发信息交流真的好吗？

 　　Good communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. But is texting the best way to communicate?

　　良好的沟通是任何一种关系的基石。但是，发信息是最好的沟通方式吗？

　　Texting is a good way to start a friendship. But it is not the best way to discuss or argue about touchy¹ or unresolved issues in a relationship.

　　对于开始一段关系来说，发信息是一个好方法。但是，它并不是探讨或者辩论一些敏感话题或者待解决问题的好方式。

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　　Research shows that 58 percent of communication is through body language, 35 percent through vocal² tone and intonation³ and a trivial 7 percent through the content of the message.

　　研究显示，58%的沟通是通过肢体语言，35%是通过语音语调，仅有微小的7%是通过信息。

　　Texting hides emotions. No one can hear the trembling or the anger in your voice. In matters of the heart, letting your fingers do the talking can cause more harm than good.

　　信息隐藏了情绪。没人能听到你声音中的颤抖或者愤怒。而对于内心来说，让手指来交流，弊大于利。

　　We have heard of people breaking up over messages that were misunderstood. On a lighter⁴ note, let’s admit we all have made embarrassing mistakes while texting on our phones because of wobbly finger gymnastics.

　　我们听说过人们因为误会了信息而闹掰的事。值得一提的是，我们都得承认，用手机上发信息时由于指头按的不准而犯过尴尬的错误。

　　Girl: Thank you again for an amazing first date.

　　女孩：再次感谢这次美妙的初次约会。

　　Boy: Any time. When’s the second date? I can’t wait to see your beautiful nipples.

　　男孩：我很荣幸。我们什么时候再见呢？我等不及想看到你漂亮的乳头了。

　　Oh, NO! I’m so sorry I meant dimples, my phone changed it.

　　噢，不是！很抱歉我想说的是美丽的酒窝！不小心按错了！

　　As victims of multi-tasking, we have even sent messages to the wrong people by mistake.

　　作为多任务的受害者，我们甚至不小心将信息发错了对象。

　　A friend of mine erroneously sent a flirtatious⁵ dating message to his friend instead of another girl.

　　我的一个朋友错误地将要发给一个女孩的轻浮的约会信息发给了一个朋友。

　　A foreigner kept exchanging texts in English with a Chinese girl until she finally agreed to meet him for dinner. To his utter shock, he discovered the girl’s spoken English was a complete disaster.

　　一位外国人持续和一个中国女孩用英语发信息聊天，最后他们终于出来见面吃饭。让他吃惊的是，这个女孩的口语一塌糊涂。

　　In contrast to face-to-face communication, texting encourages rapid-fire, single-sentence thoughts. It is possible that people who text a lot become uncomfortable with in-person communication. We don’t know what mood they are in at that moment because we can’t see them physically⁶.

　　和面对面的交流不同，发信息交流时可以快速跳跃，单句思维较多。一个常常发信息交流的人，在与人交往时极有可能变得不自在。发信息时我们看不到他，所以我们无从知晓他当时的心情。

　　We can ignore messages or delay answering questions if we don’t like them, and we will never know how much we’ve hurt someone.

　　如果是我们不喜欢的，我们可以忽略信息，或者延迟回复，我们也永远不知道这有多伤人。

　　In face-to-face situations, we need to give an immediate⁷ response, otherwise it would be misconstrued as being rude or socially insensitive. There can also be linguistic⁸ and cultural barriers. Text messaging is unavoidable. But it is advisable to mix it up with some face-to-face interactions.

　　在面对面的交流中，我们需要马上给出回应，否则就会被理解成无礼或是社交迟钝。同样，也会有语言和文化障碍。发信息是不可避免的，但是能和当面交流交叉运用就更明智了。

1 touchy   

adj.易怒的；棘手的

参考例句：

• Be careful what you say because he's touchy.你说话小心，因为他容易生气。
• He's a little touchy about his weight.他对自己的体重感到有点儿苦恼。

2 vocal   

adj.直言不讳的；嗓音的；n.[pl.]声乐节目

参考例句：

• The tongue is a vocal organ.舌头是一个发音器官。
• Public opinion at last became vocal.终于舆论哗然。

3 intonation   

n.语调，声调；发声

参考例句：

• The teacher checks for pronunciation and intonation.老师在检查发音和语调。
• Questions are spoken with a rising intonation.疑问句是以升调说出来的。

4 lighter   

n.打火机，点火器；驳船；v.用驳船运送；light的比较级

参考例句：

• The portrait was touched up so as to make it lighter.这张画经过润色，色调明朗了一些。
• The lighter works off the car battery.引燃器利用汽车蓄电池打火。

5 flirtatious   

adj.爱调情的，调情的，卖俏的

参考例句：

• a flirtatious young woman 卖弄风情的年轻女子
• Her flirtatious manners are intended to attract. 她的轻浮举止是想引人注意。 来自《简明英汉词典》

6 physically   

adj.物质上，体格上，身体上，按自然规律

参考例句：

• He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服，心绪也很乱。
• Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。

7 immediate   

adj.立即的；直接的，最接近的；紧靠的

参考例句：

• His immediate neighbours felt it their duty to call.他的近邻认为他们有责任去拜访。
• We declared ourselves for the immediate convocation of the meeting.我们主张立即召开这个会议。

8 linguistic   

adj.语言的，语言学的

参考例句：

• She is pursuing her linguistic researches.她在从事语言学的研究。
• The ability to write is a supreme test of linguistic competence.写作能力是对语言能力的最高形式的测试。