西部落：送什么给女友？

Find out how the lady in your life will interpret your holiday gift idea

Choosing the perfect present for your loved ones can be stressful especially for that special someone, what do women really think of the gifts they receive this time of the year, what's she really going to think what is going though her head, Join us today to talk about how does she interprets your gifts, is the editor in chief of Askmen.com James Bassil.

James thanks so much for joining us, this is important information because I think all of us men have been in a situation when we give a gift, we got that strange look, like, maybe she doesn't like it。

Strange look generally isn’t a good thing.

Right, we know, it's very familiar with secretary we’ll delve¹ into that in a moment of the first the website, because really this is one of those websites for a few men. And if got any question about being a man basically you can go there, right?

Yes, we have the answers to all questions to guys

All questions man put

We have run 7 million readers a month. Yeah. And we deal with advice in every area that could have been contrasted to guys. So…

And who is giving out the advice, men or women?

Ah, as for the most of us, men. Most advice senators are men, but when it comes to the dating suff, we’d like to get the woman’ s point of view in there too, because they know what they want.

It's important, right, so if you got a question you’re afraid to ask your wife or your girlfriend, go to the website.

And do it anonymously²

While we mention this whole thing about interpreting gifts, what's that all about?

Well, if you think about you give your girlfriend two gifts that she know she could get. so you can bet that she is thinking about that and she is painting some buildup to it, so once that she receive it, you wanna make sure you delivered and you meet the expectations that she generated.

Get you, very good. OK, let's run the gamut³ of the possible gifts for Christmas, just we cover all the basis the logical gift of course the one women seem to like the most is bland⁴ jewelries, is that a safe bet?

Yes, it can be a safe bet, and in an established relationship it can be a very safe bet, and I specify⁵ established because if you do it too early in a relationship that’s gonna send a message that you might not wanna give, while she might not wanna get, It symbolizes⁶ commitment and as a serious gift, jewelries. If you do it too early it might create some speculation⁷.

What if it’s subtle jewel? It needn’t to be diamond ring, maybe something you know a little golden or golden-looking.

yes, I think you want to be generally subtle and a little discrete⁸ about. Just depend on the flesh value of right. But most importantly tailored for her, make sure send something keeping with her tastes, look at the other jewelries that she owns and her clothes, that really put that kind of summit to it.

So if you’ve being going out for a couple of month, do not rush out to the jewelry⁹ store.

Get back from the jewelry store. You are gonna scare her off.

All right, perfume, another logical gift.

为所爱的人选择完美的礼物是相当有压力的，尤其是为特别的人。在一年的这个时间收到礼物的女子怎样看待礼物，她心里是怎么想的呢？我们今天的节目探讨一下她怎样解释你的礼物，来到我们节目的是Askmen.com的主编James Bassil。

James，非常给那些来参加我们的节目，这是非常重要的，因为我们所有的男人在送礼物是都处于这样的境地。我们看到奇怪的表情，好像她不喜欢我们送的礼物。

奇怪的表情总不是好事。

好的，我们知道，我们在跟秘书打交道的时候他们会浏览这个网站，因为这是众多服务于男人的网站之一。如果有任何问题，可以登录网站，对吗？

是的，男人的所有问题我们都有答案。

所有男人提出的问题。

我们每个月有700万读者。是的。我们有来自各个领域的男子提出的问题的建议。所以……

那么是谁提出的建议呢，男人还是女人？

大多数是男人。大部分建议指导人员都是男人，但是关于约会的问题，我们会考虑女人的观点，因为她们知道自己想要什么。

而且是以匿名的方式征求意见的。

我们提到的关于解释礼物的问题，具体情况是什么呢？

假设你想送给你女朋友两件她猜到自己能收到的礼物。你可以打赌，她正在考虑这件事，正在幻想，一旦她收到了，你想确认你送了她想要的东西，达到了她的期望。

是的，非常好。让我们来说一下圣诞节的可能的礼物。我们把所有为女人准备的礼物都包装好，一般情况下女人最喜欢的是珠宝，这个赌注是安全的吧？

是的，这是最保险的。如果是已经确立的恋爱关系送珠宝是最安全的。我明确说明是已经确立的关系，因为如果你在一段恋爱关系中过早地送这种性质的礼物会传达出你不想传达的错误信息，她可能不想接受到这种信息，这象征着承诺，是一种危险的礼物。如果你过早采取行动会引起不必要的猜测。

如果是比较精细的礼物怎么样呢？不一定是钻戒，可能是你知道的一点金器或者镀金的珠宝。

是的，我认为你想表现的微妙一点，分散一下注意力。仅仅取决于时尚价值。但是最重要的是要适合她，确保找到适合她口味的东西。可以看一下她其他的珠宝和衣服，这可以体现出她的口味。

所以如果你已经为寻找礼物寻找了两个月了，不要着急买珠宝。

1 delve   

v.深入探究，钻研

参考例句：

• We should not delve too deeply into this painful matter.我们不应该过分深究这件痛苦的事。
• We need to delve more deeply into these questions.这些是我们想进一步了解的。

2 anonymously   

ad.用匿名的方式

参考例句：

• The manuscripts were submitted anonymously. 原稿是匿名送交的。
• Methods A self-administered questionnaire was used to survey 536 teachers anonymously. 方法采用自编“中小学教师职业压力问卷”对536名中小学教师进行无记名调查。

3 gamut   

n.全音阶，(一领域的)全部知识

参考例句：

• The exhibition runs the whole gamut of artistic styles.这次展览包括了所有艺术风格的作品。
• This poem runs the gamut of emotions from despair to joy.这首诗展现了从绝望到喜悦的感情历程。

4 bland   

adj.淡而无味的，温和的，无刺激性的

参考例句：

• He eats bland food because of his stomach trouble.他因胃病而吃清淡的食物。
• This soup is too bland for me.这汤我喝起来偏淡。

5 specify   

vt.指定，详细说明

参考例句：

• We should specify a time and a place for the meeting.我们应指定会议的时间和地点。
• Please specify what you will do.请你详述一下你将做什么。

6 symbolizes   

v.象征，作为…的象征( symbolize的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• The use of light and dark symbolizes good and evil. 用光明与黑暗来象征善与恶。
• She likes olive because It'symbolizes peace. 她喜欢橄榄色因为它象征着和平。 来自《简明英汉词典》

7 speculation   

n.思索，沉思；猜测；投机

参考例句：

• Her mind is occupied with speculation.她的头脑忙于思考。
• There is widespread speculation that he is going to resign.人们普遍推测他要辞职。

8 discrete   

adj.个别的，分离的，不连续的

参考例句：

• The picture consists of a lot of discrete spots of colour.这幅画由许多不相连的色点组成。
• Most staple fibers are discrete,individual entities.大多数短纤维是不联系的单独实体。

9 jewelry   

n.（jewllery）（总称）珠宝

参考例句：

• The burglars walked off with all my jewelry.夜盗偷走了我的全部珠宝。
• Jewelry and lace are mostly feminine belongings.珠宝和花边多数是女性用品。