3个秘诀：让你魅力指数翻倍 光彩照人

 　　We all want others to like us. Deep down in our hearts we all want to feel supported, respected, and, most importantly, loved.

　　我们都希望别人喜欢自己。内心深处，我们都渴望被支持、被尊重，更重要的是，被爱。

　　Yet, unfortunately, for many of us this is much easier said then done. We can feel like we always fall short in finding this love that we so desire to experience.

　　然而不幸的是，对很多人来说，这说起来容易做起来难。我们觉得总是找不到自己渴望拥有的爱。

　　Here's the thing: Many of us waste our energy on things that aren't really positively¹ serving us. We worry about whether someone will like us or not. We obsess² about a past relationship that didn't work. We go on a first date with this underlying³ fear of "Will I be rejected?"

　　事实是这样：很多人把精力浪费在对我们没有帮助的事情上。我们担心某人是否喜欢自己；我们执着于一段不欢而散的感情；初次约会时，我们心里一直想着：“我会被拒绝吗？”

　　3个秘诀：让你魅力指数翻倍 光彩照人

　　The trouble is that when we do these things, we allow all these things to suck away our energy, which prevents us from truly standing⁴ in our own unique power.

　　问题是，当我们这么做的时候，我们让这些琐事吸取了自己的精力，阻碍我们真正屹立于自己独特的力量中。

　　And you know what? It's not very attractive. Other people can feel that energy and they know and feel your fear.

　　而且你知道吗？这样可是非常没有魅力的。别人感受得到这种力量，他们能感觉到你的恐惧。

　　So what can we do to truly love and have more confidence in ourselves so that we can truly be irresistibly⁵ attractive?

　　那么我们要怎么做才能真正学会爱、能更有自信、变得更有魅力呢？

　　#1 - Take care of yourself.

　　#1- 照顾好自己

　　Go out and exercise. Eat healthy. Take the time periodically check-in with your body. If you feel exhausted⁶, then take the time to rest. If you feel energized⁷ then make sure you get out there and channel that energy into some great work or work out!

　　出门锻炼、健康饮食、定期花时间做体检。如果感到累了，就停下来休息一会儿。如果感到精力充沛，就出门走走，把精力花在工作或是健身上。

　　#2 - Do what you love to do.

　　#2- 做自己喜欢的事

　　Even though we can't always control avoiding the things that we hate to do, we can find time to do the things that we love to do! If you've always wanted to learn how to paint, then start painting. If you love dancing, then go out dancing!

　　即使我们不能永远避免做自己讨厌的事，我们也要抽出时间来做自己喜欢的事。要是你想学画画已经想了很久了，那么就拿起画笔吧！如果你爱跳舞，你可以赶紧跳起来啊！

　　#3 - Believe in you.

　　#3- 相信自己

　　Believe that you are capable of really having what your heart desires. Believe that you do truly deserve love. Know that you are good enough... you are worthy⁸!

　　相信自己能得到心之所向，相信自己值得被爱，相信自己足够优秀，值得一切！

1 positively   

adv.明确地，断然，坚决地；实在，确实

参考例句：

• She was positively glowing with happiness.她满脸幸福。
• The weather was positively poisonous.这天气着实讨厌。

2 obsess   

vt.使着迷，使心神不定，（恶魔）困扰

参考例句：

• I must admit that maps obsess me.我得承认我对地图十分着迷。
• A string of scandals is obsessing America.美国正被一系列丑闻所困扰。

3 underlying   

adj.在下面的，含蓄的，潜在的

参考例句：

• The underlying theme of the novel is very serious.小说隐含的主题是十分严肃的。
• This word has its underlying meaning.这个单词有它潜在的含义。

4 standing   

n.持续，地位；adj.永久的，不动的，直立的，不流动的

参考例句：

• After the earthquake only a few houses were left standing.地震过后只有几幢房屋还立着。
• They're standing out against any change in the law.他们坚决反对对法律做任何修改。

5 irresistibly   

adv.无法抵抗地，不能自持地；极为诱惑人地

参考例句：

• Her gaze was drawn irresistibly to the scene outside. 她的目光禁不住被外面的风景所吸引。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• He was irresistibly attracted by her charm. 他不能自已地被她的魅力所吸引。 来自《简明英汉词典》

6 exhausted   

adj.极其疲惫的，精疲力尽的

参考例句：

• It was a long haul home and we arrived exhausted.搬运回家的这段路程特别长，到家时我们已筋疲力尽。
• Jenny was exhausted by the hustle of city life.珍妮被城市生活的忙乱弄得筋疲力尽。

7 energized   

v.给予…精力，能量( energize的过去式和过去分词 )；使通电

参考例句：

• We are energized by love if we put our energy into loving. 如果我们付出能量去表现爱意，爱就会使我们充满活力。 来自辞典例句
• I am completely energized and feeling terrific. 我充满了活力，感觉非常好。 来自辞典例句

8 worthy   

adj.(of)值得的，配得上的；有价值的

参考例句：

• I did not esteem him to be worthy of trust.我认为他不值得信赖。
• There occurred nothing that was worthy to be mentioned.没有值得一提的事发生。