关于婚礼的中西文化差异

 关于婚礼的中西文化差异 Chinese and Western culture in Marriage

Hi there, 

I'm a British Black guy and I've been dating my Chinese girlfriend for over a year now. 

She is a international student. She moved in with me with 2 months of knowing each other.

She wants to know if we have a future together. 

We had an argument recently as we wanted to talk about marrying. 

I wanted to discuss with her how we can plan financially and how we can help each with mortgages¹, bills and food. My Girlfriend said that in Chinese 

culture that the man should pay for the house and that she will play no part in helping² out at all. 

She also mentioned that in China when the man gets paid all the money goes to the woman account³ and she will sort out the bills. 

I'm a western guy and this came as a big shock to me what I was hearing. I thought a couple should share all responsibilities⁴ together. 

I love my girlfriend and her parents are totally happy with us being together and I would like to see a future with her. 

Can someone please give me some advice on Chinese culture and the roles a man and woman play in marriage. 

How can we compromise⁵? 

1 mortgages   

n.抵押借款( mortgage的名词复数 )；抵押债款的利息v.抵押( mortgage的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• The corporation extends loans, secured against first mortgages. 公司提供以押品作担保的流动资金。 来自辞典例句
• Traditionally, S&Ls collected small savers' deposits and invested them in long-term home mortgages. 储贷业历来吸收小储户的存款，把它投入到购买住房的长期贷款之中。 来自英汉非文学 - 政府文件

2 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。

3 account   

n.叙述；帐目；帐户

参考例句：

• She left out an important item in her account.她的账目漏掉了一个重要的项目。
• He has made several withdrawals from his bank account.他从银行账户上提了几次款。

4 responsibilities   

责任( responsibility的名词复数 )； 职责； 责任感； 责任心

参考例句：

• the disproportion between the extra responsibilities and the small salary increase 额外的责任与小幅增加的薪金之间的不相称
• The job encompasses a wide range of responsibilities. 这项工作涉及的职责范围很广。

5 compromise   

n.妥协；妥协方案；vt.损害；vi.妥协，让步

参考例句：

• The spokesman made it clear that no compromise was yet in sight.发言人表明，目前还不会妥协。
• The probable outcome of the talks is a compromise.会谈的结果很可能是妥协。