早安英文 第127期: 英文中「拒绝」这门说话艺术

 英文学习笔记：

handle v. 处理；对待

awesome¹ adj. 了不起的；精彩的，绝妙的

trait n. 特征；特点

take advantage of 利用；占…的便宜

coward n. 懦夫

Most people who can’t reject people are afraid that the person they’re talking to can’t handle rejection². They’re afraid that if they say no, the person won’t want to talk to them anymore.

大多数不会拒绝别人的人，是因为害怕对方不能好好处理他们的拒绝。他们害怕如果他们说不，这个人以后不会想和他们说话了。

Because I have the awesome personality trait of not caring about people’s feelings,especially if I don’t know them well. Don’t get me wrong, It isn’t that I don’t care about people at all but if someone’s feelings are hurt because I said no to something, It doesn’t matter to me. I must have had a good reason to say no.

因为我的性格特质就是不在意别人的感受，特别是我不太了解他们的情况下。别误会，这不是我根本不关心别人，如果某人的感情受到了伤害是因为我说不，那其实和我无关。我有理由说不。

I think it’s stupid. There are a lot of bad people out there that take advantage of people who can’t say no. Because we have these weak people, we have the bad people. If everyone was tough, there wouldn’t be such cowards that try to take advantage of other people.

这是愚蠢的。有很多坏人利用那些不会说不的人。因为有这些软弱的人，才会有不好的人。如果每个人都稍微强硬一点，就应该不会有这么多人被利用。

Be more confident! Think about it, if that person that asked you for something doesn’t want to be your friend anymore because you wouldn’t give it to them, is that REALLY the kind of people you want being your friend? No! It’s better to have 3 friends you can really rely on and trust rather than 100 friends that are all just out to get something from you!

自信一点！设想一下，如果有人因为问你要什么你拒绝了他而不再和你做朋友。这样的人真的是你想当成朋友的人吗？当然不是 ！最好就是有 3 位你能真正依靠和相信的朋友，这样比你拥有100个只想从你身上得到什么东西要好得多！

1 awesome   

adj.令人惊叹的，难得吓人的，很好的

参考例句：

• The church in Ireland has always exercised an awesome power.爱尔兰的教堂一直掌握着令人敬畏的权力。
• That new white convertible is totally awesome.那辆新的白色折篷汽车简直棒极了.

2 rejection   

n.拒绝，被拒，抛弃，被弃

参考例句：

• He decided not to approach her for fear of rejection.他因怕遭拒绝决定不再去找她。
• The rejection plunged her into the dark depths of despair.遭到拒绝使她陷入了绝望的深渊。