名篇背诵37:关于交友

 　　编者按：

　　要友善，你一定要给人友好的感觉：快乐是友善的基础。一个快乐的人总会面带微笑。微笑好似有吸引力的磁铁，你对别人微笑，你也会得到他微笑的回报。无论在哪里，友善之人都会让陌生人有居家般自在舒适的感觉，设身处地为陌生人考虑，让他有备受欢迎的感觉。

　　Friends and valuative--On Making Friends

　　Everyone needs friends,and if you fail to make friends,you should examine yourself and see if there is something wrong with your personality.

　　May be you have social faults such as snobbishness,talkativeness and using slang¹ etc. which drive away your new acquaintances².Whatever your social faults may be,look at them honestly and make real effort to correct them.

　　To be friendly you must feel friendly.Cheerfulness is the basis of friendliness³.A cheerful people smiles.A smile is a magnet⁴ which draws people.Smile at someone and you are almost sure to get a smile in return.

　　A friendly person does his best to make a stranger feel at home,wherever he happens to be.Put yourself in the other fellow's place and make them feel welcome.

　　Try to remember names.It makes your new acquaintances feel happy when you call them by their names.It gives them the feeling that they have made an impression on you and that mean something to them because you remember them.

　　If you don't agree with other people on a certain matter,you should appear to be friendly.Don't argue,but discuss.You always lose friends if you argue too much.

　　A friendly person thinks of others,and doesn't insist on his own "rights".People who refuse to consider others have few friends.

　　Finally,don't treat people only according to their social positions.Really friendly people respect everyone at all times.

　　关于交友

　　人人都需要朋友，若你在交朋友方面总是失败，就该反省自己，看是否你的个性有什么问题。

　　或许你有些在社交上应该避讳的缺点，比如势力、饶舌、说脏话等，这些都会妨碍你结交新朋友。无论你有什么社交缺点，都该正视它们，尽力摒弃。

　　要友善，你一定要给人友好的感觉：快乐是友善的基础。一个快乐的人总会面带微笑。微笑好似有吸引力的磁铁，你对别人微笑，你也会得到他微笑的回报。

　　无论在哪里，友善之人都会让陌生人有居家般自在舒适的感觉，设身处地为陌生人考虑，让他有备受欢迎的感觉。

　　尽量记住人名。对新认识的朋友直呼其名会令他们很高兴，他们会觉得你对他有了一定的印象，这说明你记住了他们，这对他们很重要。

　　若在某件事上你不能与别人达成一致意见，你该表现出友好。可以讨论，但不要争吵。争吵过甚会使你失去朋友。

　　友善之人常为他人考虑，不会为自己争取“权力”。不顾及别人的人，他的朋友寥寥无几。

　　最后，切勿以社会地位论人。真正的友善之人往往尊重别人。

1 slang   

n.俚语，行话；vt.使用俚语，辱骂；vi.辱骂

参考例句：

• The phrase is labelled as slang in the dictionary.这个短语在这本字典里被注为俚语。
• Slang often goes in and out of fashion quickly.俚语往往很快风行起来又很快不再风行了。

2 acquaintances   

n.相识的人( acquaintance的名词复数 )；熟人；对…有了解；（与某人）认识

参考例句：

• Claire has a wide circle of friends and acquaintances . 克莱尔交游很广。
• We are the casual acquaintances of a long railway journey. 我们是在火车长途旅行中相识的朋友。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》

3 friendliness   

n.友谊，亲切，亲密

参考例句：

• Behind the mask of friendliness,I know he really dislikes me.在友善的面具后面，我知道他其实并不喜欢我。
• His manner was a blend of friendliness and respect.他的态度友善且毕恭毕敬。

4 magnet   

n.有强大吸引力的人或物；磁铁，磁体

参考例句：

• He picked all the pins up with a magnet.他用磁铁捡起了所有的大头针。
• Dalian is a magnet for tourists.大连是吸引游客的地方。