爱她的25种方式

 　　Misunderstandings are the biggest problem in most relationships. Sometimes it can be solved easily, you just don’t know what it is exactly. It could be that she doesn’t feel loved. When you love someone, you can easily take it for granted¹. But love is not something to think lightly about. It’s one of the most important things in life, because every other aspect is touched by it.

　　误会是感情中最大的问题。有时候很容易就解决了，你只是不知道准确的原因。有可能是她感觉不到你爱她。当你爱一个人的时候，很容易认为那是理所应当的。但是爱不是能轻易思考的东西。它是生命中最重要的事情之一,因为其他的每一个方面都是被触动的。

　　But how do you show it? It may not come easy to everyone. Appreciating a person can be done in many ways. So I will help you on your way. Here are 25 ways to show her you really do love her!

　　但你要怎么表现呢？也许每个人都不容易。在很多方面是可以做到的欣赏一个人。所以我会给你一些帮助。这里有25种方法给她你真的爱她1.Talk respectfully². Don’t make her feel like she is less important.

　　恭敬地交谈。不要让她觉得她是那么重要。

　　2. Listen to her. Not just to the words she’s saying but to the feeling she tries to express.

　　听她的。不仅她说的话,但她试图表达的感觉。

　　3. Compliment³ her. Be specific⁴, so she knows you really mean it.

　　赞美她。具体点,这样她就知道你是真心的。

　　4. Try to show interest in things she enjoys. Does she like cooking? Help her! Does she like sports? Play it with her! Does she like art? Watch it with her!

　　试着对她喜欢的东西表现出兴趣。她喜欢烹饪吗?帮帮她吧！她喜欢运动吗?那就跟她玩!她喜欢艺术吗?跟她一起看。

　　5. Consider her opinion before making a decision. Ask her what she thinks and honestly consider it.

　　在做决定之前考虑她的意见。问问她的想法并诚实地考虑。

　　6. Be forgiving. There is no better way to love someone than to openly forgive and forget. Holding a grudge⁵ will not improve your relationship.

　　要宽容。没什么比原谅遗忘更能表现出你爱一个人。怀有怨恨不会改善你们的关系。

　　7. Plan a small trip. Take her to a place where you can spend quality time.

　　计划一次小远行。带她去一个值得的地方。

　　8. Set goals together. If you know from each other what you are working toward⁶, it is easier to support each other. Also, having goals together will bring you closer.

　　一起制定一个目标。如果你们都知道彼此的努力方向，那么互相支持就变得很容易了。同样，有共同的目标也会让你们走得更近。

　　9.Admit your mistakes. Being open and honest, showing that you too are imperfect will make her feel closer to you.

　　承认你的错误。开成公布的表明你的不完美也会让她感觉更能接近你。

　　10.Have her back. If you get in a situation where you have to choose between your wife and others, choose her. Especially when it is a situation with your family. She already feels like she took you away from them, she needs to feel that you don’t hold that against her.

　　选择她。如果你处在一个必须在妻子和其他人中选择一个的情境中，那就选择她。特别是与你的家人之间作选择的时候。她已经感觉到是她让你远离他们,她需要感觉到你不会因此反对她。

　　11. Give her a mini massage⁷, like a backrub. Who doesn’t enjoy attention like that?

　　给她一个迷你按摩,像背部按摩。谁会不喜欢这样的关注？

　　12. If she’s not feeling well, even just a headache, make sure you help her out as much as possible. She takes care of you all the time, so show her you appreciate that by taking care of her.

　　如果她不舒服,哪怕只是头痛,你也一定要尽可能多的帮她。她一直都需要你的照顾,那就表现出你知道要照顾她。

　　13. When she asks you to help out with something, don’t respond⁸ annoyed⁹. Show her you don’t mind giving a hand. She doesn’t enjoy everything she needs to do either, but someone has to do it.

　　当她让你帮忙做事的时候,不要生气的回答。告诉她,你不介意帮她。她不喜欢什么都要她去做,但总得有人去做。

　　14.When you discus¹⁰ a serious subject, don’t go off joking around.Peacefully listen and talk.

　　当你们在讨论一个严肃的话题时不要开玩笑。和平交谈,听听她们的想法。

　　15.When having a conversation, look her in the eye. Show her that you are listening. Don’t get distracted¹¹.

　　谈话的时候,看着她的眼睛。表现出你在听她说，不要分心。

　　16. Spend as much time as possible with her. She wants to feel like she is the most important person in the world to you. Spending time is the number one thing you do with the number one person in your life.

　　尽量花时间陪伴她。她想觉得对你而言她是世界上最重要的人。和最重要的人共度时光是生活中最重要的一件事。

　　17. Put effort into looking good. Workout, shave, shower, put on some deodorant¹². Whatever makes her feel attracted to you, do it.

　　尽力让自己变得好看。锻炼，刮胡子,洗澡,喷一些除臭剂。只要是能吸引到她的事情，那就去做。

　　18. Help out around the house, without special recognition¹³! You don’t have to brag¹⁴ about doing something that she does every day.

　　帮助解决房子周围的困难，没有特殊的标志。你不需要吹嘘她每天做她做的事情。

　　19.Be supportive. When she shows that something she wants to do means¹⁵ a lot to her, support her. I wanted to be a writer and told my husband, and see where I am today, writing!

　　支持她。当她说她想做对她而言有意义的事，那就支持她。我想成为一个作家,然后告诉了我丈夫,之后就有了今天的我,在写作的我。

　　20.If she says something is bothering her, don’t ignore it. Talk about it. Small things that stay on your mind, will grow into big things that are hard to solve.

　　如果她说她有心事,你不要忽略。和她交流交流。现在在你心里是小事情,以后将会变成很难解决的大事。

　　21. Work on yourself. Everyone changes over time. When she mentions some behavior that she doesn’t appreciate, show her you are trying to improve on it.

　　为了自己而努力。每个人都随着时间而改变。当她提到的某些行为是她不喜欢的,那就告诉她你想改。

　　22. Surprise her. Give her a lovely card or letter. Show up with flowers. Buy her that bracelet¹⁶ she wanted. Anything small is good. Surprises are what keep your relationship alive.

　　让她惊讶。给她一个可爱的卡片或信件。送鲜花。给她买她想要的手镯。什么小东西都可以。惊喜会让你们的感情变得有活力。

　　23. When in a relaxed state, make her comfortable. For example, when watching tv, sit close and cuddle her or hold her hand.

　　当她在一个放松的状态时会让她舒服。例如,在看电视的时候坐近一点,抱着她或握住她的手。

　　24. Let her know you think of her when you are not together, by texting or calling.

　　让她知道你和她没在一起的时候可以通过发短信或者打电话让她知道你是想她的。

　　25. Be pro-active. If she notices that you are trying the best you can at all times, she will respect you for that.

　　态度是积极的。如果她发现你一直在尝试着做最好的你自己,那样她会尊重你。

 

1 granted   

conj.假定，就算v.（退一步）承认( grant的过去式和过去分词 )；（尤指正式地或法律上）同意；准许；让渡

参考例句：

• The president granted a general amnesty for all political prisoners. 总统大赦了所有的政治犯。
• She feared she would not be granted re-entry into Britain. 她担心不会获准再次踏足英伦。

2 respectfully   

adv.恭敬地；此致敬礼

参考例句：

• People respectfully called him the venerable Zhu.人们尊称他为朱老。
• We respectfully request your guidance.敬祈指导。

3 compliment   

n.[pl.]问候，致意；n./v. 称赞，恭维

参考例句：

• The manager paid her a compliment on her work.经理赞扬了她的工作。
• Your presence is a great compliment.承蒙光临，不胜荣幸。

4 specific   

adj.明确的；具体的；特定的

参考例句：

• The money is to be used for specific purposes.这笔钱有专门用途。
• We haven't fixed a specific date for our meeting.我们会议的具体日期还没有定下来。

5 grudge   

n.不满，怨恨，妒嫉；vt.勉强给，不情愿做

参考例句：

• I grudge paying so much for such inferior goods.我不愿花这么多钱买次品。
• I do not grudge him his success.我不嫉妒他的成功。

6 toward   

prep.对于，关于，接近，将近，向，朝

参考例句：

• Suddenly I saw a tall figure approaching toward the policeman.突然间我看到一个高大的身影朝警察靠近。
• Upon seeing her,I smiled and ran toward her. 看到她我笑了，并跑了过去。

7 massage   

n.按摩，揉；vt.按摩，揉，美化，奉承，篡改数据

参考例句：

• He is really quite skilled in doing massage.他的按摩技术确实不错。
• Massage helps relieve the tension in one's muscles.按摩可使僵硬的肌肉松弛。

8 respond   

vi.回答，响应

参考例句：

• I offered him a drink but he did not respond.我请他喝酒，但他未作回答。
• I greeted him but he didn't respond.我跟他打招呼，他没答理我。

9 annoyed   

adj.烦恼的，恼怒的，生气的，恼火的

参考例句：

• I imagine she was pretty annoyed when she found out.我想她发现此事后一定很生气。
• He was annoyed with complaints made from outside.他因外界的种种怨言而感到烦恼。

10 discus   

n.铁饼，掷铁饼比赛

参考例句：

• He was the first place in the discus throw.他掷铁饼获得第一名。
• I see Britain did well in the discus.我看英国队在铁饼项目中表现不错。

11 distracted   

a.注意力分散的，思想不集中的

参考例句：

• When working, one should concentrate and not allow oneself to be distracted. 工作时要集中精力，不要分心。
• Noise outside distracted her mind from her studies. 门外的噪音使她心神不宁，无法集中注意力学习。

12 deodorant   

adj.除臭的；n.除臭剂

参考例句：

• She applies deodorant to her armpits after she showers.沐浴后，她在腋下涂上除臭剂。
• Spray deodorant and keep the silk garments dry before dressing.在穿衣之前，洒涂防臭剂并保持干燥。

13 recognition   

n.承认，认可，认出，认识

参考例句：

• The place has changed beyond recognition.这地方变得认不出来了。
• A sudden smile of recognition flashed across his face.他脸上掠过一丝笑意，表示认识对方。

14 brag   

v./n.吹牛，自夸；adj.第一流的

参考例句：

• He made brag of his skill.他夸耀自己技术高明。
• His wealth is his brag.他夸张他的财富。

15 means   

n.方法，手段，折中点，物质财富

参考例句：

• That man used artful means to find out secrets.那人使用狡猾的手段获取机密。
• We must get it done by some means or other.我们总得想办法把它干完。

16 bracelet   

n.手镯，臂镯

参考例句：

• The jeweler charges lots of money to set diamonds in a bracelet.珠宝匠要很多钱才肯把钻石镶在手镯上。
• She left her gold bracelet as a pledge.她留下她的金手镯作抵押品。