《英语流行话题阅读:语境识词3500》Unit62:爱情指南

　　Unit 62
Love Guide
Are you really in love? Being in love is a powerful feeling. The emotions are intense. It is so exciting that it may be hard to concentrate on school, work, or family responsibilities. Sometimes people confuse real love with the possessive love seen on TV or in the movies. They believe that love is only love at first sight. But real, mature love takes time to develop. Many teens believe they are in love. They may be in love in an immature¹ way. Sometimes teens or adults in love give up all their friends. They stop doing activities they enjoy. Some have jealous partners that never let them be alone or with another person. They are jealous any time their loved one talks to another person. Others are forced to do things they do not want to do. There is a saying that "love is blind." What we think is love may distort our ability to see the real relationship.
Mature love lets you be you. People in mature love have common interests, and are honest with each other. People who share mature love do not see the other person as the solution to their problems. They see the other person as a wonderful gift. They spend time with each other's families and friends. Mature love relationships do not cause people to give up their values. This kind of love rarely develops in the teen years.
Tired of chasing love? Remember, the secret to finding true romance is not trying so hard.
Internet dating, singles clubs and personal ads are popular. However, seeking love an set us up for disappointment. More rewarding is to focus on self-improvement, abandoning chase and attracting love into your life. Here's how to start:
Live in the present. Let go of the thought that everything would be better if only you had someone to share it with. When you meet someone, don't get fixed² on possible outcomes.
Be truly selfish. Know what you want in a partner and say so.
Be self-sufficient. It's not an admission of weakness to have needs and desires -- we all have them and deserve to satisfy them. Meet them yourself in positive ways so you won't get yourself to "use" or scare off would-be partners.
Concerned about dating? Because dating can be distracting and time-consuming, many teens put off dating so they can focus on school, music, sports, or other interests. Group dates allow young teens to interact with the opposite sex in a safe environment. Being with different people lets the teen learn more about the kind of person they enjoy.

1 immature   

adj.未成熟的，发育未全的，未充分发展的

参考例句：

• Tony seemed very shallow and immature.托尼看起来好像很肤浅，不夠成熟。
• The birds were in immature plumage.这些鸟儿羽翅未全。

2 fixed   

adj.固定的，不变的，准备好的；(计算机)固定的

参考例句：

• Have you two fixed on a date for the wedding yet?你们俩选定婚期了吗？
• Once the aim is fixed,we should not change it arbitrarily.目标一旦确定，我们就不应该随意改变。