梦想其实并不远！7大实用生活技巧

 Five years ago, I was miserable¹ and alone. Today, I get paid to do what I love. And I have an amazing family.

五年前，我一个人过活，生活凄惨。现在，我有了一份喜欢的工作，而且有一个很棒的家庭。

It did not happen because of luck. Or because I did my visualizations. It happened because I took practical steps forward each and every day. And in this article, you’ll discover what those steps were.

这一切不是因为运气，或是我自己在脑海中臆想。而是因为我每天都采取了实用的步骤来向前进。在这篇文章中，你会了解那些步骤是什么。

 

1. Semi-Clarity

大体上弄明白

The first thing you have to get clear on is this: What do you REALLY want? You doní’t have to be crystal clear, but you do want a general idea of where you’re going. If you still can’t answer this question, just start somewhere. If you don’t know where you’re going, it doesn’t matter where you start.

你要弄清楚的第一件事：你真正想要什么？你不需要非常清楚，但是要大体知道你要到达什么位置。如果你仍然回答不出这个问题，随便找个地方开始。如果你不知道自己去往何方，那从哪里开始就并不重要。

You probably have “shoulds” in your life. You should do this. You should do that. Is it what you truly want? What you should do is not important. What you truly want to do is what matters.

在你的生活中，你很可能有很多“应该做的事情”。你应该做这件事，你应该做那件事。它是你真正想要的吗？你应该做什么并不重要，你真正想做什么才是重要的。

Once you make that distinction, and once you’re willing to eliminate what other people think you should do, everything changes. This is your life. And if you want to live the life of your dreams, you have to reclaim³ your power. You have to take responsibility for your life.

一旦你把两者区别开来，一旦你要排除掉别人觉得你应该做的事情，一切都会发生变化。这是你的生活。如果你想要活在自己的梦想里，你必须得重申你的权利。你必须为自己的生活负责。

 

2. Embrace Confusion

拥抱困惑

When you’re starting out, you will be confused. I know I was. All I knew was that I wasn’t happy. I was frustrated⁴ and I just wanted to hide somewhere with a nice bowl of ice cream with candy on top.

开始时，你会感到困惑。我知道我曾经这样过。我知道自己并不开心。我很沮丧，想找个地方藏起来，吃一碗上面带有糖果的冰激凌。

This confusion happens because you’re embarking⁵ on a new journey. It’s a sign that you’re breaking free from your old way of being.

这种困惑是因为你正开始一种新的旅程，这是你从旧生活方式中脱离出来的标志。

It ís like when a butterfly breaks free from its cocoon⁶. At first it seems like the whole world is crashing down, but suddenly, a whole new world opens up. There are wings. There’s freedom. There’s life.

就像是蝴蝶从它的茧里飞出来一样。刚开始会觉得整个世界都好像崩溃了，但突然间一个新的世界打开了。有翅膀，有自由，有生活。

That’s why confusion is not to be avoided, but to be embraced. It is a sign that you’re on the right path.

这就是为什么不要去避免而要去拥抱困惑，它是你走在正确道路上的标志。

 

3. Mentor⁷/Training

导师/培训

In order to take action when you’re confused, you need someone to guide you. You have to constantly think about what you can do. And what your next smallest step is.

要想在困惑时采取行动，你需要有人来指导你。你必须不断去想自己能做什么事情。你的下一个最小的步骤是什么。

This could be a book, a training course, or even a mentor. But whatever you do, pick one source of information. Do not become an information junkie. It is another form of procrastination⁸. If you want to create your dream life, you have to move forward.

可以是一本书、一门培训课程、甚至一个导师。但是无论你做什么，选择一个信息源，不要对信息上瘾。那是拖延症的另一种形式。如果你想创造出自己的梦想生活，你必须要向前进。

 

4. Action

行动

Action is key. People talk about visualization² and the law of attraction, which is fine, but it won’t get you what you want. Things will not magically manifest in your life unless you take action.

行动是关键。人们谈论视觉化和吸引力法则，这很好，但是它不会给你你想要的东西。很多东西不会魔法般地在你的生活中出现，除非你采取行动。

It is only when you take action, when you commit, that things will start to happen. When you show you are willing to do this, that’s when your life will change. Jump and the support net will appear beneath you.

只有当你采取行动、当你去做时，事情才会发生。当你表示出你愿意做这件事时，你的生活就会发生变化。当你跳起来时，支撑网就会在你下面出现。

 

 

So, what did I do? I focused on my next smallest step. I was confused, and I still am from time to time, but I just focused on what I needed to do next. I’ve built a successful online business around my passion. When I was building it, all I did was focus on my next smallest step.

那么我做了什么事情？我把注意力集中在下一个最小的步骤上。我困惑过，现在也时不时地会迷茫，但我只是把注意力集中在下一步我需要做的事情上。我凭热情建立了一个成功的在线业务。当我建立它时，我所做的事情就是把注意力集中在下一个最小的步骤上。

 

5. Commitment

承诺

I believe one of the most important factors of my success was my commitment to making it work.

我相信我成功的最主要的一个因素是我承诺要成功。

I stopped looking for permission. I took back my power and I used what I had to get the results I needed. I committed to what I was doing. I no longer looked for permission to do anything. I just did it.

我不再寻求别人的同意。我收回我的权利，我用已有的东西来得到需要的结果。我对自己正在做的事情进行了承诺。我做任何事情都不再寻找别人的同意，我就是去做。

You have to commit to what you are doing. It ís not about maybe achieving your dreams. It’s about making it happen. You either do it or you die trying. It’s not a question of if, but a question of WHEN.

你必须对自己所做的事情进行保证。不是因为这样可能实现你的梦想。而是因为这样能让它发生。要么去做，要么一直努力尝试。不是如果的问题，而是何时的问题。

 

6. Proper Expectations

恰当期望

Most people give up before they see the first sign of success. That’s why you need to have the proper expectations.

大部分人在看到成功的第一个信号前就放弃了。这就是为什么你就需要有恰当的期望。

You cannot expect to live the lifestyle you want in 6 months. There are a lot of products promising⁹ you that, but that’s just marketing¹⁰ hype.

你不可能在6个月内过上你想要的生活。有很多产品对你这样承诺过，但是那只是营销骗局。

Ignore it. And embrace reality. This will take longer than you expect, but shorter than you fear. And besides, who cares how long it takes? Are you going to give up on your dreams and live the rest of your life in regret? That’s unacceptable.

忽视它，拥抱现实，这会比你预想的时间要长，但是比你害怕的时间要短。此外谁关心到底花了多长时间？你准备放弃梦想让自己余生在悔恨中度过吗？我无法接受这样的命运。

 

7. Excuse Management

借口管理

And finally, you have to fine-tune your internal bullshit detector¹¹.

最后，你得对自己的借口探测器进行微调。

You will have excuses. We all have reasons for why we can't do something. But if you truly want results, you have to get proficient¹² at swiping your excuses to the side.

你会找很多借口。当我们不能做某些事情时，我们都有很多理由。但如果你真正地想要结果，你就必须能熟练地把借口甩到一边。

In the end, the difference between those living their dreams, and those who are just getting by, is their mindset. They are unwilling¹³ to put up with the excuses their mind makes. These are just thoughts, merely suggestions from your mind.

最后，那些过着自己梦想生活的人和那些只是混日子的人之间的区别就在于他们的心态。他们不愿意忍受他们所想出来的借口。这些只是想法，只是你大脑的建议。

You can make your wildest dreams come true. Will it be scary? Hell yes. Will it take a long time? It will take the time it takes. Will it be worth it? More than you can imagine.

你可以让自己最疯狂的梦想成真。会可怕吗？当然了。会花很长时间吗？该花多长时间就花多长时间。会值得吗？比你想象得要值。

But most people never do what they truly want. They end up looking back at the end of their lives wishing theyíd done more. The truth is that the path to your dreams starts with one step. And you can take that step today.

但是大部分人都从不做他们真正想要做的事情。他们在生命结束之际回首往事时，希望自己做了更多的事情。事实上，通往梦想的道路从第一步开始。今天你就可以迈出这一步。

1 miserable   

adj.悲惨的，痛苦的；可怜的，糟糕的

参考例句：

• It was miserable of you to make fun of him.你取笑他，这是可耻的。
• Her past life was miserable.她过去的生活很苦。

2 visualization   

n.想像，设想

参考例句：

• In 2D visualization and drawing applications, vertical and horizontal scrolling are common. 在二维的可视化及绘图应用中，垂直和水平滚动非常普遍。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓
• Ophthalmoscopy affords the only opportunity for direct visualization of blood vessels. 检眼镜检查法提供直接观察血管的唯一机会。

3 reclaim   

v.要求归还，收回；开垦

参考例句：

• I have tried to reclaim my money without success.我没能把钱取回来。
• You must present this ticket when you reclaim your luggage.当你要取回行李时，必须出示这张票子。

4 frustrated   

adj.挫败的，失意的，泄气的v.使不成功( frustrate的过去式和过去分词 )；挫败；使受挫折；令人沮丧

参考例句：

• It's very easy to get frustrated in this job. 这个工作很容易令人懊恼。
• The bad weather frustrated all our hopes of going out. 恶劣的天气破坏了我们出行的愿望。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 embarking   

乘船( embark的现在分词 )； 装载； 从事

参考例句：

• He's embarking on a new career as a writer. 他即将开始新的职业生涯——当一名作家。
• The campaign on which were embarking was backed up by such intricate and detailed maintenance arrangemets. 我们实施的战争，须要如此复杂及详细的维护准备。

6 cocoon   

n.茧

参考例句：

• A cocoon is a kind of silk covering made by an insect.蚕茧是由昆虫制造的一种由丝组成的外包层。
• The beautiful butterfly emerged from the cocoon.美丽的蝴蝶自茧中出现。

7 mentor   

n.指导者，良师益友；v.指导

参考例句：

• He fed on the great ideas of his mentor.他以他导师的伟大思想为支撑。
• He had mentored scores of younger doctors.他指导过许多更年轻的医生。

8 procrastination   

n.拖延，耽搁

参考例句：

• Procrastination is the father of failure. 因循是失败的根源。
• Procrastination is the thief of time. 拖延就是浪费时间。

9 promising   

adj.有希望的，有前途的

参考例句：

• The results of the experiments are very promising.实验的结果充满了希望。
• We're trying to bring along one or two promising young swimmers.我们正设法培养出一两名有前途的年轻游泳选手。

10 marketing   

n.行销，在市场的买卖，买东西

参考例句：

• They are developing marketing network.他们正在发展销售网络。
• He often goes marketing.他经常去市场做生意。

11 detector   

n.发觉者，探测器

参考例句：

• The detector is housed in a streamlined cylindrical container.探测器安装在流线型圆柱形容器内。
• Please walk through the metal detector.请走过金属检测器。

12 proficient   

adj.熟练的，精通的；n.能手，专家

参考例句：

• She is proficient at swimming.她精通游泳。
• I think I'm quite proficient in both written and spoken English.我认为我在英语读写方面相当熟练。

13 unwilling   

adj.不情愿的

参考例句：

• The natives were unwilling to be bent by colonial power.土著居民不愿受殖民势力的摆布。
• His tightfisted employer was unwilling to give him a raise.他那吝啬的雇主不肯给他加薪。