不顺心的时候 我们可以做点什么？

 　　Everyone has periods in their lives when everything seems very hard, when there's nobody to talk to and the mood is just getting worse and worse. But why sit and think how pathetic¹ you are? There are some things that may help you lift up your mood. If it fails you, at least while doing these things you won't have time to think of your problems. You win anyway!

　　The first thing you should try is socializingand thinking positively². It's very hard, because usually when we feel depressed³ we lock ourselves at home and try to think about all the bad character issues we have. But if you'll try to force yourself and call a friend for a cup of coffee, the chances for changing your mood into better are very good. Just try to avoid bad thoughts. Instead, try to think only about the bright side of your life. Don't forget: We are what we think we are.

　　You should also try doing something only for yourself, something totally selfish. This could be something you wanted for a long time: maybe a short trip, a coat, a ring or anything that could lift up your mood. This doesn't have to be extravagant⁴ nor costly⁵. The point of all this is being good to yourself.

　　Not only giving presents to yourself can lift up your mood. Buying things to others may be a perfect way to feel happy. Think of your friends, family, relatives or even local charities，choose one person and give him a gift. It doesn't have to be something expensive nor big. It may be just a little toy to your poor neighbor's child. Making another person feel happy will make you feel good in your heart and mind.

　　Renting a good or happy film is always a good idea. Laughter is a very good panacea⁶ for all kinds of illness!

　　Meeting a positive person should be very useful. Just try to keep your problems off the conversation. The idea here is to get out of your shell and have some interaction⁷. Get involved with someone else and your mind will take a turn as well.

　　Most bad moods and mental attitudes are the result of something that had happened to us in the PAST. It is vital to your mind, soul, body and your life on the whole that you stay in the PRESENT with all your thoughts and feelings. Try to concentrate on the present and future to make your life better in every possible way.

　　Taking a walk in a crowded place is also one of the ways out. Seeing other people, understanding that each of them also has days like this should force you to do something that would change the situation.

　　If you have too much time--volunteer it. We usually think that the problems we have are huge, although if you'll try to go to hospital，you'll see that there are a lot of people who have more severe problems. Moreover⁸， you'll see that people are still working, smiling, and laughing. This kind of work will definitely⁹ help you understand that your problems are very small and maybe even funny.

　　Try to meditate¹⁰ while listening to relaxation¹¹ music. It helps to concentrate your mind and relax your body.

　　Don't forget to be creative! Because creating things alters¹² our mood. Creating doesn't include only painting or playing an instrument, it also includes cooking, sewing, writing， photographing and many other activities. While concentrating on creating you will forget how you have been feeling.

　　All you have to do is to take control of your emotions and make them positive in spite¹³ of letting them control you. Making yourself feel better isn't that hard, it's hard only to start doing something that would lift up your mood.

　　每一个人在生活当中，都有这样的一个时期：一切事都是那么不顺心，没有人可以交流，心绪变得越来越糟糕。但是，为什么你坐在这儿总是想着自己是多么可怜呢？这里有些方法能帮助你改善自己的心绪。假如这些方法都不起作用，至少，当你在做这些事的时候，你就没有时间来想你的问题。不管怎么样，我们都是赢家！

　　首先，你应该融入人群并积极地看问题。这很难，因为通常当我们感到失望时，我们就会把自己锁在家里，试图想着我们自身的不好的品质。但是，如果你强迫自己邀请朋友一起去喝一杯咖啡，让自己有个机会去改变心绪，这是非常好的。尽量避免不好的想法，并且，去想生活中精彩的一面。不要忘了：我们会成为我们所想象成的那样。

　　你也应该做一些专门为自己做的事，完全是为你自己的。这可能是你一段时间以来所想要的东西：也许是短途旅行、一件衣服、一枚戒指或者任何能改善你心绪的东西。它不必非常奢侈，也不必非常昂贵，只要它们对你有好处。

　　买礼物给自己不仅仅能改善你的心绪，买东西给别人也是一个使你感到高兴的极好方法。想想你的朋友、家人、亲戚甚至当地的慈善机构，选择一个人并给他买礼物。不必是什么昂贵的或者大件的东西，也许仅仅是给家庭贫困的邻居的小孩买的一个小玩具。让他人高兴也能令自己身心愉悦。

　　租一部好的或搞笑的电影永远是一个好注意，因为笑能治百病。

　　与一个心态积极的人交流也是非常有用的。谈话中避开你的问题。这个理念就是：走出你自己的圈子并与他人多些交流。多与他人在一起，你的想法也会随之转变的。

　　大多数不好的情绪和心理状态是由过去的事情导致的。总得来说，认识到自己所有的想法和感受都存在于现在，这对你的心理、灵魂、身体和你生命是非常重要的。把你的精力放在现在和未来吧，用各种方法使你的生活变得更美好。

　　在拥挤的人群中散步也是一种好的方法。看看别人，想想他们每个也有与你类似的时期，那么，你就应该做一些能够改变情形的事情。

　　如果你有很多的时间，去做志愿者吧。我们通常认为自己面临的问题是巨大的，除非你去了医院，你就会看到那里有许多的人，他们的问题更严重。然而，那些人仍然在工作，在微笑，在开怀大笑。做志愿者将会帮你认识到自己的问题是多么得渺小和可笑。

　　听音乐放松的同时，试着思考一些问题，这有助于你集中精神和放松身体。

　　不要忘了创意！因为创造一些东西也能改变我们的心情。创造不仅包括绘画和演奏乐器，它还包括做饭、缝纫、写作、摄影和其他的一些活动。当我们集中精力创造时，我们就会忘掉过去的情感。

　　所有我们必须要做的就是：控制情绪并使它们积极起来，而不要让情绪来控制你。让自己感觉更好并不难，难的是你开始能做些什么事来改善你的心情。

1 pathetic   

adj.悲哀的，可怜的，感伤的，不足的，差强人意的

参考例句：

• The animal gave a pathetic little whimper.这只动物低声哀叫，令人怜悯。
• I refused to go along with their pathetic charade.我拒不跟他们摆出那副可悲的装模作样的姿态。

2 positively   

adv.明确地，断然，坚决地；实在，确实

参考例句：

• She was positively glowing with happiness.她满脸幸福。
• The weather was positively poisonous.这天气着实讨厌。

3 depressed   

adj.沮丧的，抑郁的，不景气的，萧条的

参考例句：

• When he was depressed,he felt utterly divorced from reality.他心情沮丧时就感到完全脱离了现实。
• His mother was depressed by the sad news.这个坏消息使他的母亲意志消沉。

4 extravagant   

adj.奢侈的；过分的；(言行等)放肆的

参考例句：

• They tried to please him with fulsome compliments and extravagant gifts.他们想用溢美之词和奢华的礼品来取悦他。
• He is extravagant in behaviour.他行为放肆。

5 costly   

adj.昂贵的，价值高的，豪华的

参考例句：

• It must be very costly to keep up a house like this.维修这么一幢房子一定很昂贵。
• This dictionary is very useful,only it is a bit costly.这本词典很有用，左不过贵了些。

6 panacea   

n.万灵药；治百病的灵药

参考例句：

• Western aid may help but will not be a panacea. 西方援助可能会有所帮助，但并非灵丹妙药。
• There's no single panacea for the country's economic ills. 国家经济弊病百出,并无万灵药可以医治。

7 interaction   

n.交流；相互作用，相互影响，合作

参考例句：

• The interaction of the two groups produced many good ideas.两个组的相互交流产生了许多好主意。
• Price is determined through the interaction of demand and supply.价格在供需的相互作用中形成。

8 moreover   

adv.再有，此外，而且

参考例句：

• The rent is reasonable, and moreover,the location is perfect.这房租合理，而且地点优越。
• The task is difficult, and moreover,time is pressing.任务艰巨，并且时间紧迫。

9 definitely   

adv.一定地，肯定地；明确地，确切地

参考例句：

• The team will definitely lose if he doesn't play.如果他不参加比赛，这个队肯定会输。
• I shall definitely be home before six o'clock.6点以前，我一定回家。

10 meditate   

v.想，考虑，（尤指宗教上的）沉思，冥想

参考例句：

• It is important to meditate on the meaning of life.思考人生的意义很重要。
• I was meditating,and reached a higher state of consciousness.我在冥想，并进入了一个更高的意识境界。

11 relaxation   

n.松弛，放松；休息；消遣；娱乐

参考例句：

• The minister has consistently opposed any relaxation in the law.部长一向反对法律上的任何放宽。
• She listens to classical music for relaxation.她听古典音乐放松。

12 alters   

v.改变，更改( alter的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• The weather alters almost daily. 天气几乎天天变化。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
• Pruning, by removing part of the top, alters this ratio. 修剪通过剪除部分树冠而改变根冠比。 来自辞典例句

13 spite   

n.（用于短语）虽然，不顾，尽管

参考例句：

• He has modern ideas in spite of his great age.尽管他年事很高，但思想观念却很入时。
• In spite of his anger,his remarks were restrained.他尽管生气，说的话还是有节制的。