快乐人群的10条生活法则

 Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

总觉得快乐是和运气、环境和财富有关？再好好想想吧。

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

快乐是一种心态。如果你想要提高自己感知快乐的能力，就先看看快乐人群是如何对待下面这十件事情的吧。

 

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

快乐的人会在生活中找到平衡点

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

快乐的人往往有一个共性：他们对自己拥有的一切十分知足，也不会花很多时间去担心没有拥有的事情以及给自己施加压力。不开心的人往往相反：他们花太多时间去想自己到底缺少什么。快乐人群的生活也十分平衡。这意味着他们会把时间花在那些重要的事物上面，比如家庭、朋友、事业、健康、宗教等等。

 

2. Happy people abide² by the golden rule.

快乐人群遵守黄金法则

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody³ this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate⁴. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

我相信你从小就听过这样一句名言“已所不欲勿施于人”，快乐人群深谙这一法则。他们尊重别人，对其他人的想法和感受极度敏感。他们有同情心。大部分时候别人也会这样对待他们。

 

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

快乐人群不拘于小事

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor⁶ inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate⁷ feelings of sadness, guilt⁸, resentment⁹, greed, and anger.

和那些不快乐的人相比，快乐人群最大的特点在于他们不拘小节。坏事时时发生。快乐人群意识到这点，也有能力力挽狂澜，继续前进。不快乐的人总是纠结于一丁点的不顺心和小事情，带来的是无止境的难过、负罪感、怨恨、妒忌以及愤怒。

 

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.[/en]

快乐人群对自己的行为负责

[en]Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

 

快乐的人也并非十全十美的，他们深知这一点。当他们搞砸了，就会承认。他们会意识到自己的不足努力去改进。不开心的人总是会怪罪在别人头上，总是去找个理由来说明为什么事情不是那样发展的。而另一方面来说，开心的人总是坚信下面这句话：

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

“世界上有两种人：一种是做事的人，另一种是找理由说为什么不做事的人。”

 

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

开心人的周围都是其他开心的人

One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery¹⁰ loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout¹ of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

快乐人群一个显著特征在于他们喜欢和其他快乐的人一起出去。苦难也喜欢陪伴，不快乐的人总喜欢和那些有着相同消极想法的人在一起。如果你现在备感忧伤、压抑、担忧和愤怒，就多花点时间和快乐的小伙伴们或家人在一起吧。很有可能，你会发现他们积极的态度能影响到你。

 

 

 

6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

快乐人群对自己和他人都很诚实

People who are happy often exhibit the virtues¹¹ of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid¹² feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

快乐的人往往都有着诚实值得信赖的优点。哪怕真相很伤人，他们宁愿给你直白的反馈，同时也希望获得实话。快乐的人尊重对他们那些有话直说诚实的人。

 

7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

快乐人群会散发出快乐的信号

This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator¹³ between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip¹⁴ side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture¹⁵ may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

这一点十分显而易见，可作为区分快乐人群和不快乐人群的关键点。想想你那些快乐的朋友们吧，有可能你能想到对他们的印象就是微笑，大笑和看起来很开心。而那些不是很快乐的人似乎看起来总是郁郁寡欢。他们总是无精打采的站着，感觉缺乏自信。

 

8. Happy people are passionate⁵.

快乐人群都富有激情

Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

快乐人群还有一个共同点在于他们能找到生活中的激情，并把这些激情追求到最大化。快乐的人最终会找到他们想要寻找的东西，也会花时间做自己喜欢的事情。

 

9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

快乐人群把挑战当做机遇

Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

快乐的人儿总是欣然把挑战当成学习成长的机遇。他们会把消极化为积极，充分利用这看起来不利的局面。他们不会花精力在无法掌控的事情上，往往会寻找解决方案创造机会去战胜困难。

 

10. Happy people live in the present.

快乐的人总是活在当下

While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

不快乐人总是沉湎于过去担心着未来，而快乐的人往往活在当下。他们感激着“现在”，会努力让现在的生活达到完美。他们的人生哲言是：

There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

有个理由叫做“现在”。人生本就是礼物。

So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

如果你想要给自己的生活添加点快乐，想想上面的十条法则，看看如何让自己变得更好吧。

1 bout   

n.侵袭，发作；一次(阵，回)；拳击等比赛

参考例句：

• I was suffering with a bout of nerves.我感到一阵紧张。
• That bout of pneumonia enfeebled her.那次肺炎的发作使她虚弱了。

2 abide   

vi.遵守；坚持；vt.忍受

参考例句：

• You must abide by the results of your mistakes.你必须承担你的错误所造成的后果。
• If you join the club,you have to abide by its rules.如果你参加俱乐部，你就得遵守它的规章。

3 embody   

vt.具体表达，使具体化；包含，收录

参考例句：

• The latest locomotives embody many new features. 这些最新的机车具有许多新的特色。
• Hemingway's characters plainly embody his own values and view of life.海明威笔下的角色明确反映出他自己的价值观与人生观。

4 compassionate   

adj.有同情心的，表示同情的

参考例句：

• She is a compassionate person.她是一个有同情心的人。
• The compassionate judge gave the young offender a light sentence.慈悲的法官从轻判处了那个年轻罪犯。

5 passionate   

adj.热情的，热烈的，激昂的，易动情的，易怒的，性情暴躁的

参考例句：

• He is said to be the most passionate man.据说他是最有激情的人。
• He is very passionate about the project.他对那个项目非常热心。

6 minor   

adj.较小(少)的，较次要的；n.辅修学科；vi.辅修

参考例句：

• The young actor was given a minor part in the new play.年轻的男演员在这出新戏里被分派担任一个小角色。
• I gave him a minor share of my wealth.我把小部分财产给了他。

7 perpetuate   

v.使永存，使永记不忘

参考例句：

• This monument was built to perpetuate the memory of the national hero.这个纪念碑建造的意义在于纪念民族英雄永垂不朽。
• We must perpetuate the system.我们必须将此制度永久保持。

8 guilt   

n.犯罪；内疚；过失，罪责

参考例句：

• She tried to cover up her guilt by lying.她企图用谎言掩饰自己的罪行。
• Don't lay a guilt trip on your child about schoolwork.别因为功课责备孩子而使他觉得很内疚。

9 resentment   

n.怨愤，忿恨

参考例句：

• All her feelings of resentment just came pouring out.她一股脑儿倾吐出所有的怨恨。
• She cherished a deep resentment under the rose towards her employer.她暗中对她的雇主怀恨在心。

10 misery   

n.痛苦，苦恼，苦难；悲惨的境遇，贫苦

参考例句：

• Business depression usually causes misery among the working class.商业不景气常使工薪阶层受苦。
• He has rescued me from the mire of misery.他把我从苦海里救了出来。

11 virtues   

美德( virtue的名词复数 )； 德行； 优点； 长处

参考例句：

• Doctors often extol the virtues of eating less fat. 医生常常宣扬少吃脂肪的好处。
• She delivered a homily on the virtues of family life. 她进行了一场家庭生活美德方面的说教。

12 candid   

adj.公正的，正直的；坦率的

参考例句：

• I cannot but hope the candid reader will give some allowance for it.我只有希望公正的读者多少包涵一些。
• He is quite candid with his friends.他对朋友相当坦诚。

13 differentiator   

区分者，微分器

参考例句：

• The jam fault of the differentiator is dangerous to steam turbine. 微分器卡涩对汽轮机正常运行有较大的危害。
• By using differentiator series method, the formula of partial integration is obtained. 用微分算子级数法得到分部积分公式，使一类积分计算变得十分简单。

14 flip   

vt.快速翻动；轻抛；轻拍；n.轻抛；adj.轻浮的

参考例句：

• I had a quick flip through the book and it looked very interesting.我很快翻阅了一下那本书，看来似乎很有趣。
• Let's flip a coin to see who pays the bill.咱们来抛硬币决定谁付钱。

15 posture   

n.姿势，姿态，心态，态度；v.作出某种姿势

参考例句：

• The government adopted an uncompromising posture on the issue of independence.政府在独立这一问题上采取了毫不妥协的态度。
• He tore off his coat and assumed a fighting posture.他脱掉上衣，摆出一副打架的架势。