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Have you ever had a great first date and then never heard from the guy again? Trust me, we've all been there. Hi, I'm Marie Forleo, life coaching author, and I'm gonna share with you three dating mistakes that can be keeping you single.

Here's my first dating mistake: It's believing that a relationship is gonna save you. I'd like to call this my Jerry Maguire school of that's gonna complete me. Do you remember in that movie when Renee Zellweger and Tom Cruise¹ told each other: "You complete me." Well, it was awesome² and it's really heart-fluttering on the big screen. But in reality, that kind of mindset can keep you thinking that something outside of yourself is really gonna solve all your problems, a relationship or a special man. In reality, there is nothing that's gonna solve all your problems or make your life better. So if you can start getting into your life and getting really interested and really trust the idea that you're complete as you are, when you show up on that date, you are gonna be a lot more attractive and that guy is gonna really wanna take you home.

Mistake No.2: trotting³ out those hard stories and complaining. I think you guys know what I'm talking about here. You know when you complain about your ex-boyfriends or your crabby boss or your sloppy⁴ roommate. All those are the kind of things that are just gonna say to a guy, 'Listen, all this girl's into is complaining.' and I don't know about you, but I have not heard of a guy saying: "Guess what, I'm not this really hot to complain each other last night." So, when next time you are on a date, really take a look at where your conversation is going to. Are you keeping it interesting? And are you interested in him? Or are you just trotting out all your hard stories from the day or your past? So give this one a try: Keep your attention on this moment, see if you can keep the conversation about what's happening in the restaurant, what's going on with your friends. You don't have to keep it overly positive, but keep it in the now. That will keep your attention off your complaints and that will get your attraction and your irresistible⁵ level, up.

Dating mistake No.3: It's dating to find the one instead of dating for fun. Here's what happens: Most people are so interested in trying to figure out whether or not the guy across them is actually gonna be the one? But they are not having a good time. If you are not having a good time, there's no way that you can feel if that person is absolutely gonna be the person for you. So take your attention off for figuring out if you are gonna get down the aisle⁶ and see if you can have a good time. Your irresistibility⁷ level is gonna shoot up and you're also gonna have a lot more fun on your dates.

For more great tips on dating and relationships, feel free to check out my new book "Make Every Man Want You". You can go to makeeverymanwantyou.com. Thanks so much for clicking on iMag, I'm Marie Forleo.

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1 cruise   

v.巡航，航游，缓慢巡行；n.海上航游

参考例句：

• They went on a cruise to Tenerife.他们乘船去特纳利夫岛。
• She wants to cruise the canals of France in a barge.她想乘驳船游览法国的运河。

2 awesome   

adj.令人惊叹的，难得吓人的，很好的

参考例句：

• The church in Ireland has always exercised an awesome power.爱尔兰的教堂一直掌握着令人敬畏的权力。
• That new white convertible is totally awesome.那辆新的白色折篷汽车简直棒极了.

3 trotting   

小跑，急走( trot的现在分词 )； 匆匆忙忙地走

参考例句：

• The riders came trotting down the lane. 这骑手骑着马在小路上慢跑。
• Alan took the reins and the small horse started trotting. 艾伦抓住缰绳，小马开始慢跑起来。

4 sloppy   

adj.邋遢的，不整洁的

参考例句：

• If you do such sloppy work again,I promise I'll fail you.要是下次作业你再马马虎虎，我话说在头里，可要给你打不及格了。
• Mother constantly picked at him for being sloppy.母亲不断地批评他懒散。

5 irresistible   

adj.非常诱人的，无法拒绝的，无法抗拒的

参考例句：

• The wheel of history rolls forward with an irresistible force.历史车轮滚滚向前，势不可挡。
• She saw an irresistible skirt in the store window.她看见商店的橱窗里有一条叫人着迷的裙子。

6 aisle   

n.（教堂、教室、戏院等里的）过道，通道

参考例句：

• The aisle was crammed with people.过道上挤满了人。
• The girl ushered me along the aisle to my seat.引座小姐带领我沿着通道到我的座位上去。

7 irresistibility   

n.不能抵抗，难敌

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8 log   

n.记录，圆木，日志；v.伐木，切，航行

参考例句：

• They log for a living.他们以伐木为生。
• And then what do you do with that log?然后你要拿那些记录做什么呢？