豆知识 2009-07-12&07-18 建立良好的第一印象

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and relationship coach and the owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City.

 

In this clip¹ we will talk about making a good first impression and you only get one chance to do that, right? So a real great way to make a first impression is to make eye contact and really take interest in the person that you are meeting. First off remember their name. If when you first meet somebody, you use their name in a sentence when you talk to them then you let them know that you heard their name, that you listened.

 

And allow them to be in the spotlight², you know, share about yourself and reveal some things but don't monopolize³ the conversation, it's not all about you. It's, even if you're the most interesting person in the world, people want to talk about themselves too. So, be a great listener, ask questions and really want to get to know the other person. And, you know, people like to talk about themselves. So if you give them the opportunity to do that, then they're gonna like you.

 

So, make sure that you dress nice and have good posture⁴. And don't be negative, don't complain about things, no one wants to hear your problems. It's not, you know, anything for a first meeting. Just be positive, be yourself, don't be phony and be a good listener.

 

This is Donna Barnes from New York City.

1 clip   

n.夹子，别针，弹夹，片断；vt.夹住，修剪

参考例句：

• May I clip out the report on my performance?我能把报道我的文章剪下来吗？
• She fastened the papers together with a paper clip.她用曲别针把文件别在一起。

2 spotlight   

n.公众注意的中心，聚光灯，探照灯，视听，注意，醒目

参考例句：

• This week the spotlight is on the world of fashion.本周引人瞩目的是时装界。
• The spotlight followed her round the stage.聚光灯的光圈随着她在舞台上转。

3 monopolize   

v.垄断，独占，专营

参考例句：

• She tried to monopolize his time.她想独占他的时间。
• They are controlling so much cocoa that they are virtually monopolizing the market.他们控制了大量的可可粉，因此他们几乎垄断了整个市场。

4 posture   

n.姿势，姿态，心态，态度；v.作出某种姿势

参考例句：

• The government adopted an uncompromising posture on the issue of independence.政府在独立这一问题上采取了毫不妥协的态度。
• He tore off his coat and assumed a fighting posture.他脱掉上衣，摆出一副打架的架势。