climb the corporate¹ ladder but you are getting absolutely nowhere?

It may not be your fault, or your co-workers' fault, or your bosses' fault, could be your dad, blame him.

That man start of it, Dr. Steven Potter is a clinical psychologist and the author of The Father Factor. Dr Potter, how does your dad decide subtly? Would you become in your career?

Your dad has a huge influence on what you do, just as your mom has a huge influence. And the Father Factor is looking that element. It seem/you see men are defined about what they do outside the home; Well, typically, women and sons are decide..defined about what they do in the home by their moms. It~the work place has always been a masculine model, it's said that the father factor comes in.

What about personal responsibility 'cause I hear, I mean, parents are getting dumped on for everything. My mom screwed me up, my dad screwed me up, bla(h).blah..blah.. And this sounds like more of that. Isn't their personal responsibility that comes in? Can you change? What do you think is your destiny?

Absolutely. It~the father factor is about you~what is your legacy². Not at your fingerpoint, but what are you gonna do with your life? This is your baseline, where will you go from here?

Got ya. Alright, we've got, er, five different categories of who is your daddy. Let's...well,we will try to figure out. (Thank you very much Martini) So, so let's do this in the lightening round. What's this Super-Achiever Father?

Super-Achiever Father is all about a, a parent's productivity, achievement.

Type-A dad.

Absolutely, Type-A plus.

Alright. (and,and would...)

The Time-Bomb Father.

Er,more wattle, emotional and stable.

But we should talk about the impact. The Super-Achiever Father impacts your kid, how?

In their driven, excellent work ethics³.

So they mirror it.

Right.

Ok. Time-Bomb?

Time-Bomb, tends to be more, er,could be addicted⁴ to behavior, that type of parenting. And how's that? You can develop anxiety or you can become very productive in the same way.

The passive father?

The old joke is, is dad asleep on the couch or is he dead?

Yeah, and everybody says (but) if you are not as motivated, be have a passive father,you..but maybe motivated for,er...maybe motivated in others.

Exactly. And the passive dad showed his love through actions, not through much words.

Um-hum, The Absent Father?

That's most problematic style. He, many times lived with his kids, but wasn't involved in your life, didn't really know what they are doing.

And then the, the one we should probably all wanna be according to my calculation is the Compassionate⁵/Mentor⁶ Father.

Absolutely. That's the dad that helps his kid find his roadmap where he wants to go. And like you said earlier it's not about blaming, it's about understanding. That's all of my book is about. Understand who your dad is.

Alright. So if we wanna be the compassionate mentor father, how do we achieve that or do we have any choice in it?

We have a lot of choice. It is all about choices. You don't have to, uh, the key to letting go off blame, and not blaming our dads or our mothers for that fact. (Thank you, hahahaha) In, in, in many times of our career, the glass ceiling isn't so much our careers as is our father factor.

And you do believe that fathers play such a dominant⁷ role in your twenties when you're getting into your career, that..that's when the relationship could change in really excel and so many times that parents back out think what are my kids' right.

Absolutely, in the 20s, F, that, your, your son or your daughter, they really need your kind of stepping and say, "Ok, you are out of college now, you didn't go to college. Where are you going?" Help them read their own roadmap.

Interesting. So step up to the plate at that(absolutely) point instead of sending them away.

You see the bottom-line of the father factor is, most dads tend to step back as your kids get older. It should, should be the universe, move forward, move toward them.

Interesting, well, the book is called The Father Factor. How you father's legacy impacts your career. Dr. Steven Potter. Thank you very much. You can also go to the website www. onefatherfactor. com.

Thank you very much.

Thank you

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I owe him some money.

Yeah!

Alright!

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1 corporate   

adj.共同的，全体的；公司的，企业的

参考例句：

• This is our corporate responsibility.这是我们共同的责任。
• His corporate's life will be as short as a rabbit's tail.他的公司的寿命是兔子尾巴长不了。

2 legacy   

n.遗产，遗赠；先人(或过去)留下的东西

参考例句：

• They are the most precious cultural legacy our forefathers left.它们是我们祖先留下来的最宝贵的文化遗产。
• He thinks the legacy is a gift from the Gods.他认为这笔遗产是天赐之物。

3 ethics   

n.伦理学；伦理观，道德标准

参考例句：

• The ethics of his profession don't permit him to do that.他的职业道德不允许他那样做。
• Personal ethics and professional ethics sometimes conflict.个人道德和职业道德有时会相互抵触。

4 addicted   

adj.沉溺于....的，对...上瘾的

参考例句：

• He was addicted to heroin at the age of 17.他17岁的时候对海洛因上了瘾。
• She's become addicted to love stories.她迷上了爱情小说。

5 compassionate   

adj.有同情心的，表示同情的

参考例句：

• She is a compassionate person.她是一个有同情心的人。
• The compassionate judge gave the young offender a light sentence.慈悲的法官从轻判处了那个年轻罪犯。

6 mentor   

n.指导者，良师益友；v.指导

参考例句：

• He fed on the great ideas of his mentor.他以他导师的伟大思想为支撑。
• He had mentored scores of younger doctors.他指导过许多更年轻的医生。

7 dominant   

adj.支配的，统治的；占优势的；显性的；n.主因，要素，主要的人(或物)；显性基因

参考例句：

• The British were formerly dominant in India.英国人从前统治印度。
• She was a dominant figure in the French film industry.她在法国电影界是个举足轻重的人物。